what is wrong with me?

[midkirby]

Have a boyfriend of almost one year, with short break in between. Went to restaurant the other night and waitress had a great body with perfect butt, about a size 2. The next day, another female with fake books and a nice tan. My boyfriend ogled both of them. The first one he tried to play it cool and look kind of by accident and the second one he really didn't try to hide it. To describe myself, not bad looking, but I have no butt at all and no boobs. I have great legs, nice arms and shoulders from working out and about a size 6. I have decided that I am not enough for him. The way he looked at them is a way that he doesn't look at me. Don't get me wrong....I have the higher libido and he never turns me down for sex. I also don't care if he watches porn either. It is just with these women right in front of me, the look he gives is disrespectful. My boyfriend is nice looking but a little over weight, I see other men but don't give them a second glance or stare. I have now decided that I need to get a boob job because being skinny isn't enough to make a good body. My boyfriend tells me I have a nice body but I disagree. I think he loves me but really wants something different or someone with a perfect body. I don't see what he t, but I don't. He just doesn't look at me the way he did them. Is something wrong with me? Should I break up and find someone who won't disrespect me or just get a boob job?

[Kelemort]

There's a respectful and a disrespectful way to look at other women. If you're WITH your girlfriend and she's right there in front of you, looking right at you, your best bet is to glance and then glance away as soon as you realize it's a woman walking by. But even then, a quick glance is one thing. If he looks..then follows her as she walks along, it's disrespectful (been there, done that).

 

But you're also projecting all of your body insecurities onto this guy. Look, one way or another, they're going to look at other women - women you think are hotter than you, uglier than you, etc. That's just a reality of life you'll have to learn to contend with. It doesn't say anything about you. And women can totally get by in this life without boobs.

 

Don't alter your body in the vain hope that it's going to make a man want you. You'll be footing tons of bills. At your size, just try to focus on yourself. Don't compare yourself to other women - unless, of course, he is comparing you to them.

 

In which case you gtfo if you can.

[midkirby]

I do agree with what you say. In reality, isn't that what they think in their minds....I wish my girlfriend looked like that? I know men will always look and I honestly don't mind. It is just really hurtful to focus on areas of the body that I am lacking in.

[Professor X]

Whatever you decide, just don't do a boob job FOR him.

 

If you are sure it's the only way, than break up with him, than do a boob job and after that find a NEW man.

 

But in any case, you should know nothing is wrong with you. Not at all. You sound smart and easy going, so cheer up!