Rorschach64 Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 (edited) Ex finacee broke up with me about a month ago I guess, been NC for maybe 5 weeks plus or minus the contact I have had with her to work out getting my laptop back, the execuse from one arguement, this would have been our very first fight in a 2 year relationship everything was perfect about our relationship, of her accusing me of cheating, to me accusing her of cheating because her friend told me she said she is seeing someone else already, to clearing my name of cheating then her saying she doesn't want to work things out because there is too much hurt and this is similar to her past relationships but different. I am a dumpee of GIGs essentially. Today... I just moved in to my dorm on campus and I do not know anyone here and I am feeling pretty lonely, down, want to cry but...can't. Wish she would come back and realize her mistake but she isn't probably going to...just wanted to vent a little bit there. Thanks for listening. Edited August 12, 2011 by Rorschach64 Link to post Share on other sites
antinko Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 Go out and try meeting people. You're at university, so it's an excellent opportunity for a fresh new start. Honestly, don't lock yourself away in your dorm. Get out there! Link to post Share on other sites
Nohbody Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 I'm looking forward to the semester to start so I will have something ELSE to think about and worry about. Give yourself time, and don't be afraid to feel your feelings. Focus on yourself, all that cliche advice you've read somewhere else. You WILL be ok. Link to post Share on other sites
FinOuch Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 I was pretty much exactly where you are at the beginning of the summer. (well, except for I wasn't even close to engaged, and there wasn't even a fight to trigger the lame dumping...but w/e) Try to stay busy until classes start, and then when they do load yourself up and pour all of your energy into it. It takes time. Adding staying busy and focused on something with positive, forward progression really does do wonders. A couple/few months from now you'll look back on this moment and not even recognize yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rorschach64 Posted August 12, 2011 Author Share Posted August 12, 2011 Thanks guys Guess going through Human A&P 2 will definately keep me busy. Mostly looking forward to my very soon deployment, first one too yay. Link to post Share on other sites
california15 Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 if this is your first big argument in 2 years, and she bailed instead of sticking around and trying to work through it and learn from it to better the relationship, then consider yourself lucky. You don't want someone who is gunna run the first time a disagreement happens. You don't want a fair-weathered woman who sticks around only when you guys get along. Because I guarentee you, arguements will happen in marriage, which is even a bigger commitment than an engagement (not saying that engagement isn't a big commitment). Some couples argue more than others, but regardless, they're going to happen at some point. Even an argument that is as serious as accusing another of infidelity, I think thats something to take time and get to the truth/bottom of, as it is a potentially relationship-ending issue. relationships need the occasional disagreement to grow and learn from as a couple together, just MHO Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rorschach64 Posted August 12, 2011 Author Share Posted August 12, 2011 I totally agree Cali! As Wilsonx put it, due to her GIGs-ness, interested in someone else, and due to her cold and distant behavior when I last saw her, she was on her way out....and came up with a stupid excuse to pop smoke on me. Though she thought she was doing me a service by saying "If I didn't care and love you I wouldn't have stuck around and wanted to be friends!" That was before I accused of her cheating on me, now she won't even try to talk to me but instead puts up pictures that I have taken of her as her profile pictures when we first met up. Childish screw around games. I am glad I deleted her after that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rorschach64 Posted August 14, 2011 Author Share Posted August 14, 2011 (edited) Don't really feel like re-opening a new thread and reposting same info My ex fiancee has my laptop still and it has been over a month and she sits on yahoo IM using my laptop a decent amount but claims she is way too busy to even send it back of late. Should I even bother confronting her about this? This might just serve to reinforce her stance that I am a bad person or an *******, any opinions as if I should just nag at her about returning the laptop or should I just leave her be and just hope she says she will do what she says? Edited August 14, 2011 by Rorschach64 Link to post Share on other sites
FinOuch Posted August 15, 2011 Share Posted August 15, 2011 Don't really feel like re-opening a new thread and reposting same info My ex fiancee has my laptop still and it has been over a month and she sits on yahoo IM using my laptop a decent amount but claims she is way too busy to even send it back of late. Should I even bother confronting her about this? This might just serve to reinforce her stance that I am a bad person or an *******, any opinions as if I should just nag at her about returning the laptop or should I just leave her be and just hope she says she will do what she says? Omg I wouldn't be able to STAND leaving my laptop with an ex. And my laptop is fairly inexpensive, and I have a kick *ss home PC. My lappy though...ugh. For some reason that is one of those items I just think of as mine mine mine! Non-negotiable. I wouldn't be able to tolerate leaving it behind, especially knowing it's being used by the ex. Who cares what she thinks. Get your laptop back. There is NO excuse for not returning it. Link to post Share on other sites
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