The BS from hell!

[happywithme]

I think rejection is a painful thing, and of course adds to the BS's discomfort. And rightly so I'd say, they are upset with very good reason.

 

Something else I've noticed on this board. A lot of the OW's, at least the really kind of creepy aggressive ones, have this contest thing going in where it is like they are thinking victory at any cost is still victory and I feel great about it not matter the pain my victory has caused. I guess its left over from being treated badly when they are little or something, but it seems to be kind of a painful way to live. And then when there MM leaves of betrays or whatever them, I wonder if they are going to get really hurt or if they will just run out and have a victory somewhere else.

[bentnotbroken]

Well, do uncharitable thoughts count?

 

 

Naughty boy.

[bentnotbroken]

Really? Is name calling necessary? I honestly hope the wife gets her share of the money and what she deserves of the marital assets and then moves on with her life without all this garbage and mess that will be left behind her. In the meantime ladies you can call it how you like until you find yourselves wearing the shoes of a BS. Best of luck to you both!

 

 

When you got nothing...name calling is the fallback guy. Just like in middle school.

[MissBee]

I think rejection is a painful thing, and of course adds to the BS's discomfort. And rightly so I'd say, they are upset with very good reason.

 

Something else I've noticed on this board. A lot of the OW's, at least the really kind of creepy aggressive ones, have this contest thing going in where it is like they are thinking victory at any cost is still victory and I feel great about it not matter the pain my victory has caused. I guess its left over from being treated badly when they are little or something, but it seems to be kind of a painful way to live. And then when there MM leaves of betrays or whatever them, I wonder if they are going to get really hurt or if they will just run out and have a victory somewhere else.

 

Happy, the way you phrase things absolutely cracks me up

 

Well you're a newbie OW...and don't have "jaded eyes" or perhaps you will be accused of being brainwashed in your short time here...but your assessment of what you see, in your short stint here...well...speaks for itself.

 

Anyway, I'm not sure what advise daisy was supposed to be given, since she said her MM asked her to mind her own business and from that point, everyone more or less agreed with his request as the sensible choice in a no doubt tumultuous time. She can support him without being so concerned about his wife or giving him suggestions he obviously doesn't appreciate. He knows she's there and no doubt if he wants her suggestions he knows exactly where she is to ask. But apparently that advise was malicious....sooo I suppose telling her to ignore his request and continue pushing for him to do XYZ and fight her baby's battle against the evil BS for him and make sure she knows who's boss in the divorce proceedings, would be more appropriate?

[TurboGirl]

*sigh* This is why this place sucks. Every body sees what they want to see. Every body ordered me to but out. Silly_Girl recognized that I have a choice in the matter and was nice to tell me how things might go if I made that choice. Please point out where she told me to butt out. She could said that I would be better off to do that but she didn't mandate it. Do you understand now?

 

Daisy, you must be very young, because I don't see any maturity in your posts. You posted here for input - and if everyone tells you to butt out (well... except one person) and listen to your "baby" it annoys you that we don't tell you what you want to hear? Look back and read some of the posts... try & be objective.

 

I don't think you have a clue about what marriage is really all about. If you had one shred of decency, you would back off of your M and his estranged spouse... ending a M is a BIG DEAL even if they have been separated and even if your "baby" lives with you. It is not all about money. The woman LOVED HIM and they took vows, honor, cherish, etc. It is painful for her - and I would bet a bit painful for him, because he has to deal with his stbxw and an OW who is nagging him.

Daisy it is NOT about you. Their M was about them. Let them have some dignity.

[Angelina527]

Who said I'm not happy? I'm REAL happy all the time unless SHE is the subject! I don't even care if she's the subject but she upsets my baby so much. I love my sweet man and I want things to go easy for him and I want to help him however I can! What's wrong with that? Aren't there any OW here who are married now that can help me?

 

Yep, as a now married OW, i can help. Mind your own business. Their marriage, the end of it, and the settlements are not your concern.

 

I stayed completely out of my husband's divorce because it was between the two of them, NOT me, and I STILL don't know what their financial settlement was and I don't care because it wasn't my business.

 

So listen when he tells you to back off. And she doesn't sound like the BS from hell, just like a normal woman who is fighting for what is rightfully hers. Just wait until her stupid lawyer finds out about all of the hidden money!

[bentnotbroken]

Daisy, you must be very young, because I don't see any maturity in your posts. You posted here for input - and if everyone tells you to butt out (well... except one person) and listen to your "baby" it annoys you that we don't tell you what you want to hear? Look back and read some of the posts... try & be objective.

 

I don't think you have a clue about what marriage is really all about. If you had one shred of decency, you would back off of your M and his estranged spouse... ending a M is a BIG DEAL even if they have been separated and even if your "baby" lives with you. It is not all about money. The woman LOVED HIM and they took vows, honor, cherish, etc. It is painful for her - and I would bet a bit painful for him, because he has to deal with his stbxw and an OW who is nagging him.

Daisy it is NOT about you. Their M was about them. Let them have some dignity.

 

 

You got to know what the word means to be able to allow it as part of your life. Sad isn't it?

[MissBee]

Daisy, you must be very young, because I don't see any maturity in your posts. You posted here for input - and if everyone tells you to butt out (well... except one person) and listen to your "baby" it annoys you that we don't tell you what you want to hear? Look back and read some of the posts... try & be objective.

I don't think you have a clue about what marriage is really all about. If you had one shred of decency, you would back off of your M and his estranged spouse... ending a M is a BIG DEAL even if they have been separated and even if your "baby" lives with you. It is not all about money. The woman LOVED HIM and they took vows, honor, cherish, etc. It is painful for her - and I would bet a bit painful for him, because he has to deal with his stbxw and an OW who is nagging him.

Daisy it is NOT about you. Their M was about them. Let them have some dignity.

 

I concur....

 

Perhaps Loni or other OW who saw their MM through the divorce can mentor Daisy, although from their stories, it seems their advice would be nothing revolutionary from what has already been said.

[MissBee]

Yep, as a now married OW, i can help. Mind your own business. Their marriage, the end of it, and the settlements are not your concern.

 

I stayed completely out of my husband's divorce because it was between the two of them, NOT me, and I STILL don't know what their financial settlement was and I don't care because it wasn't my business.

 

So listen when he tells you to back off. And she doesn't sound like the BS from hell, just like a normal woman who is fighting for what is rightfully hers. Just wait until her stupid lawyer finds out about all of the hidden money!

 

Wow...I just keep calling things into existence, first daisy, now a fOW turned wife

 

Precisely! You lived through it and have said what most of us have said....and you can't be accused of being jealous or bitter either, since you're happily with your man, so perhaps the SAME advice from you would resonate more.

[bentnotbroken]

Wow...I just keep calling things into existence, first daisy, now a fOW turned wife

 

Precisely! You lived through it and have said what most of us have said....and you can't be accused of being jealous or bitter either, since you're happily with your man, so perhaps the SAME advice from you would resonate more.

 

 

Nope. Nothing can resonate when you are running around with your fingers in your ears while singing LaLaLaLa and calling the BS a female dog.

[MissBee]

Nope. Nothing can resonate when you are running around with your fingers in your ears while singing LaLaLaLa and calling the BS a female dog.

 

Wellll....I wish Daisy luck then, as an inkling tells me she'll have bigger fish to fry sooner or later. I hope she fares well and I do not wish to exchange places with her.

[daisy love]

Daisy, you must be very young, because I don't see any maturity in your posts. You posted here for input - and if everyone tells you to butt out (well... except one person) and listen to your "baby" it annoys you that we don't tell you what you want to hear? Look back and read some of the posts... try & be objective.

 

I don't think you have a clue about what marriage is really all about. If you had one shred of decency, you would back off of your M and his estranged spouse... ending a M is a BIG DEAL even if they have been separated and even if your "baby" lives with you. It is not all about money. The woman LOVED HIM and they took vows, honor, cherish, etc. It is painful for her - and I would bet a bit painful for him, because he has to deal with his stbxw and an OW who is nagging him.

Daisy it is NOT about you. Their M was about them. Let them have some dignity.

How is wanting to make life easier for someone I love all about me?

[MissBee]

How is wanting to make life easier for someone I love all about me?

 

Daisy...you said the BS was making YOUR life miserable and what should you do....your initial post seemed to be you whining, and even your MM seemed to be replying to you as though you were just whining...so pardon people for thinking that you were unhappy about the whole thing because of it's effect on YOUR life and not that you were asking about what your MM should do or how you can alleviate his pain.

 

My lover man told W that he wanted a D and he laid forth a VERY GENEROUS settlement.At first, BS said they wold get a D over her dead body. Then my love told her he could make that happen and then her attitude changed and she got real sweet. Then she wanted to try to fix everything and my love told her to get out of town. Then she acted like she didn't care and we thought that everything was going to be real good.Now she's being really passive aggressive and acting like a total b*itch. She will call him on the phone and be all nicey nice and try to talk about old times and crap and agree to what he says, and then she will have her lawyer send him some stupid thing over the settlement! Like she told him she agreed to his terms on keeping the house. He told her she could keep the house and it was this many dollars in value. She said ok to him on the phone. Then her stupid lawyer send him notice that it's not ok and she wants more! He will talk to her on the phone about it, and she's all sweet as pie again!I told him a whole lot of times to STOP TALKING to her! He should let his lawyers take care of everything cuz that's what he paid them for you know? But he insists on talking to her and try to get her to make nice and go away. But then he gets all upset again and real grumpy! I suggested again sweetly with a kiss that he GO NC and he was real pissed about everything and he told me to mind my own business.What should I do?? She is making my life MISERABLE!!

[daisy love]

Yep, as a now married OW, i can help. Mind your own business. Their marriage, the end of it, and the settlements are not your concern.

 

I stayed completely out of my husband's divorce because it was between the two of them, NOT me, and I STILL don't know what their financial settlement was and I don't care because it wasn't my business.

 

So listen when he tells you to back off. And she doesn't sound like the BS from hell, just like a normal woman who is fighting for what is rightfully hers. Just wait until her stupid lawyer finds out about all of the hidden money!

Thanks. It's very hard because I love him and we live together. It's not like I can, as bentnotbroken says, put my fingers in my ears and go LALALALA I can't hear you when someone I love comes home upset after tending to her gameplaying. I don't blame her for going after her end, but he's been more than generous with her.

 

There are no hidden funds. We decided that we would rather be together legitimately than do that. It will cost him more money, but he says it's worth it.

[daisy love]

Pureinheart and LilyBart, Thank you for your posts! Thank you for seeing that I can't just abandon the person I love the most when he needs me.

[MissBee]

If you want to help, sex him up, give him a massage, be a listening ear, take him on a trip, buy him something nice, cook him a nice dinner, tell him you're there to listen, express that you're sorry for what he is going through but remind him that it will all be worth it in the end when he can 100% be with you and put the past behind him.....

 

Those things have a better chance of helping than telling him to stop talking to her, or deciding whether or not you can be a bigger bitch than her, or whining about her ruining your life or any type of trying to call the shots in their situation.

[ladydesigner]

Thanks. It's very hard because I love him and we live together. It's not like I can, as bentnotbroken says, put my fingers in my ears and go LALALALA I can't hear you when someone I love comes home upset after tending to her gameplaying. I don't blame her for going after her end, but he's been more than generous with her.

 

There are no hidden funds. We decided that we would rather be together legitimately than do that. It will cost him more money, but he says it's worth it.

 

 

Well then all you can do is wait for the legal process to be over. The best thing to be for him right now is a good listener. The last thing he probably wants is to be told what to do. Just be yourself and be there for him through thick and thin. That is all you can really do as these are their marital issues that need to be completed and resolved.

[summerdowling87]

The other OW. I would expect more understanding from an OW. Maybe she's jealous that my baby will soon make me a W and fOW?

 

Good luck I mean since he treats his current wife so well

[fooled once]

I have an idea. Since telling him what to do didn't get you anywhere (rarely does), why not just ask him how you can be most helpful?

 

Did you also sit in his lap and bat your eyelashes? Who knows, maybe your "man" is into that.

 

this made me laugh

 

That's ok...from what I've seen of this box of light bulbs overall, I don't think the MM is gonna be worried overly much about his electric bill in any case.

 

Just bear in mind, you can't control him, or how he reacts to what she's doing.

 

You can't control her, or how she reacts to this whole situation.

 

All you can do is control you, and how you respond to everything.

 

You can either respond with class and style...or choose to do otherwise. That choice is entirely yours alone to make.

 

Great post owl

 

Please consider the source of this "advise" and the objectivity. I think rejection does unusual things to people unfortunately.

 

Pure is there a reason you come here and take swipes at people? We know you hate it here and come only to stir the pot (your words)... why not just stay away instead of making these comments? How did you feel when you were rejected by the xSMM or xDMM? Were you objective when he dumped you?

[Silly_Girl]

Having only read to this post, I must chime in. SG, I respectfully disagree. I do think some BS come here with their agenda and perhaps a chip on their shoulders. I don't always agree, but what ev, they can have their say. But reading this thread, it's no wonder really. The lack of regard miss Daisy Love shows for this woman who oh by the way, was/is married to your pathetic lover boy is not only immature, but cruel.

 

Daisy is pissed that the BS is acting like a bit_h and ruing her good time, it's laughable. The immaturity at believing this was going to be some walk in the park is very telling and I bet her lover boy is getting a glimpse of exactly the life he's in for should he choose to stay with you once this is all over.

 

Daisy, you signed up for this by agreeing to be his mattress in the affair. Perhaps a mirror would be helpful when you start calling other's the bit_h.

 

Back to reading...

 

WN, I assure you I'm aware of the feel of the thread. And the others. I genuinely believe my comment was borne out though, given the responses I got. But in a wider aspect I'm not blind to what others are seeing/feeling.

[dreamingoftigers]

I didn't in the least bit 'cry to you', just thought you had more about you, that's all.

 

Not YOU "you"

 

General you.

 

Like "you shouldn't pee into the wind."

 

Not suggesting that YOU peed into the wind, but more saying: peeing into to wind is not a productive idea.

 

Apologies for seeming to personal.

[TurboGirl]

How is wanting to make life easier for someone I love all about me?

 

 

Your thread is entitled "BS from hell!" and you talk about how SHE is making your life miserable! :lmao:

 

Your MM asked you to butt out... don't you respect him enough to honor his request? If your M asked you to butt out, that is what he wants you to do! That is what would make his life easier! :bunny:

 

Ending his M is about HIM and his WIFE, which you are not at this point, dear. Your MM is still married to the BS, remember? you are not part of that equation, no matter how you wish to assert yourself into it.

[LilyBart]

Ending his M is about HIM and his WIFE, which you are not at this point, dear. Your MM is still married to the BS, remember? you are not part of that equation, no matter how you wish to assert yourself into it.

 

The BW is being a b*tch - playing Good Cop in person and letting the lawyer be Bad Cop. The situation is affecting Daisy's life and the life of the man she loves. Daisy doesn't like it. These are the facts of her life. I think Daisy is entitled to share her opinions.

 

And LOL! :lmao:

 

So basically when it's "just" an A people will say the OW are "inserting" themselves into the M (hidden of course unless there is a D-day) yet, once the man decides to get rid of to stbxW....all the sudden it becomes "you're not part of the equation"?

 

Get real! Of course the OW is "part of the equation" - otherwise the MM wouldn't be divorcing.....now would he?

 

So why don't we all put on our big-girl panties and just admit that this is what makes so many "non-OWs" on this board SO ANGRY? That their man preferred someone else, whether it was for a short while or whether it was forever?

[bentnotbroken]

The BW is being a b*tch - playing Good Cop in person and letting the lawyer be Bad Cop. The situation is affecting Daisy's life and the life of the man she loves. Daisy doesn't like it. These are the facts of her life. I think Daisy is entitled to share her opinions.

 

And LOL! :lmao:

 

So basically when it's "just" an A people will say the OW are "inserting" themselves into the M (hidden of course unless there is a D-day) yet, once the man decides to get rid of to stbxW....all the sudden it becomes "you're not part of the equation"?

 

Get real! Of course the OW is "part of the equation" - otherwise the MM wouldn't be divorcing.....now would he?

 

So why don't we all put on our big-girl panties and just admit that this is what makes so many "non-OWs" on this board SO ANGRY? That their man preferred someone else, whether it was for a short while or whether it was forever?

 

 

I can't speak for anyone else but what makes me LMAO about this situation in particular is that I have read the majority of Daisy's posts and not one time did they read like the post of any thing other than "My teen years at High School High". Her posts bring me great amusement. I am blessed mr. messy preferred someone else. His money preferred me and that makes me even happier. :lmao::lmao:

[TurboGirl]

The BW is being a b*tch - playing Good Cop in person and letting the lawyer be Bad Cop. The situation is affecting Daisy's life and the life of the man she loves. Daisy doesn't like it. These are the facts of her life. I think Daisy is entitled to share her opinions.

 

And LOL! :lmao:

 

So basically when it's "just" an A people will say the OW are "inserting" themselves into the M (hidden of course unless there is a D-day) yet, once the man decides to get rid of to stbxW....all the sudden it becomes "you're not part of the equation"?

 

Get real! Of course the OW is "part of the equation" - otherwise the MM wouldn't be divorcing.....now would he?

 

So why don't we all put on our big-girl panties and just admit that this is what makes so many "non-OWs" on this board SO ANGRY? That their man preferred someone else, whether it was for a short while or whether it was forever?

 

 

The point is the MM asked Daisy to butt out! Did you read her post?

Maybe the man wants to at least end his M with a bit of dignity, and I suspect he is tired of Daisy's whining. There are ways to handle situations with class and respect, and butting out when one is asked to butt out, is one of them.

 

AND FYI, Daisy only knows what her prince charming, her "love" :lmao: tells her about the situation. Of course he will paint the BS as a Biatch. Well... that is, unless Daisy is meeting with the lawyers too, and listening in on phone conversations on both sides and literally living like a fly on the wall of her MM's Wife's house, that is.

 

Oh, and don't be so quick to pass judgment who is a BS or an OW. I am a fOW and entitled to my opinion too.