Meeting girls at University

[counterman]

Hi, I am currently studying and would simply like to meet/date more girls. I have heard from many people that it is harder after you leave uni to meet people, so I want to take advantage of the next few years and date as much as possible and hopefully enjoy myself while I am at it.

 

I do not live on campus but have found that I am most attracted to college girls and would like to meet more of them. Currently, I meet girls at various random places on campus but not ones that I am attracted to often enough.

 

I have joined clubs and societies and haven't met any girls that I have been interested in. And just meeting girls in class is very limiting.

 

So, what should I do to make the most of the uni experience and meet more girls? I'm asking especially those girls that are still studying.

 

How about college girls? Do they prefer college guys?

[John Michael Kane]

Hi, I am currently studying and would simply like to meet/date more girls. I have heard from many people that it is harder after you leave uni to meet people, so I want to take advantage of the next few years and date as much as possible and hopefully enjoy myself while I am at it.

 

I do not live on campus but have found that I am most attracted to college girls and would like to meet more of them. Currently, I meet girls at various random places on campus but not ones that I am attracted to often enough.

 

I have joined clubs and societies and haven't met any girls that I have been interested in. And just meeting girls in class is very limiting.

 

So, what should I do to make the most of the uni experience and meet more girls? I'm asking especially those girls that are still studying.

 

How about college girls? Do they prefer college guys?

 

One thing I did to attract any woman was to be myself. Just start a normal conversation and let it flow from there.

[xoxoDaniellexoxo]

I'd say just participate in different activities you like. I know that at my college we have competitions between dorms and we basicly have a singing competition. It is sooo much fun because people take it seriously but not to the point of being a bad thing. My house also usually does like a team building thing once a month, be it making tee shirts, or movie marathons or game night. I got involved in a ton of clubs and stuff because at my high school they never had a club that suited me! I have met some of my best friends through them. And like others said BE YOURSELF!!

[grkBoy]

It depends on the girls you want to meet.

 

When I was in college, I saw a lot of pretty girls, but too many were already in RLs that would probably lead to marriage. The single women I encountered were either "messed up in the head" or the types who wanted "above average" men and/or they didn't take part in the "campus thing". These women would go to school, go home, and then on weekends be dressed to the nines at the clubs looking to pick up hot yuppies.

 

My suggestion is to try a frat. I know they seem demeaning, but I've known many more "geeky" guys who met girls because they were in a frat...thus lots of associating with sororities.

[xoxoDaniellexoxo]

It depends on the girls you want to meet.

 

When I was in college, I saw a lot of pretty girls, but too many were already in RLs that would probably lead to marriage. The single women I encountered were either "messed up in the head" or the types who wanted "above average" men and/or they didn't take part in the "campus thing". These women would go to school, go home, and then on weekends be dressed to the nines at the clubs looking to pick up hot yuppies.

 

My suggestion is to try a frat. I know they seem demeaning, but I've known many more "geeky" guys who met girls because they were in a frat...thus lots of associating with sororities.

 

True a lot of guys are the typical frat boy but i've met some really nice guys too. Plus my soroity and a frat do a big brother type thing where a frat guy shows a new girl around to classes and stuff. We have a lot of events where we are all there with them be it tailgaiting or a dance it is a great way to meet people. If you are looking for a nice girl though she probably won't be the resident party girl that every guy has either kissed or slept with. I'm not a big drinker so usually I am watching the beer pong games or sitting talking to people.

[counterman]

Thanks John for the advice. Whenever I think I need to do something more or less, I think of just being myself and not trying to be someone else.

 

What I've noticed is the clubs and societies I have participated in, although they were fun, I didn't mean any girls I was interested in. It's like attractive girls don't join those or something. And I don't think I can apply for college since I live about half an hour away from campus...and they reserve the college spots for other students. But I do want to experience what college is like.

 

And I don't think I can join a frat, not being in college. But would be open to joining one if I could.

 

I meet girls during my break between classes and I randomly approach some. However, it's not always fun... and I don't meet nearly as many as I want to.

 

I want to meet a beautiful, intelligent girl who doesn't think she's self-entitled and who is still at least a little bit innocent. One who's mature and doesn't play games.

[grkBoy]

True a lot of guys are the typical frat boy but i've met some really nice guys too. Plus my soroity and a frat do a big brother type thing where a frat guy shows a new girl around to classes and stuff. We have a lot of events where we are all there with them be it tailgaiting or a dance it is a great way to meet people. If you are looking for a nice girl though she probably won't be the resident party girl that every guy has either kissed or slept with. I'm not a big drinker so usually I am watching the beer pong games or sitting talking to people.

 

I agree. I might rail on the "bro" culture pushed in SOME frats, but that's still SOME. My experiences with frats and sororities have been that they're NOT like what movies and porn make us believe. Sorority girls generally are not the wild Spring Break types who will bang anything with a penis and a pulse.

 

I went to a frat party once at U of I and while I wasn't deep in the culture, the guys there made me think of awkward freshmen who were growing into confident men. They had friends to be with, social capital, and thus were able to grow. These guys were very "average joe" and yet they met women from other sororities...mainly because the frats and sororities do many social and charitable things together.

 

Thus the two genders are thrown into scenarios where they feel "safer" to meet total strangers. Hence why many end up in RLs.

 

It's all about building social capital...and even networking for career help later in life. Take a chance.

[grkBoy]

Thanks John for the advice. Whenever I think I need to do something more or less, I think of just being myself and not trying to be someone else.

 

What I've noticed is the clubs and societies I have participated in, although they were fun, I didn't mean any girls I was interested in. It's like attractive girls don't join those or something. And I don't think I can apply for college since I live about half an hour away from campus...and they reserve the college spots for other students. But I do want to experience what college is like.

 

And I don't think I can join a frat, not being in college. But would be open to joining one if I could.

 

I meet girls during my break between classes and I randomly approach some. However, it's not always fun... and I don't meet nearly as many as I want to.

 

I want to meet a beautiful, intelligent girl who doesn't think she's self-entitled and who is still at least a little bit innocent. One who's mature and doesn't play games.

 

OOooookay...I thought you were in school.

 

So you just want to meet college chicks.

 

Well, then you'll just have to make good money, have a bachelor pad, and a lot of "game". Go to college bars and pick up women the hard way.

 

How old are you? And what "classes" are you attending?

 

 

 

Also...I tried to allude to it in my first response. "Hot" college girls many times don't bother with the clubs and organizations. In my neck of the woods, those girls merely go to classes and then live lives off campus in nightclubs, bars, shopping, etc. Be careful as many of them are narcissistic and often want "upper echelon" men.

 

Bear in mind too that physical beauty is only skin-deep. If the club/organization/sorority girls are all too "eh" for you then you might be setting your standards too high.

[counterman]

OOooookay...I thought you were in school.

 

So you just want to meet college chicks.

 

Well, then you'll just have to make good money, have a bachelor pad, and a lot of "game". Go to college bars and pick up women the hard way.

 

How old are you? And what "classes" are you attending?

 

 

 

Also...I tried to allude to it in my first response. "Hot" college girls many times don't bother with the clubs and organizations. In my neck of the woods, those girls merely go to classes and then live lives off campus in nightclubs, bars, shopping, etc. Be careful as many of them are narcissistic and often want "upper echelon" men.

 

Bear in mind too that physical beauty is only skin-deep. If the club/organization/sorority girls are all too "eh" for you then you might be setting your standards too high.

 

Yep, that's pretty much it. Actually, I don't know... I've only met a few and they seem alright. I don't want the crazy ones... or the ones you're talking about that club a lot and just party heaps. So maybe not. And I don't think that's the lifestyle I truly want when I look deep down.

 

That's a lesson I have to learn. I had a few bland experiences with girls that I found moderately attractive, so started going for girls that I found extremely attractive, but you're right, physical beauty is only skin-deep. A lot of the hotter girls have their pick of men as well... and some aren't just worth the trouble. To be honest, if I met a girl that I really clicked with and that I'm attracted to, I would be happy. It's just I haven't met many that I wanted to go beyond the first meeting or date. I like that feeling of effortless talking to a girl, so much that you lose track of time.

 

I'm 21 and I'm attending some business classes. Should I be crashing arts classes or something?

 

I'll try to participate more in the clubs and societies and see how they go. I haven't been putting effort into them lately.

[grkBoy]

No....but maybe look for social things. The festival on a campus, charity walk, stuff like that.

 

Dating sites, etc. Maybe the lonely ones who don't have a lot of friends?

 

What about your school? Is it a trade school or something?