lordreyrey Posted May 1, 2004 Share Posted May 1, 2004 I suppose my issue falls into the second chances category. My girlfriend, who used to be my fiancee, has recently told me that she wants to date other people. We were together for almost five years, but over the last year or so, we have drifted apart. She says she thinks I am being unhappy, and mean, all of the time--and she spent so much time trying to figure out why I was mad all the time. We have one child together, and we are always together when it comes to him. She started seeing someone in a long-distance fashion, and they have sept together. Because of this, I was very upset, and didn't talk to her for almost a month. Recently, however, we have been spending a lot of time together, and she tells me how happy she has been over the last couple of weeks. She says that the way I am being to her now, is all she ever wanted when we were together; and she was sad because she now comitted herself to this new guy. Earlier this week, she told me that she is breaking off her commitment to this new guy because she has feelings for me, and another guy she works with. Since she is in love with me, was committed to him, and now having an attraction to someone at her work--she didn't feel like she was ready to be committed. Basically, it is like she is "playing the field," to see and make sure she has the best man for her. She keeps saying that all she wants is to be happy--and I want her to be. I am just wondering if this is my cue, my second chance. We will always have a bond, because of the time we were together, our son, anc that we are still very sexually attracted to each other after all this time. However, she is testing the waters with other people; I suppose I am reading too much into this--I just wonder if this is a second chance.. =) Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted May 1, 2004 Share Posted May 1, 2004 uh - no. There is no way you can interpret this as a second chance if she is sleeping with other men and forming emotional attachments to other men. To my mind a second chance is something that BOTH parties need to work at and there is no room there for 3rd and 4th parties. I don't know what drove you two apart in the first place, but what are you now supposed to do? Let her play the field while you join the merry chase and hope that this is some kind of a second chance? Earlier this week, she told me that she is breaking off her commitment to this new guy because she has feelings for me, and another guy she works with. Since she is in love with me, was committed to him, and now having an attraction to someone at her work She is in love with you, committed to someone else but breaking that off and NOW she is having feelings for another man? How on earth must you feel hearing these things from her? She keeps saying that all she wants is to be happy--and I want her to be. What do you want? p.s. If you're still having sex with this woman I hope you're using a condom. Link to post Share on other sites
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