still crying...ugh!

[alexa137]

its been 3 weeks of no contact and im still crying, I hate fridays! the weekends are the worst, because i am alone and thinkin of him! its hard not to, everytime i log on to dating sites he is there! either online and one of my matches! so then i start crying, how am i supposed to move on and try to meet new guys and date if i cant stop? oh my god, i hope so much that the next girl hurts him and that he regrets stop talking to me! i still wish hope and pray he realizes im a good person and contact me- every night i go to bed and it takes me like 2 hrs to fall asleep because im thinking and wondering and upset and crying and depressed! i wake up thinking why all the time- why me? why cant i find a good man? the days are so slow, its only been 3 weeks and it seems alot longer!

i try and think of the negative from the siuation but really he didnt treat me bad at all, he was good, so thats a hard part. the only bad negative about it is that he didnt like my attitude about a situation and decided to ignore me and stop talking to me, didnt even give me a second chance! i try to tell myself hes mean, not caring, not thoughtful and ignorant and rude, but it still hurts alot!

ugh! yes im just venting! sorry

[Yuzuki]

I think many of us know what you mean by dreading Friday evenings and the weekend in general. It upsets me when people try to cheer me up by reminding me it's the weekend - when in fact it's probably worse than weekdays.

 

If I were you I would avoid dating sites for now, you're not ready to get involved with anyone else. Just take the time to grieve. It'll get better eventually.

[radiodarcy]

i know what you mean about the weekends being the hardest to deal with. i remember the first couple of months of NC all i did during the weekend was lie in bed , cry, stare at the tv, and think about all the fun he was having with his new gf .

 

it didn't help that it we were in the dead of winter and it was always cold and overcast. but over time, i started focusing on other interests and once the weather warmed up i started lining up things to do with friends and family and after awhile, the weekends weren't as empty and lonely as they were before.

 

i would definitely recommend staying off the dating websites - - especially his profile. it's not going to do you any good to know what he's up to. all it's going to do is make you feel worse- - which i'm sure you already know.

 

the grieving phase of a break up is hard enough, there's no need to add to your pain.

[alexa137]

I dont look at his profile on any of the sites it just pops up a "match"- i wouldnt date click on it, because then he would get a notification email that i looked at his profile! it just comes up in my search, because i search for men close to my age and with the same intentions, wants and needs and similiar interests as me. i spend 3 or 4 hrs at the pool almost every other day til summer is over, but im gonna really dread the winter! its bad enough that i hibernate because i hate the cold and snow but wont go anywhere but the grocery store! my family lives 1,000 miles away and my friends(well 2) are all busy with work and kids etc so they dont have time to spend with me but maybe once in a while

or they live out of town

[singsparkles]

First off- 3 weeks of NC??? GREAT to hear!!! Keep it up!! You're strength will only make you feel GREAT in the end and make you feel better about yourself! Just give it time. Things will get better if you think positive about life and focus on all the things you could be doing now that the relationship is over!!! Make your life amazing, only you could do that!

 

 

I'm going through the same thing! It makes it harder to get over someone when you're sitting home night after night after night. My friends try and drag me out, but yet I am too depressed to even get out of bed because the break up just stays on my mind and it controls me. I know it's hard to see the problem- but it is us! They might be horrible men and not right for us, but in the end we let them control us and our emotions and that makes us the problem! We need to start doing things for ourselves.

 

 

 

Even if you don't go out Friday nights, you should find a hobby or something you like to do- even if it's working out to relieve stress, collecting something, playing a sport, taking bubble baths and giving yourself facials, anything! Just do something for you!!!

 

 

You CAN find a good men! Good men will find you when you feel good about yourself and your life. And when a good men finds you, it's going to be that other guys LOSS and he will feel like crap for losing something great!! But even when he figures it out, don't give in because you mean more and you deserve better than a guy that just realizes he doesn't want to be with you just because of a random opinion you had about something. He may have not treated you bad, but at the same time sounds like he was a jerk!!

 

 

 

Please keep the NC going and just work on yourself! Shut him out! He's not worth your time or energy. In the end, you want a guy who will waste his time and energy on you and will love you unconditionally. This guy won't be that guy for you, nor will he be that guy for anyone, so you should really pity the next woman he is with because he will probably get turned off by something random she says or does and it will be the end of it. He has issues with himself that reflect why he's the way he is!

 

 

Just focus on yourself, and do things to make YOU happy, and keep NC because your strength is BEAUTY! One day you will find the guy of your dreams and you will look back on this guy and think "what a loser!" ...it happens all the time!