JohnEl Posted August 19, 2011 Share Posted August 19, 2011 I'm having a really hard time right now. I want to contact my ex and tell her how much i miss her. I'm posting on here instead. I want to tell her that I can't stop thinking about her. I'm so hurt by what happened. I still want us to get married and have a family. I want to try to convince her to come back. She wanted to marry me just a couple of months ago, now she doesn't even want to see me at all. How can she move on and be happy so fast? I didn't do anything wrong. We just had a fight. It's not worth throwing everything away bc of a fight. I hate feeling like this. I don't know what to do without her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JohnEl Posted August 19, 2011 Author Share Posted August 19, 2011 I keep thinking she's coming back. Once this "fling" is over, she will realize what we had and how great it was and will want to come back. But then I think this might not be a fling af might really be something real. I can't accept that tho. She doesn't want to be with me but it's so hard to accept bc we were together for so long and she loved me so much. We had so much going for us and it all was gone overnight. Link to post Share on other sites
smudge21 Posted August 19, 2011 Share Posted August 19, 2011 You may be right, the fling may well just be a rebound... but that still doesn't mean you should focus on it. I know all too well how having that hope hurts and keeps the ex so much in our minds, but you have to do your best to move away from it. I failed and it hurt so much earlier this week. Please don't do the same - stay no contact. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted August 19, 2011 Share Posted August 19, 2011 Is that being fair to yourself hoping that this is a "fling" and she'll come back to you? Are you okay with being her "second choice"? Dude! You need to start getting mad!! She's out screwing this other guy while you're pining away for her! She's going out on dates with this guy and you're sitting by the phone HOPING she'll call you saying that this was all a mistake! You're putting your life on hold, for what! For someone that probably hasn't even thought of you at all today, or even yesterday? Have you even considered that she hooked up with this guy just one week after your break up? Doesn't that strike you as weird? And because of that. Have you considered that SHE WAS PROBABLY CHEATING ON YOU TO ENTER THAT RELATIONSHIP SO QUICKLY!!! Why would you want to be with a person like that! Dude, hate to be harsh, but you REALLY need to start saying she's gone and GOOD RIDDANCE!!!!! Now, I posted on one of your other threads on what you need to start doing.....so, start doing it!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Tippytoes Posted August 19, 2011 Share Posted August 19, 2011 I am in the same situation man, me and my exgirlfriend were talking about marriage and havin a family and 2 weeks later she left. I am destroyed and hurt and made the mistake of contacting her. Be stronger than me and dont do it. Conactingnher will just prolong the pain. You have to go out and be single and learn to be happy without her. There are only good things that can happen from not contacting her. You can meet someone else and realize that you dont even want her back. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JohnEl Posted August 19, 2011 Author Share Posted August 19, 2011 I hope your right. I'm not going to contact her. It's so hard letting go. I'm still in some shock that we are actually broken up and that she's actually with someone else... Link to post Share on other sites
Dblock10 Posted August 19, 2011 Share Posted August 19, 2011 (edited) yeah it goes like this. shock. denial. self blame. jealously. anger. hate. love. hate. acceptance. moving on. moved on. don't care! i think you know yourself contacting her wouldn't achieve anything. i went through it and didnt contact her. i eventually had my say in person. i was a lot stronger by then and didnt care about the out come. i did it for me and it lifted a HUGE weight off me. Edited August 19, 2011 by Dblock10 Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted August 19, 2011 Share Posted August 19, 2011 obviously you know you shouldn't do it. doesn't make it any easier, believe me I know. stay strong. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JohnEl Posted August 20, 2011 Author Share Posted August 20, 2011 i almost gave in but i stayed strong and didnt contact her. its hard tho. i want to know what shes doing. ive always known what shes doing for three years, now its nothing at all. its a very difficult transition and the unknown future is scary. Link to post Share on other sites
Dblock10 Posted August 20, 2011 Share Posted August 20, 2011 just know that the situation you are in wont benefit you to know what she is doing. sorry that it has to be this way for you. i can literally see myself in your shoes 3 years ago Link to post Share on other sites
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