alexa137 Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 wasnt sure what forum to put this under but my questions is: How do you hurt a man feelings? never in my life, dealing with my and my friends man issues and problems have i ever heard a man said they got their feelings hurt, or they cried over a woman, or they talk how we talk about how we miss a guy, wish they would call and give second chance etc..... so would like input especially from men on what will hurt a man feelings??????????????????????????? Link to post Share on other sites
Jake99 Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 wasnt sure what forum to put this under but my questions is: How do you hurt a man feelings? never in my life, dealing with my and my friends man issues and problems have i ever heard a man said they got their feelings hurt, or they cried over a woman, or they talk how we talk about how we miss a guy, wish they would call and give second chance etc..... so would like input especially from men on what will hurt a man feelings??????????????????????????? Cheat on him! Link to post Share on other sites
Severely Unamused Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 wasnt sure what forum to put this under but my questions is: How do you hurt a man feelings? never in my life, dealing with my and my friends man issues and problems have i ever heard a man said they got their feelings hurt, or they cried over a woman, or they talk how we talk about how we miss a guy, wish they would call and give second chance etc..... so would like input especially from men on what will hurt a man feelings??????????????????????????? Find something that they are emotionally connected to and subvert and break it. Find a flaw in their personality on play on it. Find a person that they are close to, and break up that relationship. That is how you hurt anybody. Although in your case, it doesn't sound like those guys cared much for you anyway. What are you intending on doing exactly? I don't actually recommend doing any of this, but you did ask... Link to post Share on other sites
Graceful Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 wasnt sure what forum to put this under but my questions is: How do you hurt a man feelings? never in my life, dealing with my and my friends man issues and problems have i ever heard a man said they got their feelings hurt, or they cried over a woman, or they talk how we talk about how we miss a guy, wish they would call and give second chance etc..... so would like input especially from men on what will hurt a man feelings??????????????????????????? Why are you asking exactly? Do you want to hurt someone who has hurt you? Or are you just asking out of curiosity? Men don't typically talk about their feelings in mixed company as openly as women do. That does not mean their feelings don't get hurt the same way a woman's feelings get hurt. If you read this board, you will see that men get hurt, believe me, and for all the same reasons women get hurt. Hurt feelings are not gender specific, you know. Not by a long shot. Link to post Share on other sites
Dblock10 Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 i feel like a woman now. knowing the vast majority of men dont talk about their feelings. i guess i'm just very in touch with my emotions (: Link to post Share on other sites
lovesickmonkey Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 I think it's silly. This forum is full of men who have had their feelings severely hurt. I've lost my summer and it looks like I'll be hurting well into the fall and may be hurting too much to date anytime soon. Here's how: 1. Have a man fall in love with you, lock, stock and barrel. 2. Spend every minute of your time with him. 3. Frequently say, "I love you," thus reassuring him. 4. Suggest you marry. 5. Say yes when he proposes. 6. With no warning whatsoever, say it is over, that you never loved him, that he doesn't turn you on, that you would like to be friends. Simple! His feelings will be not just hurt but critically injured and probably permanently disfigured. Link to post Share on other sites
Nohbody Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 Hit him very hard with a baseball bat. Everything else said is true, too. Link to post Share on other sites
Diatribes Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 1. Have a man fall in love with you, lock, stock and barrel. 2. Spend every minute of your time with him. 3. Frequently say, "I love you," thus reassuring him. 6. With no warning whatsoever, say it is over, that you never loved him, act like he doesn't turn you on, that you wouldn't like to be friends. Simple! His feelings will be not just hurt but critically injured and probably permanently disfigured. Wow, so close on the mark to my recent break up it's scary! The only difference is we never talked marriage, and the changes I made in bold. Some women are just cruel hearted animals. People who do this to others have issues, and we're better off without them in our lives. Heal on! There's people out there that will treat you better. Not all women have these lack of morals or consideration of how their actions make others feel. Link to post Share on other sites
lovesickmonkey Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 So, as Diatribes has implied: It's not hard to hurt a man's feelings if you have no compassion, no courage, no human decency, no emotional maturity. If you have these things, you may find it more difficult. Link to post Share on other sites
wilsonx Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 Oh us guys get hurt. Let me tell you, I shed some tears in the gym last night while working out and I was trying really hard to keep my composure. Just because we don't show our feelings openly doesnt mean we don't get hurt. Men by nature especially in a relationship are suppose to be the calm in the storm. Some are better then others at it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author alexa137 Posted August 13, 2011 Author Share Posted August 13, 2011 no i dont want to hurt anyone right now because the person that hurt me no longer contacts me since he just decided to stop 2 weeks ago, just want to know in the future because ive been hurt so many times that i think its my turn to do the hurting, but wasnt sure how, because thats just not me! women have so many more feelings and emotions its ridiculous! it just hurts to know that someone you talked to everyday and saw alot and did alot of things for 3 months just decides to stop contacting you. its fridaynight, im single and bored, fridays are the worst because that was a day we spent a lot of time together, having dinner, watching a movie having a drink and now im home alone bored just taking notes for the future Link to post Share on other sites
Ginger Beer Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 wasnt sure what forum to put this under but my questions is: How do you hurt a man feelings? never in my life, dealing with my and my friends man issues and problems have i ever heard a man said they got their feelings hurt, or they cried over a woman, or they talk how we talk about how we miss a guy, wish they would call and give second chance etc..... so would like input especially from men on what will hurt a man feelings??????????????????????????? Men are the same as women. We get our feelings hurt and we miss or exes and we cry over stuff, when we do it we can't really cry to anyone so we do it by ourselves. All men have feelings, we're not freaks. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 we cry over stuff, when we do it we can't really cry to anyone so we do it by ourselves. Speak for yourself .. Funerals are about the only place I'll cry.. well there has been a movie or two but that doesn't count.. I will say that I have feelings and those can be hurt and sometimes easily.. but the hurt while sometimes might make me fell like I want to cry I won't.. To the OP... Why would anyone want to to hurt another person's feelings... A man's family is his most important valuable asset... think of that as you will.. Link to post Share on other sites
lovesickmonkey Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 Alexa, I see the point you're making. I'm so sorry you're in this situation. Fridays. as you say, are the WORST and here I am suffering through another one. The silence and loneliness are unbearable. And I'm still very, very angry with her. I only wish someone does the same to her some day. I think the best revenge is to be kind to someone -- as many people as you can -- let people know how good kindness feels. And do it when there's nothing to be gained from it. Link to post Share on other sites
Diatribes Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 Alexa, I see the point you're making. I'm so sorry you're in this situation. Fridays. as you say, are the WORST and here I am suffering through another one. The silence and loneliness are unbearable. And I'm still very, very angry with her. I only wish someone does the same to her some day. I think the best revenge is to be kind to someone -- as many people as you can -- let people know how good kindness feels. And do it when there's nothing to be gained from it. Another post from monkey that hits home. Same Friday. Same emotions. My ex flat-out doesn't want anything to do with me though, so I'm kind of envious of the "still want to be friends". My ex blocked my phone number and has rarely contacted me, and shown little to no emotion. Probably for the best in the long run. Just makes me feel inadequate that she wouldn't even want to remain friends. I've always felt like it's the best policy to treat everyone nice, even strangers. Maybe some of that will rub off and have a "trickle down" effect. Then again, I sometimes feel like nice guys finish last.... Hang in there monkey Link to post Share on other sites
lovesickmonkey Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 Thanks Diatribes. She no longer wants to be friends after I begged her to stop asking me and told her to realize how insulting it was. What am I going to do as her friend ... talk about how things are going with the new boyfriend? It's a strange mixture of longing to return to the way things were and at the same time, praying that I never see her again. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 I think it's silly. This forum is full of men who have had their feelings severely hurt. I've lost my summer and it looks like I'll be hurting well into the fall and may be hurting too much to date anytime soon. Here's how: 1. Have a man fall in love with you, lock, stock and barrel. 2. Spend every minute of your time with him. 3. Frequently say, "I love you," thus reassuring him. 4. Suggest you marry. 5. Say yes when he proposes. 6. With no warning whatsoever, say it is over, that you never loved him, that he doesn't turn you on, that you would like to be friends. Simple! His feelings will be not just hurt but critically injured and probably permanently disfigured. Exactly what I thought. Or do what my heartless AC ex did. 1. Dump him out of the blue by text. 2. Insult him to the hilt. The whole breakup is his fault, all 100% of it, your perfect and did NOTHING wrong. 3. Refuse to meet up with him and god forbid actually have a conversation about why you broke up. Why should you? 4. Cut him off completely and never contact him EVER again. Don't even ask if he's ok. Link to post Share on other sites
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