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[filmbuffy]

Hi, my girlfriend of 3 plus years blindsided me almost 4 weeks ago. She came home from work, told me "we" were not working out, gave me some lame excuses, "I have fallen out of love with you, there is no spark, no chemistry," "it's not you, it's me," "I need to figure out who I am outside of a relationship,: blah blah blah. Like I said excuses. Only to find out that ultimately, she had met someone else and is moving in with them in a week. About the same time she fell out of love with me, this new person came into her life.

 

Anyway, I still love this girl and find it difficult to get through any given day without thinking about her. I cry and wonder what I've done. I find myself looking to facebook to see what she is up to. I'll email or text her just for some contact. I know this is bad and I am trying my very best not to make contact with her. It has been since Friday morning since I have last made contact with her..... I am trying my very best. But is it good enough?

 

I just can't understand how someone can turn off feelings like she has. Does she regret quitting us? Does she think about me? Does she even care anymore? Why can't I stop thinking about her? She has hurt me like no other. The one person I trusted in the world was so rotten to me, so ugly... why can't I bring myself to hate her? Instead I grieve our relationship. It hurts so bad, I have never felt more alone and lonely in my life!

[Bito]

I am so sorry to hear about your situation, my heart breaks for you

 

You need to go complete 100% no contact. This means removing her from facebook (or just deactivate yours). Do not text her. Do not email her.

 

I know the pain is a constant onslaught of dread and despair. Imagining life without her twists the knife that pierced your heart. It seems as if you will never recover or feel happy or even normal again. Dont worry though, you WILL.

 

What you must do is tell yourself the truth about what has happened. You were cheated on, lied to, and betrayed. NO ONE who does that is worth the love you give. Not even her...

 

I promise you there are brighter days ahead even if that seems impossible to you right now.

 

You must be strong on move on. It will take time though. It could be many weeks or even months until the hurt starts to become tolerable.

 

Just remember you are not alone and almost every good person in the world has felt the way you do now.

 

Remember stay strong and you will come out the other side of this an even better person!