Seeing a woman who doesn't like uncircumcised, might be a deal breaker for her

[Asics]

I have started seeing an african woman (i'm a white guy). She has a huge problem with the fact that i'm not circumcised.

 

Although i'm NOT circumcised, it looks like I am because I have a very short foreskin. When it's flacid, the head is completely exposed...it doesn't have the "elephant trunk" look. The skin becomes stretched tightly when I have an erection so there is no loose skin on the shaft.

 

Anyway, I have known this woman for a few weeks. After the first time we had sex, we were lying on the bed naked, relaxing. She started playing with my cock and balls, and that's when she realised I actually had a foreskin. She slid her fingernail underneath the foreskin (she has those long acrylic nails), then grabbed it between her thumb and index finger and tugged it gently. She then asked me "aren't you circumcised?" I said no, and I could tell she was kind of disgusted, even though she tried to hide it.

 

The next time we had sex, she asked me to have a shower before we went to the bedroom. She came into the shower with me, rolled my foreskin out so the inside of it was showing and rubbed it to make sure it was clean.

 

Now she is asking me to get circumcised. She says it's because of hygiene issues and because bacteria can get trapped under there. She also says she prefers the look and feel of a circumcised one. We've had sex twice and she doesn't want to do it again until I get circumcised.

 

She's from sierra leone and she's only been in australia for about a month. So i'm probably the first uncircumcised dick she's ever seen or had.

 

What should I do? I would rather leave my dick the way it is, but I don't want to lose this woman. She is a very nice person and very attractive.

Edited August 14, 2011 by Asics

[Cypress25]

I prefer circumcised because that's what I'm used to. I've actually never seen an uncut penis in real life. I've seen pictures and to me it looks weird.

 

That said, I would not expect a grown man to get circumcised for me. I do think it's cleaner, but hopefully you know how to keep yourself clean. That's a lot to ask of a man that you just started dating. You don't even know if things will work out with this girl.

 

Truly, I don't know what I'd do if I started dating a guy who wasn't cut. That's a big fear of mine, lol. I like to think I'd be able to get used to it, but I don't know.

[Newwaveofgoodtidings]

Run for the hills.

 

Cripes that is so inappropriate of her to make a demand of you to cut your genetalia for her. My gosh.

 

By the way: foreskin is not a birth defect and stats have proven over and over it is simply a cosmetic procedure. As long as you wash, it stays clean!

 

So what happens after she dumps you and the next girl you see like uncircumcised guys? Do you get your foreskin reattached?

[Newwaveofgoodtidings]

I prefer circumcised because that's what I'm used to. I've actually never seen an uncut penis in real life. I've seen pictures and to me it looks weird.

 

That said, I would not expect a grown man to get circumcised for me. I do think it's cleaner, but hopefully you know how to keep yourself clean. That's a lot to ask of a man that you just started dating. You don't even know if things will work out with this girl.

 

Truly, I don't know what I'd do if I started dating a guy who wasn't cut. That's a big fear of mine, lol. I like to think I'd be able to get used to it, but I don't know.

 

It feels better during intercourse. And the skin pulls back when they get an erection, so it looks almost the same. It really is nothing to worry about.

[Asics]

Run for the hills.

 

Cripes that is so inappropriate of her to make a demand of you to cut your genetalia for her. My gosh.

 

By the way: foreskin is not a birth defect and stats have proven over and over it is simply a cosmetic procedure. As long as you wash, it stays clean!

 

So what happens after she dumps you and the next girl you see like uncircumcised guys? Do you get your foreskin reattached?

 

I do wash my foreskin every time I have a shower, it's not dirty or anything. Like I said, she's from sierra leone so an uncircumcised dick is probably alien to her.

 

About your last comment...it seems like there are women who don't care either way if a guy is cut or uncut, but then there are those who strongly prefer cut. So if you're circumcised then you have both bases covered.

[dreamingoftigers]

I prefer uncut.

 

I think if you get it cut at this point that you will reduce your sensitivity.

[MrNate]

Well you whip that bad boy out anyway. If she makes a funny face, slap her with it.

[AmEricanWomann]

I can't believe someone is even asking that question. Asics, do you have trouble attracting or meeting women? I'm not asking that to be mean, but I can't imagine any other reason why a man would want to have a part of his body sliced off for a woman he just started dating simply because she's "nice" and attractive.

 

Ill tell you something, if she were nice, she would accept you the way you are. Believe me, this will not be the last culture clash you go through with her, so the odds of this relationship working out are slim to none.

 

If you want to get circumcised because you think it will make you look and feel better, that's one thing and I'm all for people doing whatever makes them happy with themselves, but to get cut because a woman you've only known a short time asks you, or rather TELLS you to do it, is in my opinion, utterly ridiculous.

 

For the record, I'm American as you can probably tell by my handle, so most of the guys I'm used to are circumcised, however if I was with a man that I was attracted to and cared about and he was uncircumcised, I would accept his penis the way it is. As long as he keeps clean its fine, I would never ever ask a man to get rid of a piece of himself for me.

[nothappyjan]

Wow as an aussie girl, i dont care either way. Regardless I would NEVER expect a grown man i had only just started dating go thorugh that for me. I would ditch this girl, i think you personally will have more clashes than just that. Next she might not like your hair or the food you eat

[leftfordead2]

Tell her to suck it. No pun intended.

[Ebony78]

I would never expect a man to get circumcised for me! I have no preference and have experienced both. As long as you maintain good personal hygiene then there is no problem.

[Ross MwcFan]

I have started seeing an african woman (i'm a white guy). She has a huge problem with the fact that i'm not circumcised.

 

Although i'm NOT circumcised, it looks like I am because I have a very short foreskin. When it's flacid, the head is completely exposed...it doesn't have the "elephant trunk" look. The skin becomes stretched tightly when I have an erection so there is no loose skin on the shaft.

 

Anyway, I have known this woman for a few weeks. After the first time we had sex, we were lying on the bed naked, relaxing. She started playing with my cock and balls, and that's when she realised I actually had a foreskin. She slid her fingernail underneath the foreskin (she has those long acrylic nails), then grabbed it between her thumb and index finger and tugged it gently. She then asked me "aren't you circumcised?" I said no, and I could tell she was kind of disgusted, even though she tried to hide it.

 

The next time we had sex, she asked me to have a shower before we went to the bedroom. She came into the shower with me, rolled my foreskin out so the inside of it was showing and rubbed it to make sure it was clean.

 

Now she is asking me to get circumcised. She says it's because of hygiene issues and because bacteria can get trapped under there. She also says she prefers the look and feel of a circumcised one. We've had sex twice and she doesn't want to do it again until I get circumcised.

 

She's from sierra leone and she's only been in australia for about a month. So i'm probably the first uncircumcised dick she's ever seen or had.

 

What should I do? I would rather leave my dick the way it is, but I don't want to lose this woman. She is a very nice person and very attractive.

 

I honestly wouldn't get it cut if I were you. And to do so just seems like you'd be letting her walk over you.

 

It seems like she could be a really dominating type if she's asked you this and you're only dating.

 

I'd just tell her no, and if she said she didn't want to date anymore, I'd be like 'okay, bye'.

 

Or how about this, tell her you'll get get yourself cut if she get's something on her genitalia cut or modified. She what she says then. I bet it'll be 'no'.

[Ross MwcFan]

Run for the hills.

 

Cripes that is so inappropriate of her to make a demand of you to cut your genetalia for her. My gosh.

 

By the way: foreskin is not a birth defect and stats have proven over and over it is simply a cosmetic procedure. As long as you wash, it stays clean!

 

So what happens after she dumps you and the next girl you see like uncircumcised guys? Do you get your foreskin reattached?

 

I totally agree, I find it ****ing stupid how so many people talk about foreskin as though it's a birth defect and it's not supposed to be there.

 

It's natural, it's supposed to be there, and everything is fine if you wash yourself properly everyday. In the whole of my life, I've never had any problems.

 

It's being cut which is a defect/isn't natural.

[Ross MwcFan]

Btw, Asics, I have often heard that when you get cut you lose a lot of sensitivity as a lot of the nerve endings are attatched to the foreskin, so sex and masturbation isn't as pleasureable.

 

Once it's gone you can't get it back.

[sm1tten]

Don't do it. Leave your dick alone! For one thing, there's nothing wrong with it. The problem is hers. And seeing as how you just started dating, I don't even get how she thinks she has any right to ask you to do such a thing.

[dreamingoftigers]

Tell her you'll get circumcised when she gets a labioplasty. Same difference, right.

 

My husband is uncut. To be completely honest I wouldn't want to go back to cut. But if there was a nice guy attached to a circumcised dick I would. And ..... I would probably grow to really like it.

[bikinibeach]

i am SOOOOO disappointed if i find a guy i like to be circumcised.

 

uncut is so beautiful and natural, feels better and i even like the smell!

 

i could not spend my life with a circumcised man. period.

 

dump her ass!

 

PS: Europeans are more used to uncut than cut. Go find a girl there! Or just forget about it and only date people who aren't irrational and demanding!

[FitChick]

If she dumps you and dates other Australian guys, she's going to be very disappointed. She should date Americans, Jews, Muslims or fellow Africans if she wants circumcised.

[LoveandSuch]

I have started seeing an african woman (i'm a white guy). She has a huge problem with the fact that i'm not circumcised.

 

Although i'm NOT circumcised, it looks like I am because I have a very short foreskin. When it's flacid, the head is completely exposed...it doesn't have the "elephant trunk" look. The skin becomes stretched tightly when I have an erection so there is no loose skin on the shaft.

 

Anyway, I have known this woman for a few weeks. After the first time we had sex, we were lying on the bed naked, relaxing. She started playing with my cock and balls, and that's when she realised I actually had a foreskin. She slid her fingernail underneath the foreskin (she has those long acrylic nails), then grabbed it between her thumb and index finger and tugged it gently. She then asked me "aren't you circumcised?" I said no, and I could tell she was kind of disgusted, even though she tried to hide it.

 

The next time we had sex, she asked me to have a shower before we went to the bedroom. She came into the shower with me, rolled my foreskin out so the inside of it was showing and rubbed it to make sure it was clean.

 

Now she is asking me to get circumcised. She says it's because of hygiene issues and because bacteria can get trapped under there. She also says she prefers the look and feel of a circumcised one. We've had sex twice and she doesn't want to do it again until I get circumcised.

 

She's from sierra leone and she's only been in australia for about a month. So i'm probably the first uncircumcised dick she's ever seen or had.

 

What should I do? I would rather leave my dick the way it is, but I don't want to lose this woman. She is a very nice person and very attractive.

 

It is extreme in her requesting you cut your foreskin off for her. It would seem to be a rash decision to make for someone you just recently met and hardly know? I am sure she would be upset if you requested she trim her bush, chemically straighten it, and dye it blonde.

[nandesuka]

Run dude, run... This chick you just met ain't worth cutting a piece of your dick off. How can you even consider it when you ain't even a month into the relationship?!? Wtf, are you stupid?? You don't even know if this is going to last, so why would you permanently cut your dick, and lessen your sensitivity, for her. Don't do it! Getting a tattoo with a new girlfriend's name on it is stupid enough, but irreversibly cutting a piece of your dick off?? Wayyyyyy not a smart thing to even consider doing.

[spiderowl]

Er ... circumcision is not natural. Guys and girls are not born circumcised and nature has its reasons. What kind of woman would put a guy through painful and possibly risky surgery just because she's not used to the way he is naturally? You obviously felt her disapproval, but sometimes we have to stand up for ourselves (sorry, wasn't trying to be funny there). I think she's out of order suggesting that you do this and if it were me, even if I were to risk losing her, I would be prepared to lose her. It may be a cultural thing and if it is explained to her that only certain groups of guys in the west are circumsized, usually for religious reasons, maybe she will realise that you are not out of the ordinary or wrong for this omission.

 

I know in some parts of Africa, circumcision has been recommended as a means of protecting against AIDS. Maybe she has heard this and is worried about that. If so, then a test might put her mind at rest.

[Sanman]

So, you're dating a girl for a month and you are considering chopping off a part of your body at her request? what happens if you break up and the next girl prefers uncircumcised...staple it back on?

[Nexus One]

So she has known you for a few weeks and already wants you to let someone with a scalpel cut off a part of your d*ck, not to mention as an ultimatum? In my opinion, she can take a hike.

 

That's not love.

[D-Lish]

You have got to be kidding me- have you seen what a vagina actually looks like? Have to admit- not the prettiest thing I've seen in my life:eek:.

 

I have no issue with either. What a shallow, ridiculous thing to have an issue with. Someone's genitals being a make it or break it situation??? Dump her.

[Pierre]

I was done at birth even though I am not Jewish. No one complains about a circunsized (sp) penis