How can I be confident if I am not attractive and have a small package?

[bson1257]

I always hear that confidence is key around women, but these two things have made that impossible and I don't know how to get around this.

[User Named]

Find something that you're good at and become really, really good at it. Do something that sets you apart.

[AHardDaysNight]

I agree. Find something that brings you confidence, and the women will come.

[visualbasicide]

I don't know man, My self esteem used to be crap, one day I just started faking it. About a year later I started believing it. The problem with self esteem is it doesn't have to be based on reality, it just has to be what you perceive. I didn't really, in retrospect, have anything that justified much of my negative feelings, I just for in a habit one day of focusing on the negative to the exclusion of all else. Eventually I did something different. Fake it till you make it man.

[betterdeal]

Women come in different shapes and sizes too, so don't be worried about the size of your penis. If you experience pain in your penis when erect, or have limp erections, you might have phimosis or frenulum breve, or both. Visit your doctor and ask to see a urologist if you suspect it might be the case. I did, and was circumcised last year. Now my erections are much healthier and I have a lot more self-confidence because I'm not afraid of sex any more.

 

As for looks, if you're overweight, lose some weight. Take up exercise. It gives you an endorphins rush which makes you feel good, and makes you appear more confident because you are more confident as you have started to master your own body. It's not so much building muscle as getting to know and use your body better.

 

Then read up on CBT and NLP techniques to improve your thinking. What you say to yourself is what matters. It's that that'll make you shine.

[You'reasian]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Women find different kinds of guys attractive; all shapes and sizes. Make sure that you are your best for you and the women will notice.

 

 

If you're anywhere near average size, you're good to go. Read some of the previous threads on the topic to get perspective. Larger is an aphrodesiac for the women and preferred for one night stands. Average or near that will set you up to be well rounded lol.

[analystfromhell]

By the time any woman gets around to seeing your package I'd assume she's already decided she likes you so it clearly doesn't have any effect on that. If she leaves you after going to that level then good riddance.

 

So if it's not the size of your package which is inhibiting you from meeting women what is it? Confidence comes from the ability to act- meaning you are reasonably sure what you try and do will succeed. Does that describe you and if not, why not? What, outside of your own misgivings are giving you the impression you won't succeed?

[Janesays]

Psst: No one will ever care as much about the size of your penis as you do.

[bson1257]

I could spend all this time and money getting in shape and getting a nice job, but none of it matters since I have a small penis. I just don't see the point in doing anything with a small penis.

[betterdeal]

It's entirely up to you, pal. Spend you life how you wish. Being healthy and wealthy is quite enjoyable in itself, for many people. But, as I said, it's your life, do with it as you wish.

[somedude81]

It's completely obvious this guy is a troll. Just look at his post history.

[SincereOnlineGuy]

I could spend all this time and money getting in shape and getting a nice job, but none of it matters since I have a small penis. I just don't see the point in doing anything with a small penis.

 

 

 

Eh, just string women along far enough until you spring it on'em, and then make them go through the excruciating let-down they'll feel. The shallowest women will be hit the hardest by this - it is one of nature's perfect near-crimes.

 

 

It's great that guys can do this to women... bringing them to the brink of true excitement, only to break their proverbial hearts when they see the goods.

 

 

Women, by contrast, have most of their cards on the table where it concerns breasts, so they can't quite string you along when making promises and telling tales of "Big-Un's" (thanks to Al Bundy for that), only to reveal that they are as completely unworthy as you seem to feel.

 

(mocking tone)

[CarrieT]

I could spend all this time and money getting in shape and getting a nice job, but none of it matters since I have a small penis. I just don't see the point in doing anything with a small penis.

 

Work on the money aspect. There are a ton of gorgeous, stacked bimbos out there who will glom onto anyone who treat them well, buy them whatever they want, and give them free reign with a credit card and not care about the sex.

 

In fact, there are a probably a lot who would be thrilled with the fact that they don't have to put out very much, knowing their guy feels so insecure about his member to not want to use it very much.

[cougar bait]

Learn the art of clit licking or find a nerdy fat girl who is just happy having any man no matter how small his penis is.

[Feelin Frisky]

I am not my penis. Are you, your penis? People find a way to have worth with no legs or their faces burned off. Sex is a wonderful thing, but it's not everything. I say do your best at being a human being and deal with what comes when it does. Saying that crap about your penis is giving yourself permission to be a nobody and I can assure you, no one will care to overlook anything to want to know you if you are your small penis.

[nofool4u]

I could spend all this time and money getting in shape and getting a nice job, but none of it matters since I have a small penis. I just don't see the point in doing anything with a small penis.

 

because not all women have the equivalent of a mayonnaise jar.

 

and remember, the g-spot is only about 2 inches in.

[Layzie89]

You can get started on some penis exercises if it makes you feel any better. I did, and I hrew. 75 inches in erect length non bone pressed and .25 inches in erect girth. With proper PE, hard work amd dedication you can too. Took me about 4 months. No pills, no surgery or expensive equipment. So if you're serious about making a change, try it out.

[Eeyore79]

How small are we talking? You've only really got a problem if your penis is a two-incher or something...