sportsfan1 Posted August 20, 2011 Share Posted August 20, 2011 I was wondering. My parents really don't like mygf. She's for one white and spanish not black. She's poor and she has a very outspoken personality. My parents are very ethnocentric wealthy and think she's using me. But I do think we love each other. Even though, I really wasn't into the idea of having bi-racial kids but she wants badly to have it nothing I can do to change her mind. We're both very young. We still depend on them. I'm wondering how do you tell upset parents about it? Link to post Share on other sites
AmEricanWomann Posted August 21, 2011 Share Posted August 21, 2011 I was wondering. My parents really don't like mygf. She's for one white and spanish not black. She's poor and she has a very outspoken personality. My parents are very ethnocentric wealthy and think she's using me. But I do think we love each other. Even though, I really wasn't into the idea of having bi-racial kids but she wants badly to have it nothing I can do to change her mind. We're both very young. We still depend on them. I'm wondering how do you tell upset parents about it? Just sit them down and very calmly tell them that you're expecting a baby with her. Before you tell them, you can soften the blow by saying that you respect their opinion and really would like their advice and guidance. But I question why you would have unprotected sex with this young woman if you were so not into the idea of having bi-racial children. If you tell me you were protected, I find that hard to believe. Most contraception is extremely reliable these days when used properly, but even if weren't, why were you having sex with someone you couldn't imagine having kids with? Not all sex leads to pregnancy, but when you sleep with someone you have to understand that unless one of you has been tested 100 percent sterile, all straight sexual intercourse has the possibility of leading to pregnancy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sportsfan1 Posted August 22, 2011 Author Share Posted August 22, 2011 if you want to believe I had unprotected sex go ahead. But the truth is I did everythiing to avoid it. And all you had to do was ask instead of assume how I lived my life. There's no need to guess if I'll answer is there. I'm still in college. I don't think many teenagersplan to have kids with their SO's do you think this soon. You do realize westill have sex as many adults do and have a right to. I need their help as much as possiblenow I feel they'll just desert me and her and leave me to handle it all. Link to post Share on other sites
DaisyLeigh Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 if you want to believe I had unprotected sex go ahead. But the truth is I did everythiing to avoid it. And all you had to do was ask instead of assume how I lived my life. There's no need to guess if I'll answer is there. I'm still in college. I don't think many teenagersplan to have kids with their SO's do you think this soon. You do realize westill have sex as many adults do and have a right to. I need their help as much as possiblenow I feel they'll just desert me and her and leave me to handle it all. Sure you have a right. As long as you take precautions and are willing to accept the consequences if the precautions fail. Then and only then, do you have a "right" to have sex. That also means you may have to deal with it yourself, without the help of your parents. That is what ADULTS do. If you are 18, you are an adult. If you are not willing to face consequences, then you are not ready to have sex. Good luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sportsfan1 Posted August 23, 2011 Author Share Posted August 23, 2011 I'm not 18. But really has nothingtodo with my situation. Not all college students are 18 and up. I'm willing to deal with it if I weren't I'd beincanada right now. And one way to deal with it is abortion you know which was our agreement. But she didnt keep her promise. But it's just everytime I think I'll tell them I don't ijust don't want to make matters worst on her orme. She's had a lot to deal with in this week or so.... Link to post Share on other sites
ja123 Posted August 23, 2011 Share Posted August 23, 2011 sportsfan, Sorry you're in the situation you are in. Can you go see a cousellor? And can you and the young woman go see a counsellor? Then when you have some professional coaching in your corner you will be more likely to find the courage to tell your parents. No one can force the your gf to have an abortion, but maybe if the options and consequences are presented to her, then she'll better be able to come to a decision whether it be for or against or adoption. Do her parents know that she's pregnant? You musn't wait on this ... time is marching on. Check with your local health clinic or college as to what services are available. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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