cris6361 Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 I got married in January 2011 . I found out in February 2011 that my husband had cheated on me 3 days after we were married , no we wasnt on our honeymoon we were in the military . Well I tried and tried to forgive him and couldnt manage to do it. Then he started taking his familys advice over mine and letting them come into our marriage and it caused alot of fights between me and him and me and them and if you cant get along with inlaws its gonna be hell. Well the begining of June 2011 I decided it was time for a seperation to see if we could clear things up , well it seems to give him more power to see other women. Which has hurt me even more due to the fact he is doing it in the house we made together and behind my back then posting pics of them together for the whole world to see and his family is encouraging it knowing that its crushing me inside. Every time we agree to work things out we make an arrangement to talk and then like a day before we meet to talk he always starts some bull**** so that we cant meet and talk. I wont to save my marriage but i dont know how to anymore i need help Link to post Share on other sites
TBH Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 sorry to say it doesnt sound like you have a marriage to save. furthermore, whats worth saving? be thankful this didnt happen 5 years into the marriage and get out now, you'll save yourself a great deal of pain. Link to post Share on other sites
Woman In Blue Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 For the love of all that is holy, cut your losses and GET THE HELL OUT. This man does NOT love you, he does NOT respect you, and he does NOT respect your marriage. I don't understand why you're so desperate to hold onto this disgusting loser you were unfortunate enough to marry! Link to post Share on other sites
TigerCub Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 sorry to say it doesnt sound like you have a marriage to save. furthermore, whats worth saving? be thankful this didnt happen 5 years into the marriage and get out now, you'll save yourself a great deal of pain. That in bold!! Why??! I really don't get it. I understand loving someone and blah blah, but this guy cheated on you during what should have been your honeymoon stage. He's showing you from the getgo that he's not faithful, he's not loyal, and now he's flaunting these other women - what's going on in your mind that tells you its a good idea to try with someone like him? Link to post Share on other sites
scaredandalone1223 Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 If you read any of my other posts you will know I strongly believe in trying to save marriages and I never like recommending divorce but in your situation you need to divorce him ASAP! I know you say you love him but you must love yourself more and do what is right for you. If you try to stay things will not change, he has no desire for them to, an it will destroy your self esteem. You will equate this behavior with love and it is NOT. You deserve better and the longer you stay the harder it will be on you in future relationships. It will become harder and harder for you to trust anyone because of not all the things he is doing but also because of his family encouraging it. If you want to have children one day think of them. Is this the kind of family you want children to be raised in? You can find someone with the same morals and values you have and begin to see what love really is. The longer you stay the more long term damage this situation will do to you physical, emotionally and psychologically. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cris6361 Posted August 25, 2011 Author Share Posted August 25, 2011 I a, begining to see all of this is true he called me today asking me what i was going to do and i told him i thought we needed to call it all quits Link to post Share on other sites
Author cris6361 Posted August 25, 2011 Author Share Posted August 25, 2011 so his current gf emailed me tonight to tell me she was pregnant and etc so we are over but he isnt being mature enough to talk to me so we can get everything done and out of the way Link to post Share on other sites
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