Tyler Posted April 30, 2004 Share Posted April 30, 2004 I'm so lonely that it hurts ! I mean I tried everything like Internet match making thing, and talking with women around me, I can't afford to go to night clubs these days and there is no real social clubs around here in Sharm like the ones I used to back in Cairo, I'm tired from being alone, I just met a girl and went with her out couple of times but she has a boyfriend and it looks that I wont see her again anyway since she is traveling today, well, this basically is the summary of my dates for this year ! What should I do ? please nobody talks about the "love hits u when least expected" myth because I don't believe in that [ since I tried this theory] does any one have anything that can help ? Link to post Share on other sites
come on I'm nick Posted April 30, 2004 Share Posted April 30, 2004 Hi Tyler. You know, the whole of my life experience gave me completely different thing to "love hits u when least expected" too. The result of my thinking about that is to become very interested in some area. For example you should become very interested in swimming. You visit a group of interest in swimming. If you're good in something you've chosen girls will come to you themselves. But don't expect it. If you stand near pretty girl you shouldn't show her that you're taking her as a pretty girl you'd like to have something with. You should take her as a human being. Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted April 30, 2004 Share Posted April 30, 2004 I don't think anybody can really appreciate the depression of loneliness unless they've experienced it for themselves. I'm single myself, and have been for a long time. I'm attractive and have never really had any problems getting the girl, but somehow with work and all, I just don't get to meet new people, and I think, for a guy, to go around to nightclubs just to trawl for women, well, that's just creepy. I'm a very serious, internally focused person, and that is also not exactly a babe-magnet. Oh, sure it's keeps them there, it just doesn't attract them. Most of my relationships have been based on physicality, and of course doomed to faliure because of it. My kind of girl is probably also sitting at home on the weekends, because for women to go around to nightclubs and trawl for men, well, that's just creepy I can't really help you get the girl, there is no recipe for it, it either happens or it doesn't. The most important lesson to learn, is that happiness is an inside job, and that your success as a human being is not measured by success in the social roles that are superimposed upon us. You are your own best friend, and that is the most important thing. Don't fool yourself with the kind of pseudo-inspirational bulls*** sophistry like "every pot has it's lid", "many other fishes in the sea and so on". A sense of entitlement in love is the worst kind. LIVE your life, and be happy with yourself, and if fate decides to smile on you, so be it. I've learnt this lesson, and by embracing it, I've liberated myself from the need to have someone in my life. Of course, I love women, and I love the interaction with them, but in a way now I cherish my freedom. I've realised that I just cannot be beholden to another for my decisions in life. Whether that reflects poorly as to my commitment to commitment, is a matter of opinion. What I am terrified of, though, is that I'm perhaps merely rationalising my general failure at relationships away in this manner. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tyler Posted May 8, 2004 Author Share Posted May 8, 2004 I'm back guys! Well, first of all, thanks a lot for ur answers, I really appreciate that So, why was I that late? Well, in the same day I wrote this thread, I met a girl! well, it was strange but happened, so, what happened was that I went out of the internet cafe and as I was standing out I found this girl standing there, so we started to talk, and end up exchanging phone numbers, at first date she had a boyfriend and I met the guy !! and in the second date they broke up and he was "suppose" to leave the house, [she was here for just 12 days, and they rented the place together] and in our third and last date just the day b4 she was leaving, I sent to her telling her to take care of my heart that she already have with her, she sent back that we r just friends! Anyway, we now exchanged emails as well after she went back to her country with a promise that we will meet again on August. And now, I'm lonely again! But at least not as I used to be, so, what do u think guys, do u think that I moved too fast? What do u think about the whole thing? Thanks again guys Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted May 10, 2004 Share Posted May 10, 2004 Considering that your time was limited, I think you did fine. Link to post Share on other sites
come on I'm nick Posted May 11, 2004 Share Posted May 11, 2004 Hey, not bad buddy! I think you're getting out of being lonely. The most important think is that it's got started, so I think everything will work out step by step. Link to post Share on other sites
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