Samantha16 Posted May 3, 2004 Share Posted May 3, 2004 I slept at my boyfriends house the other night. Before I got there we had gotten into a small argument...nothing major. But I was so tired so I didn't want to have sex with him that night and I ended up just falling asleep. The next morning I could kind of feel that he was mad at me. I wasn't sure if it was because we didn't have sex. It could've been because of the argument. We were lying in bed and I asked him what was wrong... He told me he had a bad dream. I asked him what the dream was and he said that he killed me. Immediately tears came to my eyes...it sounded so terrible of him to say. Why would he dream of killing me? I asked what happened and he said that he choked me to death. I got up and sat on the couch. I knew something was up and he sounded so careless about it. I asked him what was going on because obviously there's something behind this dream. Then he said if he knew he was going to be questioned about it he wouldn't have told me. I said, " of course i'm going to question you! you just told me you had a dream that you killed me! What do you want me to do? Just say "ok" and go back to bed?" Basically he said yeah. He said, "Don't worry, I'm not going to kill you, I just had a dream." He wouldn't tell me any details. I should've left his house. But I stayed and tried to be nice and forget about it. The rest of the day went fine. I guess I wanted to make things better and change whatever it was that was going on in his head. But I can't seem to get this out of my mind. It makes me sick. I still think it's bad even though it was a dream, because when you're dreaming, you usually think it's real. What's going on? Link to post Share on other sites
j_nelson Posted May 3, 2004 Share Posted May 3, 2004 Nothing is going on..it was a dream...he can't control his dreams...it was just a coincidence that you guys were arguing and he had that particular dream...you are reading way too deep into this... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Samantha16 Posted May 3, 2004 Author Share Posted May 3, 2004 I've never had a dream I killed anyone, let alone him! Why, is this a normal thing to dream about killing people? did YOU ever kill a girlfriend in your dream? I wont even cheat on him in my dreams because i think it's real! I know he wont ever actually choke me to death, but by telling me, he was obviouly trying to get a reaction out of me. You wouldn't be mad? Or hurt? It wasn't a nice feeling to hear that he choked me to death Link to post Share on other sites
Author Samantha16 Posted May 3, 2004 Author Share Posted May 3, 2004 It would've been more practical to hear he cheated on me or dumped me. He's supposed to love me. Man, I must've been a real b*tch in his dream!! I wonder what I did....hope I put up a fight at least Link to post Share on other sites
j_nelson Posted May 3, 2004 Share Posted May 3, 2004 I don't know why he had a dream about that....i'm not a psychologist so i won't try and answer that one....but i do think you are looking way too deep into this one...everyone has very weird and strange dreams at times...i dont think you need to worry at all.... Link to post Share on other sites
Leikela Posted May 3, 2004 Share Posted May 3, 2004 Dreams are just dreams. I've had dreams I've killed people before. It doesn't mean I am going to go out there and do it. Perhaps your boyfriend was just mad at you before you went to sleep and that was his outlet for his anger. We all use the phrase, "She/He's going to kill me" or "My Mom is going to kill me". We don't really mean it and dreams tend to be literal so maybe last night he felt like he wanted to kill you in that sense but then dreamed the reality of it. Know what I'm saying? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Samantha16 Posted May 3, 2004 Author Share Posted May 3, 2004 Ok, I guess I don't have a reason to be mad. sorry. thanks for the reply Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted May 3, 2004 Share Posted May 3, 2004 Samantha - what are you sorry for? And yes, you shouldn't be mad at him for having a dream. I've had dreams that I've killed people - one was quite horrific and I still remember some of it. But only some of it - you know how dreams are. He probably couldn't talk about it because he couldn't remember very much of it and what he did remember didn't make much sense. And I bet he doesn't remember any of it now. Maybe you're angry because he could have been a bit more sensitive about the way he told you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Samantha16 Posted May 3, 2004 Author Share Posted May 3, 2004 Yeah that's probably it. Link to post Share on other sites
iceprincess Posted May 3, 2004 Share Posted May 3, 2004 That was really insenstive of your boyfriend to just carelessly say that he killed you in his dream and then put it off like it was nothing. You would think that he'd be all scared and hugging you when he woke up instead of just laying there. Link to post Share on other sites
FreeMe Posted May 3, 2004 Share Posted May 3, 2004 I wouldn't be mad at him for having the dream, but I would be mad that he told me and was obviously trying to get a reaction and being a jerk about it. Sounds like he's a game player. Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted May 3, 2004 Share Posted May 3, 2004 Yeah, seriously. What they hell are you supposed to think when someone says, "I killed you. Yeah. Choked you to death." Like it ain't no thing. That would freak me out. Anyway... why would a guy be mad at you because you were too tired to have sex? That's alarming. So he dreams about killing you? This guy sounds kind of controlling/abusive, girl. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Samantha16 Posted May 3, 2004 Author Share Posted May 3, 2004 Thanks for understanding guys. I don't know, when people responded to me that I shouldn't be mad at all and it's not a big deal because it's just a dream, I felt kind of bad about myself. It made me feel like I might be an overdramatic person and no right to be mad. I knew it wasn't THAT big of a deal in the first place, and I knew he wasn't ACTUALLY going to kill me, I was just really insulted because I don't disrespect him like that. I'm just glad you guys know where I'm coming from. Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
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