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i recently broke up with my girlfriend of almost 8 years.we started going out when we were both 14 years old.a month ago we decided to part on good terms but it was more her choice to do so. we are still friends to this day but now she has a guy that she is seeing. she told me herself that he gives her a shoulder to cry on and he listens to her talk. i really dont think she likes him all that much but she just needs someone there with her. her friend puts alot of crap in her head telling her to stay away from me and try something new for a change and my ex finally listened to her.i think she was more talked into dating someone else than wantin it herself. my ex tells me that she wants to get back and thinks about it alot but shes scared to get her feelings hurt again. i really want her back and i know she thinks about it but im not sure what i have to do to get her back.she says she needs the space for herself but when i call she always answers and she calls me also.i dont feel this is what she wants with this new guy and i feel she was forced into it so i want to get her back and i will do anything.please someone help me out so i can stop being miserable

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babyblue894

HI

ALL I CAN SAY 2 U IS MAYBE U SHOULD JUST GIVE HER SOME SPACE FOR A WHILE. IF U CHASE HER SHE MIGHT JUST GET MAD AND END UP HATING YOU.

JUST LET HER KNOW THAT U WOULD LIKE 2 HAVE HER BACK AND LET HER KNOW U WILL ALWAYS BE AROUND WHENEVER U NEED HER.NOT MUCH ADVISE I KNOW BUT GOOD LUCK ANYWAYS WHATEVER U DECIDE 2 DO

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If this guy gives her a shoulder to cry on and listens to her then he might just be a better man than you and might have stole her heart already. Just learn from this experience about what a woman needs for the next one.

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hurtingandconfused
her friend puts alot of crap in her head telling her to stay away from me and try something new for a change and my ex finally listened to her.

 

If this really happened(Which I choose not to believe) your ex is not worth this time you are thinking/writing about her.

 

my ex tells me that she wants to get back and thinks about it alot but shes scared to get her feelings hurt again.

 

Don't make any promises, just tell her how you feel.

 

i really want her back and i know she thinks about it but im not sure what i have to do to get her back.

 

Don't pressure her. That's the worst thing that you can do to win someone back. As I said before, tell her how you feel and let her come to you.

 

i dont feel this is what she wants with this new guy and i feel she was forced into it so i want to get her back and i will do anything.

 

This is not for you to decide. Don't think for her, and come on you cannot possible think that your ex was "forced" on anyone.

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Twilite Man

Give her the space for a month only and learn from the guy that held her when she cried and hold her if she needs to be held

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Space is bad when relationships are beginning or beginning again. You'll give her just enough to slide out of your grasp. Its either sustained effort or give up and find someone new.

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well i have given her her space for a week and a half now and she hasnt called me yet. she promised me several times if i respect her and give her the space she is asking me for she will come back to me.i dont know if i should trust her on this but she has never lied to me before. i spoke to her monday to get a few things from her place and when i told her i was dating one of her ex friends she got really mad. i hope this will make her realize what she gave up and hopefully we can gain our relationship of 8 years back again.

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Twilite Man

Let her have that space remember she has to decide what the hell she is doing with her life. I am seeing my girl coming back to me because I gave her, her space. She had to realize herself that her ex husband will not give her what she wants. She phoned me a few days ago and told me how she misses me and how she doent feel pretty anymore because I am not there. She also told me that she is always sad. So that tells her that she wants me back and hard. I will give her a week and I know that I will be giving you guys some real good information

 

Ron

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hurtingandconfused
i told her i was dating one of her ex friends she got really mad.

 

Why would you do such a thing as to try to make her jealous? Bad move in my book.

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