worlybear Posted August 18, 2011 Share Posted August 18, 2011 Its been a very strange week. My STBX mother in law and family have been staying nearby on holiday. My BIL has an 8 yr old son who is great buddies with my 9 yr old daughter. Inevitably we've chewed over the impending divorce and its brought everything back with a vengeance. I feel that I've taken a huge step back and am very down tonight. They live some distance away and we don't see them much but I keep contact with MIL for the kids- and to be honest, for myself as I get on well with her (better,ironically since the split.) Should I be distancing myself more? I worry that I'll never move forward if I cling to the past but I care for them and my family does too. MIL has no contact with her son (my STBX). It's such a mess. 1st Court date is October and I'm filling in the dreaded form E. I'm also going for a general "interview" tomorrow. What the hell happened to my life? Where did it go? This is a rubbish way to live. BLEUGH. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted August 18, 2011 Share Posted August 18, 2011 ((((Worly)))) You show such strength yet can't see it. If the STBX was man enough to care for his daughter then I would say you do not need to maintain a relationship with your MIL. However seeing as he has not got the b*lls to be a father then it all falls to you to look after your girl. You know the truth of the situation - your daughter needs to see that, apart from one piece of work, everybody else still loves her and want to see her. When my parents divorced, I lost touch with my only surviving grandparents (who did not live in the UK). I managed to reconnect with them as an adult but the damage was done much to my and their sadness. From the age of 12, I never saw them again even though they lived for another 10+ years. Years later, I still miss them and regret never having that time with them. I know you would not wish that on your girl and also your MIL. Link to post Share on other sites
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