Is this an addiction or emotional affair or Am I been paranoid?

[GrainofSalt]

The problem came about last month when I was so focused on trying to land a job and kept working on my portfolio to late hours. My time was spent allot on improving my job prospects but I always tried to make sure I was available to her and asked her to bear with me during this period.

 

She lost her job in this month and things at home became worse and I feel she was depressed and probably felt alone. Her friends were marrying and that just aggravated the situation.

 

So she was invited to IMVU by her sisters and since then all the tell signs of an online-game addict have begun to show their faces.

 

She spends less time talking with me, and always with her online group of friends. I also noticed that a few guys had sent her messages, one in particular who she met from IMVU is completed fixated on her. Some of their avatar pictures of both of them from the site are quite intimate and the way she has begun to act leads me to think she might be having an emotional relationship with this guy. She also added him to her msn and I happen to see a video clip of himself, which he sent to her.

 

It doesn’t help knowing that this person lives in the same town as she does while I am a long distance away.

I had a long talk with her yesterday that she has to stop using that site because I felt it could lead to the destruction of what we have built so far.

 

I am trying not too do anything drastic and have explained to her the dangers of what she is exposing herself too. She said she will stop soon that she is doing something and will let me know what it is.

 

What has me confused is that she joined the site since July and has been speaking to this guy for over 7weeks now. So what exactly is she up too. She goes on to say that once she tells me, I will apologize to her and I shouldn't worry cos she isnt addicted or immature.

 

I have told her if she decides to keep using the site, I will take my leave because I hate to have this blow up in my face.

 

I will be traveling in less than a week for work and I wont be able to keep in-touch as frequent. I dont know whether to trust in her words. We have never had any trust issues in the past which has me worried because as I am typing this up, I can see she and this other guy are both online.

 

I can still access her email account and she hasnt changed any of her passwords. That I had to find out all about this myself just last week when normally she will inform me if a guy is trying to hit on her is what worries me. I am confused and I dont know if I should jump into conclusions.

 

One thing is clear, some things have changed. She is not talking to me as often. What do you think I should do?

Edited August 20, 2011 by GrainofSalt