sweetypielovely Posted August 23, 2011 Share Posted August 23, 2011 Im 40 years old and divorced for a year. I have a 19 year old daughter from a previous relationship and a 10 month old grand baby. I was married 12 years to a man who completely changed and turned into a jerk and made my life hell at the end. I have newly been dating a man whose 29 years old. Weve been dating 3 months. He treats me like gold. My family doesnt have an issue with age at all and in fact really like him. I dont look 40 and he looks a bit older than 29. Has anyone been in this situation have it work out before long term? Link to post Share on other sites
thatone Posted August 23, 2011 Share Posted August 23, 2011 here guys, i got it, i'll run this one off... a) the man you divorced didn't change, people rarely do, he was always that way b) the proof is in the fact that it sounds like you're raising a grandchild from your 18 year old, she got the same tendencies you had c) at 40 you're worried about who looks older than who? still? how silly will that sound when you're 50? i think long term relationships are the least of your worries. spend the time breaking the cycle you have created with your grandchild, so that the grandchild doesn't have to suffer like you and your daughter have for your poor decisions. Link to post Share on other sites
Professor X Posted August 23, 2011 Share Posted August 23, 2011 Im 40 years old and divorced for a year. I have a 19 year old daughter from a previous relationship and a 10 month old grand baby. I was married 12 years to a man who completely changed and turned into a jerk and made my life hell at the end. I have newly been dating a man whose 29 years old. Weve been dating 3 months. He treats me like gold. My family doesnt have an issue with age at all and in fact really like him. I dont look 40 and he looks a bit older than 29. Has anyone been in this situation have it work out before long term? Wow, grandma at 40... Jeez; Does he know you're a grandma? And as for the age difference it can work, HOWEVER, you gotta make sure his goals for life are clear, such as: Raising a family of his own, future aspect (when you're 70 he'll be 59 - will look rather ok), is he willing to settle already and is he ok with your daughter being in his dating age range. Also, important to note, does he have previous experience in RS? I find it that people without much of experience tend to date older woman (which isn't bad, older woman are more easy going than young drama queens). And if he doesn't.. than proceed with caution (he still hasn't discovered much). Link to post Share on other sites
Author sweetypielovely Posted August 23, 2011 Author Share Posted August 23, 2011 (edited) Of course he knows im a grandma....we joke about it. I look 35 myself maybe. He loves it. Thats not even an issue. I had my daughter at 21 and i planned to have her. I had female problems and wanted at least one child...so i didnt get pregnant on accident and ruin my life or my kids. Thank you. My daughter goes to college and works. Secondly, My ex husband was sweet and turned in an evil ******* so i left him. Lets get that straight. People change. He wasnt always that way sir. Third, Im not raising my grand child. My daughter is in a long term relationship and lives with her babies daddy. She decided to get pregnant on her own. My grand daughter isnt suffering and is in fact a model for pampers. I have always been with men near my age so this is a bit different. Its not like we look so far apart in age or in fact act so different. We dont. I was simply looking for others with this experience and advice. Edited August 23, 2011 by sweetypielovely Link to post Share on other sites
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