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**** him. Yeah, they are all the same. In even less time that i thought possible, he did it. Ruined it, and didn't care to amend it. I wonder how i didn;t see this before, and now i feel supid for all the things i did for him and to him. all the letters and stuff... it surprises me how something so big, and end in so little time. SO yeah, our family, children, dog, it al went down the drain. I just hope for all you guys to use this as an experiencee, advice, LDR dont work, they are all the same. As for myself, i can't say i'll be okay, my life was taken away, the only thing i lived for. Despite everything i care for him and hopes he finds his dream, just not with me anymore. I would love to say this was an exception and they arent al the same... but this is about honestly.. i might as well say i ****ing don't think any LDR has ever worked, and if it did, it's just because uncaught cheating was involved. I gues i dont need this anymore, just use my story as a guide... and yes i will try hard to survive.

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Citizen Erased

There's far more people on here than just you that have had different experiences, so I'd lay off on the "only uncaught cheating" aspect.

 

I'm sorry you're hurt, but there are plenty of people that don't fall into your little category of it never working out. Hurting the people on here that are still in LDR's achieves nothing.

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Hey guys! Guess what? I'm back! I somehow always thought that i would be. My bf called me and we cleared things up, turns out he did make a mistake and maybe i overreacted. the point is we agreed on certain stuff before he left, and we both failed to comply with them… but we are working way harder and after hours of fighting decided that our love is stronger than we thought. I love him so much and he means the world to me, it's hard to trust someone when you're not there, and when you don't like the people he's with, but well, thats the whole point of a relationship. I know he didn't mean to harm me, and he loves me as much as i love him. Im pretty sure i'll be one of the few in this site to say that LDR do work. I CANT SAY HOW HAPPY I FEEL RIGHTNOW. i know he's the one for me and we'll get married someday, he knows that too and has told me so!! thanks for all your support, I know i'll be writing again soon with good news.

LDR DO WOORK OUT WHEN YOU TRULY LOVE SOMEBODY:)

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Contradictory points left me kind of hurt, confused and a little bit annoyed, I must admit.

 

"... i ****ing don't think any LDR has ever worked, and if it did, it's just because uncaught cheating was involved."

 

to:

 

"Im pretty sure i'll be one of the few in this site to say that LDR do work."

 

But, I'm glad things worked out.

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HeavenOrHell

Sounds too volatile/immature to work IMO!

 

 

 

Contradictory points left me kind of hurt, confused and a little bit annoyed, I must admit.

 

"... i ****ing don't think any LDR has ever worked, and if it did, it's just because uncaught cheating was involved."

 

to:

 

"Im pretty sure i'll be one of the few in this site to say that LDR do work."

 

But, I'm glad things worked out.

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Hi HoH~

Well, I hope it works out~!

Because it's nice to think that everyone will succeed with their LDRs :)

 

On another note, I agree with Citizen Erased.

I think painting others' LDR with the same brush just because of your experiences crossed some kind of unspoken boundary.

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HeavenOrHell

Yes I hope it works out too, hope mine does too, no idea.

 

All I know is they require a hell of a lot of commitment, trust, communication, maturity, patience, much more than in a day to day r/ship, (and one or both has be willing/able to move of course).

 

 

Hi HoH~

Well, I hope it works out~!

Because it's nice to think that everyone will succeed with their LDRs :)

 

On another note, I agree with Citizen Erased.

I think painting others' LDR with the same brush just because of your experiences crossed some kind of unspoken boundary.

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miamiamia, not all LDR's work out but many do. I can name at least seven ex-LDRs on this board alone who are now happily married and/or living with their SO.

 

I've had some major hiccups in my own LDR (now nearly two years long) which have resulted in us having to cancel our wedding plans for 3 August this year. Sure, we are both very disappointed, but we're still hanging in there because our feelings for one another are so real and so strong.

 

From your contradictory posts it seems you are on the LDR rollercoaster that happens to many people in LDRs. You can make it work with 100% commitment, good communication, trust (and being trustworthy), honesty, patience, understanding and a high degree of emotional maturity.

 

Don't throw in the towel at the first sign of trouble or assume it's going to work just because things seem rosy. You're obviously an emotional person and it's therefore likely you will feel up and down throughout the relationship. Just go with it. Good luck.

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