Overthirtymale Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 Just wondering if women view single male home owners as a plus. Or it simply does not matter where a man lives, apartment, with roommates, parents basement. Link to post Share on other sites
Tasha49 Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 No. But it may make the dollar sign bigger and brighter in a girls eyes. Sadly. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 It certainly isn't a negative... I have owned a home since my early 20s and can attest that it is a plus Link to post Share on other sites
Negative Nancy Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 i dont get the american obsession with owning a home, especially not when you're single. like, as if it's a status symbol of some sort. i don't care if the guy lives in an apartment even at 40 or 50, i only see a point in a house when you have a family (but maybe that's why women dig it? cos it's a sign that the man can provide shelter for a potential future family?). i mean there's so many nice apartment complexes and condos and an apartment is easier to maintain too. plus, it makes you flexible should you decide to wanna move. Link to post Share on other sites
Cypress25 Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 It makes no difference to me whether the guy rents or owns his home. I don't care how much money he makes either. As long as he can take care of himself and is not living off his parents, I don't care. Link to post Share on other sites
sm1tten Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 One of my personal goals is to own a home or a condo someday, so it's attractive to me... but I also see the benefits or advantages of continuing to rent and having roommates. However, unless a guy has a good reason - like saving money or taking care of ill parents - living in the basement is not really okay with me. Link to post Share on other sites
green_tea Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 It makes no difference at all to me.. I've been seeing a guy who currently lives in a backpackers.. Link to post Share on other sites
Orianne Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 Oh, it definitely matters. Where a guy lives says a lot about him. A guy who lives in his parents basement is likely to be perceived as lazy, regardless of his circumstances. On the other hand, a guy who owns a home has demonstrated the ability to get a job, save money, and build decent credit--very desirable traits, especially for women who are looking for something long term. That being said, a woman who's looking for a quick fling probably wont care, but if you're looking for more, get out of the basement. Also...as far as roommates go, they were always a turn-off for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Nexus One Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 (edited) No. I don't agree with you there. A study has shown that men who have their own house are perceived as 500% more attractive by women than the same man who lives with his parents at home. Personally I think many younger girls don't mind if a guy still lives at home, but the older women get, the more they value it, especially those who want kids. I have several theories for why many women want it. - Privacy in general - Space for kids - Being able to have sex without others walking into the room - Being able to have loud sex Many women also say it's a turn-off when a guy mentions he still lives at home with his parents. The thing is, as a guy you might be able to attract a certain woman either way, but attracting her is only one part, sustaining a long term relationship is another. Having your own house can help with that, it can help make things work as opposed to living with parents or with roommates. Edited August 14, 2011 by Nexus One Link to post Share on other sites
green_tea Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 That being said, a woman who's looking for a quick fling probably wont care, but if you're looking for more, get out of the basement. I'm not looking for a quick fling.. and I really don't care that he doesn't have a house right now. That said, he does have a good job, and is looking to buy in the future. For what it's worth I have my own home. Link to post Share on other sites
Cypress25 Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 A guy still living with his parents in his mid-twenties is unacceptable. But there's nothing wrong with a guy that age renting an apartment with roommates. As long as he has his own bedroom and bathroom, lol. Link to post Share on other sites
ilovedhim Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 Yes it matters and a big plus. Why? Shows a guy is responsible Shows hes looking towards a stable future Means hes successful, to some extent Means hes grounded Means he cares about future investments Link to post Share on other sites
Tasha49 Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 I don't agree with you there. A study has shown that men who have their own house are perceived as 500% more attractive by women than the same man who lives with his parents at home. Personally I think many younger girls don't mind if a guy still lives at home, but the older women get, the more they value it, especially those who want kids. I have several theories for why many women want it. - Privacy in general - Space for kids - Being able to have sex without others walking into the room - Being able to have loud sex (some women like to be very loud) Many women also say it's a turn-off when a guy mentions he still lives at home with his parents. The thing is, as a guy you might be able to attract a certain woman either way, but attracting her is only one part, sustaining a long term relationship is another. Having your own house can help with that, it can help make things work as opposed to living with parents or with roommates. No you are very correct. But of course I was not generalizing for all women. I was saying no when it comes to myself. I don't find a guy any more attractive with owning a house. I mean good for him, but I wouldn't choose a guy owning a house over one without a house. Link to post Share on other sites
Tasha49 Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 I meant to say I wouldn't be prone to choose a guy with a house any more than I would without one. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 It seems that a man having a nice apartment works just as well especially in big cities where most people are apartment dwellers anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Nexus One Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 (edited) No you are very correct. But of course I was not generalizing for all women. I was saying no when it comes to myself. I don't find a guy any more attractive with owning a house. I mean good for him, but I wouldn't choose a guy owning a house over one without a house. Making a choice between two guys is a decision of the moment, deciding to stay with a guy for the longterm is another matter. Like I said, attracting a woman is only one part, sustaining a longterm relationship is another. Having a house helps in sustaining a relationship for the longterm. In my opinion just like birds need a nest of their own, couples need a house of their own. Edited August 14, 2011 by Nexus One Link to post Share on other sites
Negative Nancy Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 It seems that a man having a nice apartment works just as well especially in big cities where most people are apartment dwellers anyway. exactly. just what i said...a house is not necessary (as in: not a requirement) unless the couple wants to start a family. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 If you don't live in a big city paying a mortgage on a house is sometimes cheaper than renting an apartment. Studio apartments around her tend to be a grand. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 I can't say owning a home has made me more attractive. That's probably because I'm really attractive anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Negative Nancy Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 If you don't live in a big city paying a mortgage on a house is sometimes cheaper than renting an apartment. Studio apartments around her tend to be a grand. paying mortgage is not it, though. maintenance cost, costs for garbage, property taxes etc. have to be factored in too in order to compare it to rent... i like the carefree-ness of renting. the landlord has to take care of fixing stuff, with a house that stuff is all on the owner. Link to post Share on other sites
Nexus One Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 (edited) Personally, and this is just my opinion, I don't like the idea of renting. Renting is throwing your money into a bottomless well. You'll never see that money again and rent will never stop. Buying a house/apartment on the other hand will allow you to at a certain point stop making payments and get the money back once you sell it. However I'm not a fan of debt, so paying off a mortgage as soon as possible is paramount in my opinion to end the contract with the bank, because as long as you pay your mortgage the bank owns your house and they will try to f*ck home owners over when given the chance. So buying a house without a mortgage is the best solution, but that's not possible for everyone. Also governments seem to have found a solution for people who want to own their own real estate, i.e. property tax. That way they can let you make payments forever, even though you own it, so then you still rent your own paid off house and property from the government, the f*cking worms. Edited August 14, 2011 by Nexus One Link to post Share on other sites
Negative Nancy Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 Personally, and this is just my opinion, I don't like the idea of renting. Renting is throwing your money into a bottomless well. You'll never see that money again and rent will never stop. one might say the same about food. or gas...does that mean we shouldn't eat anymore? no, cos it fuels our body. and renting gives us a roof over our heads, so you can't say it's WASTED money. buying a house gets you in debt for the next 20 to 30 years, and i'm not comfortable with that. in case your financial situation changes (unemployment, health issues etc.) you can at least move out of your apartment into a cheaper one. with a house you're kinda stuck or you'd have to sell it, many times with a monetary loss, not to mention the emotional loss since many people attach emotional value to their home. Also governments seem to have found a solution for people who want to own their own real estate, i.e. property tax. That way they can let you make payments forever, even though you own it, so then you still rent your own paid off house and property from the government, the f*cking worms. yeah, see. Link to post Share on other sites
Nexus One Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 one might say the same about food. or gas...does that mean we shouldn't eat anymore? no, cos it fuels our body. and renting gives us a roof over our heads, so you can't say it's WASTED money. No because you don't rent your food or gas, that would be ridiculous. Once you pay for your food and gas it's yours and you can do with it whatever you want. You pay for food and gas once and don't rent it and you can sell it if you want. Link to post Share on other sites
Negative Nancy Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 i was referring to the "bottomless well"-statement. Link to post Share on other sites
Nexus One Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 i was referring to the "bottomless well"-statement. From a financial perspective rent is a bottomless well. It's money that you will never see again and that you will have to pay till the end of your life and will go on for future generations. I do agree that you get something back for it, but that's the practical side of the story, rather than purely the financial side which I was referring at. Link to post Share on other sites
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