Fools Gold Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 Hey guys gonna make it short and sweet, and wouldnt mind a bit of input, or conscructive critisism if at all possible. Newly broken up - for about two week ish. 7 year relationship ended on account of infidelity. Her finding someone else about a month ago (aparently she wants to marry him - yeah right what a f^&*^(ing joke) Anyway - two quick questions Part 1 Every day without fail get a few texts and messages and at least a phone call per day. Pretty much goes like this. "Are you ok fools gold. I am really worried about you" "Please tell me your ok, havent slept all night thinking about you" Why? My question why? Why do dumpers do s^&t like this, they want nothing to do with you and just want to inflict more pain. Yes were were the best of friends then lovers and for while there just friends again. Yes I lost my best friend and so did she. But why keep harrassing the guy you couldn't commit to? Your choice to leave the best guy in the world, your choice to be with someone else, your choice to lose your best friend. WTF Are these people just sadistic or so clueless about common sense and decency that they literally want to flog a dead horse. Maybe shes not getting it all from the new guy. Hmmmm let me think 7 years, or a month, no **** you lost your best friend, ya think. So my question is what is up with that? Part 2 Been working out like a madman, and i mean a madman, now to be honest at this point its mostly for spite.......lol My question is when does it actually become about having a better me to present to the world rather then spite. Sounds silly but i am seriously running some crazy reps on spite alone, best revenge is looking killer when and if you ever see the ex again. Sounds petty and crazy, yeah i think so too, but so be honest its all too fresh at this point and doing my best to just keep busy and not cry in my milk. Anything to avoid NC anything, i mean anything. Because if i break NC and hear that sultry sirens voice, i will be back to "Baby, im ok, doing my best to get through these tough hours, with my cocoa and sad movie" F&*&k that ****, im with no foolin. MAN THE F^&K UP!!!!!!!!!! Yes I am in a bit of a revengeful rant at the moment, as you can tell.....lol Thoughts??? Link to post Share on other sites
Nohbody Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 Probably to alleviate guilt at this point. Good job remaining out of contact. Spite will carry you for a while, then you will lose some of it and you might stop working out as much... so use it for as long as its helpful to do so, and be ready to get past it when it is time. It sucks, but you are doing well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fools Gold Posted August 12, 2011 Author Share Posted August 12, 2011 (edited) Sorry guys here is the message, with omitted errors, couldnt edit the original so here it is in its entirety. Hey guys gonna make it short and sweet, and wouldnt mind a bit of input, or conscructive criticism if at all possible. Newly broken up - for about two week ish. 7 year relationship ended on account of infidelity. Her finding someone else about a month ago (apparently she wants to marry him - yeah right what a f^&*^(ing joke) Anyway - two quick questions Part 1 Every day without fail get a few texts and messages and at least a phone call per day. Pretty much goes like this. "Are you ok fools gold. I am really worried about you" "Please tell me your ok, been thinking about you today and am concerned" Why? My question why? Why do dumpers do s^&t like this, they want nothing to do with you and just want to inflict more pain. Yes we were the best of friends then lovers and for a while there just friends again. Yes I lost my best friend and so did she. When i say best friend i mean BEST friend, not "Oh my, we dated for six months and he was my best friend" none of that ****. 7 years BEST friend, two years ínto our friendship we started seeing each other as more. So when i mean i lost my best friend that is no joke. But why keep harrassing the guy you couldn't commit to? YOUR choice to leave the best guy in the world, YOUR choice to be with someone else, YOUR choice to lose your best friend. WTF Are these people just sadistic or so clueless about common sense and decency that they literally want to flog a dead horse. Maybe shes not getting it all from the new guy. Hmmmm let me think 7 years, or a month, no **** you lost your best friend, ya think. So my question is what is up with that? Part 2 Been working out like a madman, and i mean a madman, now to be honest at this point its mostly for spite.......lol My question is when does it actually become about having a better me to present to the world rather then spite. Sounds silly but i am seriously running some crazy reps on spite alone, best revenge is looking killer when and if you ever see the ex again. Sounds petty and crazy, yeah i think so too, but to be honest its all too fresh at this point and doing my best to just keep busy and not cry in my milk. Its irrational and stupid but. anything to avoid breaking NC, anything, i mean anything. Because if i break NC and hear that sultry sirens voice, i will be back to "Baby, im ok, doing my best to get through these tough hours, with my cocoa and sad movie, you know i watched before sunrise and 500 days of summer last night" F&*&k that ****, im with no foolin. MAN THE F^&K UP!!!!!!!!!! Yes I am in a bit of a revengeful rant at the moment, as you can tell.....lol Thoughts??? Disclaimer: For all intents and purposes i did in fact watch before sunrise and 500 days of summer last night. Edited August 12, 2011 by Fools Gold Link to post Share on other sites
wilsonx Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 lol @ 500 days of summer, funny part was i enjoyed that movie more then my ex and she picked it out. Keep doing what you are doing. Everything the NC the Working out like a mad man. I am doing the same thing. I've lost an insane amount of weight and I actually have co workers grabbing me now and are like holy ****. Even after the spite and anger go away. Make the working out a part of your identity that someone can not take away from you. Thats the purpose of it. As for her keeping in contact, it sucks, trust me I know, I couldn't get my ****ing ex to leave me alone for a while with stupid text messages and emails but they have stopped for the most part which has helped me a lot. I got one a while ago but never read it, goes straight to my trash. You are on the right path Link to post Share on other sites
BrettLost Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 I completely agree with both other posts. Working out is great. Weights are good, but i prefer the boxing/kick bag to smash into. Releases stress, picks up ur cardio n surprisingly gets u ripped. If u have'nt read my story, it was the first thing i did for myself to start to feel better.... It ended up biting me in the arse BIG TIME.... meh, fu(k em. Bought my own bag, stuck with it, feel heaps better physically AND mentally. Like nike, just do it. Link to post Share on other sites
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