Sadcakeleo Posted April 30, 2004 Share Posted April 30, 2004 I broke up with my ex about one year ago. We were together for five and a half years. Since the break up I was seeing a girl for about 8 months and me and her have recently just broke up. My ex has been seeing this guy for 8 months too but she is still with him. Anyways we never really talked, we kept in touch but not too much maybe like once a month through email. A couple of times I saw her but only like twice. After Easter things became different. I dropped off an Easter card at her house and me and her have been great since. We talk everyday about our past relationship, our current ones, or about nothing in general. When we broke up she changed her number but now she calls me all the time from work and her own number. Lately I have also been hanging out with her friends which I never did when we were together. Also I have spent the night at her house at least 2 or 3 times a week. Nothing goes on, we just chill, watch TV and sleep in the same bed. In the morning she leaves early for school and every time before she leaves she asks for a kiss on the lips. Sometimes there's a little messing around but nothing major at all. My problem is I don't know if it's best to continue what we are doing or for me to stop talking to her. Like I said I just got out of a recent relationship. I was cheated on for the first time, so I'm taking it pretty bad. My ex has been here for me more than anybody and its very comforting. We never talked about getting back together or anything but it seems like we spend alot of time together. I know she has a man but it does not bother me like it used to, I love my ex but I'm not in love with her and neither is she. I'll admit though spending all this time with her and having fun is starting to get to me again, I'm starting to like her and she might be to i dun-no. So what should I do?obviously she has a man and I am getting out of a relationship so logically thinking it would be best not to talk to her but I don't know because I am having fun talking to her and we are enjoying each other's company and it is making it easier for me to get over my last relationship. Is it possible for us to be best friends, I know we still care for each other and sometimes we still get jealous but its okay right? I would not mind getting with her again in the future but not right now and she has a man anyways. Any help or advice on what to do would be appreciated. It's like I am playing with fire because of our history together but I don't want to get burned but yet Its helping me get over my previous burn. Link to post Share on other sites
Tiger-Lily Posted May 1, 2004 Share Posted May 1, 2004 The truth of the matter is you are going to get hurt if you and your ex don't put boundaries on the relationship you both share. You have to define the relationship and stick within the boundary lines (you can not be friends with benefits, someone will get hurt real bad). It is always tempting to get back into the comfort zone, but in the long run it is not worth it, you would be mending two broken hearts. Best of luck! Link to post Share on other sites
soccorsilly Posted May 1, 2004 Share Posted May 1, 2004 You two need to determine where you are and where you both want to go. Sounds to me like there is still some attraction on both ends--- How does her boyfriend feel about you sharing her bed two to three times a week? Link to post Share on other sites
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