mrcompass Posted May 3, 2004 Share Posted May 3, 2004 I can relate to outkast posting. Since I have graduated from tech school and training all my friends don't care if I'm around. They all have their own lives I understand, but unless I initiate conversation to them we never speak. We used to get along great. No one seems to miss me if i'm not around and no one congradulated me when I graduated, even though I went to their graduations. I guess its time for me to find new friends, but this still bugs me ALOT! Oh, and if that weren't enough... me and this one woman (part of the same group) had developed an interest in each other... or so I thought. She would ignore me around them and only when we were alone did she seem to care. Adding to THAT aggravation is the fact that my sister and her are best friends. She knows what the problem is, but won't tell me or guide me in the right direction. I've decided to end this and find new friends. Ones that don't act like they are still in high school (despite the fact most are graduating college). Thanks for any input u all can give. I just needed to get this of my chest. Link to post Share on other sites
tattoomytoe Posted May 3, 2004 Share Posted May 3, 2004 i agree, do not snub them, but certainly do not work to hard on their friendships unless they are willing to too. and eventually they will phase out. Link to post Share on other sites
Becks84 Posted May 3, 2004 Share Posted May 3, 2004 I sometimes feel this way about some of my friends too...but I know myself and I know that I think too much and almost "imagine" that people are being mean to me, when really they don't have bad intentions at all. Before writing them off, talk them, or at least one of them that you were closest with. I mean if these were your best friends for a long time, you should be able to go to them with something bothering you like this. Ask what it's all about and why they've been acting this way. If you dont like the answer you recieve, then yes, I would say move on. But it's easier said than done. It will take time, and you are going to first and foremost need to be completely happy with yourself and realize that you have done nothing wrong. That's very important! People's actions toward us are very often not even because of us at all, but because of them! This may sound strange; I have read two books just on this topic, and it really makes sense! So, go ahead and stand up to them, ask what's up. Good luck to you! -becks Link to post Share on other sites
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