kiss_andmakeup Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 Hypothetical question for the sake of discussion. Let's say there are two women interested in you. Girl A is somewhere in the 7-8 looks range (whatever that is for you personally)...pretty enough for you to be attracted to her, but not perfect or drop-dead gorgeous. However, you have a lot in common with her, and she's intelligent, down-to-earth, non-materialistic, and kind. Girl B is what you would consider to be a 10 looks-wise (again, whatever you personally consider to be a "10"). However you have significantly less in common with her, and her personality traits are less desirable than Girl A's. Both appear to have an equal level of interest in you. Who would you rather be with? Link to post Share on other sites
thatone Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 be with tomorrow or be with 6 months from now? that pretty much answers the question... Link to post Share on other sites
Author kiss_andmakeup Posted August 24, 2011 Author Share Posted August 24, 2011 be with tomorrow or be with 6 months from now? that pretty much answers the question... I suppose I meant more for a relationship, not just a one-night-stand kind of deal. Sorry, should've clarified. Link to post Share on other sites
dasein Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 Girl A, but if Girl B starts pouring on the attention and flirtation it's real hard to keep a clear head for a guy who isn't used to having 10s fawn on him. Have been in the exact choice situation you decide and made the wrong choice. Lost the more desirable girl A for good and the girl B turned out bad news. Link to post Share on other sites
counterman Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 Definitely Girl A. Of course if I could have the looks of Girl B and the personality traits of Girl A, that would be perfect! But I say Girl A because I have only dated few (if any) girls that are show all those traits and when I have met girls like that, I get a lot more pleasure from getting to know them better rather than seeing a drop dead gorgeous girl. In the end, the personality of Girl A would raise her attractiveness in my eyes - honestly, there is nothing more satisfying then meeting a girl who I really, really click with. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 (edited) Girl A, without a doubt. 7-8 looks wise is still pretty darn attractive. And in the end, compatible personalities are the most important thing. And to be honest, the 10 with the sh*tty personality stops being a 10 after a while and more like a 2... Edited August 24, 2011 by USMCHokie Link to post Share on other sites
thatone Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 men are not terribly different from women when looking for relationship material kissandmakeup, the only difference is more men will persist casually with someone they have written off to try and get laid before they disappear on her, whereas women obviously don't do that. and just as with women, men's minds can be changed with examples like Girl B. if she is honest, confident, fair, and all of those other positive traits yes she can become more attractive as time goes on, because it's hard to throw out the good when there's so much bad out there in the dating world. Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 I'd need a BJ from both before I could make that decision. No, seriously, Girl A. Looks are not the most important thing. Link to post Share on other sites
2011aug Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 looks in the 7-8 is quite good. she can be a 10 in someone's eye. but if looks are below 5-6, then that will be a harder choice to make. Link to post Share on other sites
Sanman Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 Honestly, I would pick girl A. However, the traits of girl B are a bit vague. Is she still a nice girl, but with more average intelligence and a a few flaws or a raging b*tch? I mean I met met an honest 10 at the wedding of a family friend. She was the most obnoxious, pretentious, self-involved b*tch I ever met and even though she was interested in seeing me again I passed. She simply made time out with her painful (while also insulting me... apparently I was only a doctor while she was a social work MANAGER). Most of my gfs fall into the girl A category because I simply can't deal with people like that. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 This question has been asked hundreds of times on LS. I mean one would have to be an idiot to pick #B. The only way to get a true answer would be to have #A and #B standing side by side for these guys to actually see them. Link to post Share on other sites
GoodOnPaper Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 While I want my romantic partner to be as attractive as possible, I would have a very difficult time relaxing around girl B. I'm far from a "10" myself so I would not stand up very well against most of the competition that would be constantly showing up. I would just as soon not deal with that . . . Link to post Share on other sites
grkBoy Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 Hypothetical question for the sake of discussion. Let's say there are two women interested in you. Girl A is somewhere in the 7-8 looks range (whatever that is for you personally)...pretty enough for you to be attracted to her, but not perfect or drop-dead gorgeous. However, you have a lot in common with her, and she's intelligent, down-to-earth, non-materialistic, and kind. Girl B is what you would consider to be a 10 looks-wise (again, whatever you personally consider to be a "10"). However you have significantly less in common with her, and her personality traits are less desirable than Girl A's. Both appear to have an equal level of interest in you. Who would you rather be with? In my past, it would be Girl B...now it's Girl A. The reason is that I've chased many "hot" girls who did not share much in common with me and thus things went badly. My fiance has much in common with me (especially in lifestyle) and thus we click well. NOW...if Girl A was in the 1-4 range, then I'd instead take a chance with Girl B. Sorry to be shallow, but if I can't find her attractive physically, then I would rather be alone or chance it with a potential flake. I don't fault women for doing the same. Link to post Share on other sites
runner Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 Hypothetical question for the sake of discussion. Let's say there are two women interested in you. Girl A is somewhere in the 7-8 looks range (whatever that is for you personally)...pretty enough for you to be attracted to her, but not perfect or drop-dead gorgeous. However, you have a lot in common with her, and she's intelligent, down-to-earth, non-materialistic, and kind. Girl B is what you would consider to be a 10 looks-wise (again, whatever you personally consider to be a "10"). However you have significantly less in common with her, and her personality traits are less desirable than Girl A's. Both appear to have an equal level of interest in you. Who would you rather be with? girl A. personality goes a long way with me. girl A could easily jump to a ten if we work well together, and girl B could drop to a zero if she rubbed me the wrong way. Link to post Share on other sites
rafallus Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 (edited) I tried, but couldn't make any sense from 1-10 rating anymore. If one is physically stimulating, and other is not, the stimulating one wins. It is not said that 10 would be stimulating one, if you talk about 1-10 in terms of aesthetic beauty - as life verified in my case. "Personality traits" claim is also ambiguous and it is not clear whether that disadvantage of girl B is on the level of "minor annoyance" or deal-breaker. If both are stimulating, then it's pretty easy pick of girl A. Edited August 24, 2011 by rafallus Link to post Share on other sites
Andy_K Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 Depends how much less in common, and what particular personality traits. If girl B had a short temper, no sense of humour, or low sex drive, I'd choose girl A. If girl B was untidy, not ambitious career wise, or sometimes not too bright, and we still had enough in common to enjoy spending time together, I'd choose girl B. Because the difference between a 7 and a 10 is a lot in my book. Link to post Share on other sites
EasyHeart Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 Hypothetical question for the sake of discussion. Let's say there are two women interested in you. Girl A is somewhere in the 7-8 looks range (whatever that is for you personally)...pretty enough for you to be attracted to her, but not perfect or drop-dead gorgeous. However, you have a lot in common with her, and she's intelligent, down-to-earth, non-materialistic, and kind. Girl B is what you would consider to be a 10 looks-wise (again, whatever you personally consider to be a "10"). However you have significantly less in common with her, and her personality traits are less desirable than Girl A's. Both appear to have an equal level of interest in you. Who would you rather be with?I would introduce them to one another and suggest a threesome. EasyHeart thinks outside of the box. Link to post Share on other sites
Content Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 I think womne project their own vanity and shalowness on Men, men arent nearly as shallow as women think we are Most of us want somebody we are attracted to that we also have a connection with Link to post Share on other sites
Feelsgoodman Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 Hypothetical question for the sake of discussion. Let's say there are two women interested in you. Girl A is somewhere in the 7-8 looks range (whatever that is for you personally)...pretty enough for you to be attracted to her, but not perfect or drop-dead gorgeous. However, you have a lot in common with her, and she's intelligent, down-to-earth, non-materialistic, and kind. Girl B is what you would consider to be a 10 looks-wise (again, whatever you personally consider to be a "10"). However you have significantly less in common with her, and her personality traits are less desirable than Girl A's. Both appear to have an equal level of interest in you. Who would you rather be with? For a short-term casual relationship, Girl B. For a serious relationship, Girl A. *Caveat: Girl A must really be a 7-8, not a 5-6. ** Caveat #2: I assume that by "less desirable personality traits" you mean that Girl B is a bitch, gold-digger, etc...not that she's merely less intelligent/educated than Girl A. Link to post Share on other sites
ThsAmericanLife Posted August 25, 2011 Share Posted August 25, 2011 I'd need a BJ from both before I could make that decision. Ok, even *I* laughed out loud on this one... Someone needs to invent a machine that accurately tests this skill for both men and women... (Hmmm... I'm an engineer... maybe I've found my new calling??) Even better if it gives active coaching on how to improve one's method... an oral sex robot... I know, sounds boring... but might help those poor virgins out there get a leg up!! He/she could pass around their 'robot' driving test results on their online dating profiles. Oh WAIT! Maybe we can make THAT a requirement for online dating sites too (ha ha). Oral sex robot test results... Link to post Share on other sites
ThsAmericanLife Posted August 25, 2011 Share Posted August 25, 2011 men arent nearly as shallow as women think we are Most of us want somebody we are attracted to that we also have a connection with Prove it!! Email a pictureless woman on a dating site (if you use them). Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted August 25, 2011 Share Posted August 25, 2011 Prove it!! Email a pictureless woman on a dating site (if you use them). Most men won't but then again neither would most women. If men are shallow then so are women. As for the question of course I would pick A. Simply good looks are not much when that is all a woman has to offer. Link to post Share on other sites
Cracker Jack Posted August 25, 2011 Share Posted August 25, 2011 I'd go with Girl A, even if she was only around 6. Link to post Share on other sites
Holt Driver Posted August 25, 2011 Share Posted August 25, 2011 Yep, girl A for me, too. A 7 or 8 is still very good looking, so it's an easy choice. Link to post Share on other sites
Sanman Posted August 25, 2011 Share Posted August 25, 2011 Yep, girl A for me, too. A 7 or 8 is still very good looking, so it's an easy choice. You make a good point. I wonder what happens if we make that 7 or 8 a 5-6. Link to post Share on other sites
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