Moonstar Posted May 4, 2004 Share Posted May 4, 2004 Can you help a guy out with some girl advice? In a nutshell, I moved to L.A. last summer and had a hard time meeting people. On the eve of the New Year I met a girl in San Diego (but from L.A.) and we swept each other off our feet. We spent about three months together and I treated her like a queen. WE talked and saw each other non-stop when suddenly, she took a dramatic turn and stopped calling, started being really un-kind to me. I ask her for a committment the next day, and she says she can't because she's moving to northern california with a man she's known for 2 years over the phone and the internet. She met him in person for the first time while me and her were dating, but she always assured me that we were just friends. He would always call her while we were together, and I became comfortable that nothing was going on between them. Well, that night she tells me she loves him. We kiss, and she's crying saying she can't be with me. I even ask her if I could make love to her one last time, and she promises with a resounding "yes". A couple weeks pass and I pick up the phone to see how she's doing, she says fine. The next day I go to her house...she's happy to see me and she apologizes for hurting me. When i ask her why she really wants to move, she says to get away from her mother (because she never got along with her). I find out that her and this other man are boyfriend/girlfriend, already in a committed relationship and I get a little angry that she got into another relationship so soon. So I tell her that her lies hurt me, that I was always honest. I deleted her number, deleted her off of my friendster list, e-mails...the whole nine. She fails to even mention to her man that we were physical, that she was serious about me, that we were intensely into each other for a long while. She says he doesn't need to know the details. So I e-mail him telling him that I loved her, that we were physical, but that she's a liar and heart-breaker. That she's kept a lot from him. Sorry, didn't mean to share my life story but I guess I just wanted to find a random person who knew a lot about this kinda stuff. What do you think? Do you think she'll get a reality check? I know I need to move on, but that stubborn part of me says she'll call unexpectedly one of these days. Link to post Share on other sites
sportsloving Posted May 4, 2004 Share Posted May 4, 2004 I can't blame you for emailing him, but did he respond or have you heard anything from him or her since? I can understand your pain, I wish you well, but in truth, I hope you find someone who is more open, able, and loving than you did with this one. Perhaps they deserve each other? Anyways, I hope you move on from this one ... and I wish you only the best! Link to post Share on other sites
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