People who now live together after LDR, I need to ask something?

[UglyCupcake]

Hey everyone!

 

I'll try to keep this short, I always tend to write far too much, even if I'd just want to ask a simple question...

 

I met the love of my life about 3 years ago online. He lives in England and I live in Finland, and through these 3 years we've been visiting each other quite a few times, and also got married in last May. Everything's perfect, we have our ups & downs and life is good, and I'm so looking forward to next month as that's when I finally get to be with him for good - I'm moving to England after 3 long years being apart from each other!

 

ANYWAY, the question... I was just curious about how you guys have actually felt after moving together for the first time? I mean, obviously effin' great, but is it strange after all those months/years apart and never living together before?

Even if I am 110 % sure it will be so beautiful, I'm just thinking is it odd after all those years (when we haven't been able for example to talk, eat together and cuddle) to actually start living a life that includes all those normal things you haven't been able to do before together?

 

I'm not worried about it, I'm just wondering what to expect... I know it will be kinda strange to move to a completely different country, but right now it just feels like my head is going to explode as I'm so excited, meeting the love of your life and then living 3 long years without them by your side is the worst torture ever, luckily now it's over!

 

Hopefully someone can give me answers, and to all of you who are just starting/living in a LDR, hang in there!

Just live your life, day by day, and once you are together and you look back into your life, be sure you don't say "I just waited all those years". Make sure you can say "I lived all those years" instead. Concentrate to yourself, study, work, be creative... Anything, just keep yourself busy and make sure you don't just sit and moan how you miss this person! I know it's hard, but luckily time goes faster when you're having fun

 

 

Take care everyone and like I said, stay strong, love tends to win everything if it's strong enough!

 

x

[pty8]

haha i think your so excited your trying to ask what its going to be like. well to cut a long story short me and my wife were apart for 2 years California to UK before we lived together.

 

It was amazing, you will reflect back alot appreciate each others company alot more. things you may of done online like spend time writing letters will now be done by just talking to each other face to face, which is less physical but a great feeling when being apart.

 

Its a magical experience and you will always feel that appreciation that other conventional couple will never and its a beautiful thing. you may also find you may not have as in depth conversations as you may over the phone or on the internet which is why i now believe its easier to actually get to know someone in a long distance relationship on the internet than it would be physically being together because all you can do is talk and relate when online or on the phone, but when together you feel like theres not such a need, but that will come after a few weeks/months.

 

Personally for us it wasnt all great tho, as my wife was having major issues being away from ALL her family and friends (mainly family) as she was the type to be very close to her family, and for a long time there was alot of down times for her, including sleepless nights in uncomfortable surroundings for maybe 2 months. she still misses her family after 3 years but is accepting and can deal with it now.

 

I think you should just wait and see, and when you are together you wont have time to be writing on websites like this hehe.