roundy Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 Sorry guys just venting I am so very close to breaking my no contact I thought it best just to post on here to avoid sending the dreaded text message. Conflicting info between head and heart sucks I really hope this helps, and if so I might keep it up until I feel better. Link to post Share on other sites
Bito Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 Do not break No Contact. You will only feel worse if you do. Try and do something to take your mind off of your ex. Call a friend or go out and do something. Stay strong Link to post Share on other sites
Dblock10 Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 how long you been nc? dont send the txt message. try and think about the outcome... im sure you know it wouldnt be good. are you a guy? Link to post Share on other sites
Author roundy Posted August 14, 2011 Author Share Posted August 14, 2011 I'm on day one, shameful I know... The problem I'm struggling with is that me and my girlfriend were together over 6 years and having seen her recently I can't help but think NC might be a mistake, I think there may still be feelings but she is scared of hurting me again as i took the breakup really bad. I don't know whether NC will make her miss me more and realise whats gone from her life, or if she thinks I don't care anymore and makes her determined to scrap any feelings she might still have. She told me she loved me, and if it could feel like it did when we last met up it would be perfect, but she seems reluctant to try because she is afraid that if it does fade away again that I wouldn't be able to take a second heartbreak Link to post Share on other sites
Queen of Hearts 10 Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 Six years is a long time how come no marriage ? No wonder why one day is hard to do ! Link to post Share on other sites
Dblock10 Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 6 years yikes! id have proposed if it was me. but, everything happens for a reason mate. see by the looks of it the power dynamic isnt in your favour at all! you appear weak and needy to her. so contacting her will make you look weak and needy and that you cant handle life without her. thus= making you look weak. and weakness isnt attractive to woman. trust me. you need to be strong, look at things rationally and logically. so basically you two fell out of love? this is why she is worried it might fade away again? you need to play it cool i think. 6 years is a long time, she wont just jump into something with someone else right away. i think limited contact would be best not nc in this case. nc would be if you truely want to move on and know that she isnt worth it or that she has made you feel not worth it. Link to post Share on other sites
Queen of Hearts 10 Posted August 14, 2011 Share Posted August 14, 2011 So this time apart is for both of you to examine your head, heart and soul. I would stay away for 10 days and then make contact. What ever made it go bad will surface, and then you both can work on a plan to fix things. It's hard to be in a land where there is hope and then rejection. It's very hard to get over someone too ! Which we never do ! They become a part of our story in life. The answer will come from both of your heart of hearts. I hope the pain subsides, you step back and calm down, and allow for things to happen. I wish you the best of luck ! Link to post Share on other sites
Author roundy Posted August 14, 2011 Author Share Posted August 14, 2011 Thanks guys, I was planning on proposing soon but as we are both only 22 I just felt that we needed to live a little, I didn't want her regretting things in life I know I still love her but I think she is afraid of breaking up again. We did fall out of love as such, we got into a routine and I think it ground us down. I honestly believe though that things can be fixed, but I don't know how she will come to the same conclusion. Link to post Share on other sites
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