3 years gone and i feel empty

[Brenton]

my ex and i were dating for a little over 3 years, and ofcourse we had our rough patches throughout, but recently, she became more and more distant, we met when i was in 10th grade, and she was in 9th, i did everything i could to make us whole, and the entire time, all i wanted was the desire to feel wanted, but it seemed to never get through to her, she told me she loved me, we both poured our hearts out in desperation on a couple of occasions, but last week, i was suppose to see her one day, and she cancelled last minute to hang with some friends, it really irritated me, but i didnt think too much of it. went on to not talk to her the whole day, until 5am the next morning, she called and said she couldnt sleep, she had been up thinking, and that she thinks its best if we part ways, given that she will be going to college in new york, and i will be home. she said she wasnt in love with me anymore, i asked why, and i think it had something to do with this guy she had been talking to lately, but i didnt know for sure, so i kept quiet, but she said its just how she has been feeling, i convinced her to get breakfeast (considering it was early anyway) and i went to get her, breakfeast was great, we held hands, shared laughter, and then went back to my place. it was awkward at first, but we talked more and it eventually led to a kiss, which led to us being intimate. after all was said and done, she started to cry saying "i shouldnt be doing this, im leaving you". and it broke me, i took her back home, and almost cried with her there. i stoped in front of her house, she kissed me on the cheek and said shes always gonna love me. i eventually have to go back and get my things, and i keep messing up "no contact", ill send a petty text saying "hope everything is good with you" with no response... i feel like she doesnt care at all, and is suffering no heartbreak. i myself find me with no confidence, thinking im not handsome anymore, and my music i make is starting to fall. what can i do? i want my baby back, and i eventually have to return this heart lockett with our picture in it... she always wanted it...

[Nohbody]

It isn't going to help when I say that you are young and this kind of is all too common. The pain you are feeling has been shared throughout human history with anyone who has ever loved someone else and been left.

 

What is going to help is focusing on you, and what you can do to make yourself happy and be a better person. School is starting soon, so it might be good for you to go to classes. Get out, meet new people, do new things. Stay occupied, find some new hobbies. Don't worry about her, what she's doing, or how she is feeling. That has nothing to do with you, now.

 

And mail her the locket, or throw it into the abyss. It doesn't matter, but don't use it as an excuse to go see her. She's made up her mind to not be with you right now, and nothing you do will change her mind. So get away.

[reimeivn]

i feel like she doesnt care too. it will take you a while to really understand this. but i think it is a good thing that she is leaving you. you will look back at this and think hey i didnt break up with her so i didnt have to rethink my decision. i just moved on.

 

when you truly love somebody you dont just stop loving that person. and when she says that, it means the "love" she has for you hasnt got there yet, hasnt got to the point of being "real love" yet. and so it is okay you are not with her anymore, she will possibly cheat on you with the guy or something like that.