Is a girl a b*tch if she will not date a shorter guy?

[Tasha49]

I was just having a conversation with my male friend and he is 20 and 5'5. He asked me if I would ever date him. I told him probably not since there is no chemistry and I feel weird dating shorter men. I think it is strange being taller than my boyfriend. Then he called me a bitch and I have not heard back from him. Lol.

 

Seriously though, what is wrong with dating preferences? I am not a bitch just because I don't like to be taller than someone I date. Or am I? I think I really offended him.

[Cypress25]

Some "friend" he is. Of course you're allowed to have dating preferences, we all do. You can't help who you're attracted to. Besides, most women don't want to be bigger than their boyfriend. It makes them feel awkward and uncomfortable. I bet he was already insecure about his height and he took it out on you.

 

If it makes him feel any better, there are plenty of short women out there who would be happy to date him. I'm only 5'1" and I would happily date a guy who's 4 inches taller than me! Not your friend though, he kinda sounds like a jerk.

[Dust]

It was rude of him to call you a bitch. You’re entitled to have your preferences. You were pretty blunt with him. Still he’s no friend at all. He just wanted to date you and then insulted you when he felt rejected.

 

Some girls don’t care about height and will date a shorter guy. Some guys can over come things like shortness through confidence. Lack of confidence will make a big man seem small the same way self confidence will make a small man big.

[Cracker Jack]

Not at all.

 

A woman who was 5'2" didn't want to date me because I was only 5'8", but I never got on her because of it. Most women are generally more attracted to taller guys, anyway.

[threebyfate]

His over-reaction sounds like he was hoping for more than friendship from you.

[Tasha49]

It was rude of him to call you a bitch. You’re entitled to have your preferences. You were pretty blunt with him. Still he’s no friend at all. He just wanted to date you and then insulted you when he felt rejected.

 

Some girls don’t care about height and will date a shorter guy. Some guys can over come things like shortness through confidence. Lack of confidence will make a big man seem small the same way self confidence will make a small man big.

 

I didn't word it exactly like that haha. I specifically said, "Well no offense 'so-and-so' but I don't like you like that and you are my friend. I also don't really like shorter men in terms of dating it makes me feel odd haha."

 

It was through text. That was yesterday afternoon and after he called me a bitch I told him I didn't mean to offend him and asked if he was okay. Nothing. We aren't great friends but we hang out every so often. I don't understand and now I feel crappy but I was never a bitch about it.

[xoxoDaniellexoxo]

:laugh:I would say I don't have a hard time finding someone taller lol. I think that makes you honest not a bitch!!! Just imagine models that must be SOOOOO much harder to find a taller guy!

[Tasha49]

Well thanks guys!! I am glad that it is normal!

 

It's just that not only is it traditional, but I mean I like looking up to a guy not down since it feels weird. Even if he were the same height I would not mind. I also made a typo he is 5'4. I am 5'6.

[somedude81]

Damn right.

 

Any woman who refuses to date a guy because he is shorter, (but still a normal non-dwarf height) is a shallow bitch.

[Dust]

Well thanks guys!! I am glad that it is normal!

 

It's just that not only is it traditional, but I mean I like looking up to a guy not down since it feels weird. Even if he were the same height I would not mind. I also made a typo he is 5'4. I am 5'6.

 

Just think of it this way you aren’t attracted. Maybe you would be attracted to some 5’4 guy who was cool. No need to tell a lame guy you aren’t attracted because he is lame. No need to tell a short guy you are not interested because he is too short, and certainly unadvisable to tell a pregnant looking guy he looks to pregnant.

 

Like when I see a really fat girl I know I’m not attracted. Sure I say maybe if she wasn’t so fat I might be attracted. The same way you probably said well maybe if he was taller I’d feel different. But in some alternate dimension where girls were as aggressive as guys and I had to turn fat girls down I’d leave it at “I Just don’t want to date you, no chemistry” no reason to be the Simon of dating and be brutally honest “You’re just to fat!”

[Tasha49]

Damn right.

 

Any woman who refuses to date a guy because he is shorter, (but still a normal non-dwarf height) is a shallow bitch.

 

Lol ouch.

 

But on a serious note... I don't care about anything else looks wise. There does have to be attraction but everything else I do not care about. Not about the car he drives, what his house looks like, what his job is... etc.

 

The height is just a deal breaker. MAYBE I am missing out on a really good guy but who knows.

[counterman]

No, you're not a bitch. You're entitled to your own preferences. There are some girls who don't mind dating guys shorter than them.

[Tasha49]

Just think of it this way you aren’t attracted. Maybe you would be attracted to some 5’4 guy who was cool. No need to tell a lame guy you aren’t attracted because he is lame. No need to tell a short guy you are not interested because he is too short, and certainly unadvisable to tell a pregnant looking guy he looks to pregnant.

 

Like when I see a really fat girl I know I’m not attracted. Sure I say maybe if she wasn’t so fat I might be attracted. The same way you probably said well maybe if he was taller I’d feel different. But in some alternate dimension where girls were as aggressive as guys and I had to turn fat girls down I’d leave it at “I Just don’t want to date you, no chemistry” no reason to be the Simon of dating and be brutally honest “You’re just to fat!”

 

This is true. But sometimes you DO have to be brutally honest. Maybe not in the b*tch kind of way but in a way where they get the point. Some men never get the hint until you make yourself clear.

[somedude81]

Just to make things clear, I am not joking.

 

I am a 5'6 and I have had extreme trouble with women.

 

No woman has ever told me that she rejected me because I'm not tall. But if a girl ever even hints it to me, I will give her an ear-full.

 

It is completely unfair being an otherwise completely normal dude but because of God deciding to make me short, causes me to be unattractive to women.

 

A short guy is often compared to a fat girl because both are considered unattractive to the opposite gender. The key difference is that there isn't a damn thing outside of painful and expensive surgery that a guy can do to get taller.

[Cracker Jack]

Lol ouch.

 

But on a serious note... I don't care about anything else looks wise. There does have to be attraction but everything else I do not care about. Not about the car he drives, what his house looks like, what his job is... etc.

 

The height is just a deal breaker. MAYBE I am missing out on a really good guy but who knows.

 

I don't think your preference was the issue here.

 

It's just that, well, your "friend" was an idiot. You probably would've been better off just telling him you weren't into him while leaving the height part out, but whatever. It's done with. Personally, I love honesty--but some others can't take it.

Edited August 13, 2011 by Cracker Jack

[somedude81]

I don't think your preference was the issue here.

 

It's just that, well, your "friend" was an idiot. You probably would've been better off just telling him you weren't into him while leaving the height part out, but whatever. It's done with.

So her friend is an idiot becase he called her a bitch after she said "I feel weird dating shorter men."

 

She had no tact at all and deserved the name calling.

[Tasha49]

I danced with a guy at a club once and when I went to buy a drink my friend gave him my number. We danced a bit more (nothing sexual) and I told him I had to leave and had a good time.

 

When I got home he sent me a text. I was very surprised. He asked if I would like to get to know him better because he really liked me. I told him sorry that I wasn't really looking for a guy right now. Then he would not stop texting me. Asking to see a movie or have dinner. I kept declining and he did not get it. The following weekend he saw me at the club again and wouldn't leave me alone. It was really awkward because he was all over me and I have a problem with telling people how it is sometimes since I hate disappointing people. So finally I told him to leave me alone and that I would NEVER be interested and he needs to leave me alone.

 

I feel bad but sometimes you do have to say it how it is.

[somedude81]

So why did you feel that you had to drop the short line?

 

For the uninformed or simply ignorant, men who are below average height are often very insecure about it. Talking about it in negative way is a great way to get a guy to hate you.

 

It's the same thing as calling a woman fat. Only stupid or rude guy would reject a girl and tell that she's too heavy for him.

[Dust]

Just to make things clear, I am not joking.

 

I am a 5'6 and I have had extreme trouble with women.

 

No woman has ever told me that she rejected me because I'm not tall. But if a girl ever even hints it to me, I will give her an ear-full.

 

It is completely unfair being an otherwise completely normal dude but because of God deciding to make me short, causes me to be unattractive to women.

 

A short guy is often compared to a fat girl because both are considered unattractive to the opposite gender. The key difference is that there isn't a damn thing outside of painful and expensive surgery that a guy can do to get taller.

 

I wonder if all the self-rejection you put yourself through has made you jaded on a genetic level.

 

Wake up somedude you can’t go around being mad about the things that are. Seriously go date a fat old smelly woman if you want to prove you are beyond physical attraction. Yes being short is unattractive to “some” women but not “all” women. Also even the women who don’t think they like “black” guys or “short” guys or “fat” guys or “bearded” guys could still end up with a “short black fat bearded” guy. Then the girl just says something like “I never thought I’d date a guy like my current bf, he’s special though and I like him better then any other guy.” So get some confidence. Stop calling random strangers who have done nothing wrong bitches. Get over yourself Somedude. Your destroying yourself with this negativity and stress you blame on other people. It’s all on you.

[Tasha49]

Hey we were already in a height conversation about height in relationships so I didnt just give him a low blow out of the blue.

[Tasha49]

Hey we were already in a height conversation about height in relationships so I didnt just give him a low blow out of the blue.

 

Wow. I guess nowhere in my original post had I mentioned that...

 

But he asked first! He was talking about how his mom has a new bf who is 4 inches shorter than her. Then he (what I thought) jokingly asked if I would date him. THAT is when I said the short thing. Sorry guys!

 

I guess I could still have seemed to be mean but I asnwered honestly.

[Cracker Jack]

Calling her a bitch was utterly pointless. She was probably too honest, but that's nothing out of the ordinary. I've been outright rejected because of my height, but I didn't bitch and moan to the girl about it.

 

And I already said she could've rejected him without mentioning his height, but whatever. These short guy/tall guy debates are stupid.

[Dust]

Wow. I guess nowhere in my original post had I mentioned that...

 

But he asked first! He was talking about how his mom has a new bf who is 4 inches shorter than her. Then he (what I thought) jokingly asked if I would date him. THAT is when I said the short thing. Sorry guys!

 

I guess I could still have seemed to be mean but I asnwered honestly.

 

Sadly we live in a world where people like Somedude are ready to explode at any moment because of their insecurities. I don’t think you were wrong for what you said. The thing is if some short guy starts talking to you about height tread lightly the same way you would around a fat person who starts talking about being fat. Your “friend” is a lame guy and I hope he stays out of your way. He’s a little bitch.

[somedude81]

I wonder if all the self-rejection you put yourself through has made you jaded on a genetic level.

Huh?

 

Wake up somedude you can’t go around being mad about the things that are.

Again huh?

 

You expect me to be happy that I'm always rejected?

 

Seriously go date a fat old smelly woman if you want to prove you are beyond physical attraction.

An otherwise normal man being a couple of inches shorter than average is not the equivalent of a fat old smelly woman.

 

Yes being short is unattractive to “some” women but not “all” women. Also even the women who don’t think they like “black” guys or “short” guys or “fat” guys or “bearded” guys could still end up with a “short black fat bearded” guy. Then the girl just says something like “I never thought I’d date a guy like my current bf, he’s special though and I like him better then any other guy.”

That doesn't mean anything to me until girl actually accepts me.

So get some confidence. Stop calling random strangers who have done nothing wrong bitches. Get over yourself Somedude. Your destroying yourself with this negativity and stress you blame on other people. It’s all on you.

I just can't go and get confidence. If I could I would have done it already!

 

Based on what she posted, what she did was wrong and deserved it.

Hey we were already in a height conversation about height in relationships so I didnt just give him a low blow out of the blue.

You failed to mention that you were talking about height.

 

From what you posted, it seemed that he asked you out and that you said you have no chemistry and that it feels weird to date short guys. Under those circumstances, you deserved what you got.

 

But now it seems that there was more to the situation.

 

Either way, it's still the same things as a guy turning down a woman and saying that it feels weird to date girls that are heavier.

[Cracker Jack]

Wow. I guess nowhere in my original post had I mentioned that...

 

But he asked first! He was talking about how his mom has a new bf who is 4 inches shorter than her. Then he (what I thought) jokingly asked if I would date him. THAT is when I said the short thing. Sorry guys!

 

I guess I could still have seemed to be mean but I asnwered honestly.

 

When you look at in that context, it's really not even a big deal. You're good.