catwoman Posted May 4, 2004 Share Posted May 4, 2004 I've read many posts pertaining to strip clubs and porn. It got me to thinking about this question. After viewing attractive, nude women in porn or clubs, do guys feel disappointed if their SO doesn't look as good? Does it lesson your attraction to her if she doesn't measure up? Inquiring women want to know! Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted May 4, 2004 Share Posted May 4, 2004 Nope.. Every woman is beautiful in her own way. I watch porn with my fiancee all the time. She actually only likes lesbian porn. I have no probs with that Anyway, when we have sex during, I don't think about those women I just saw. There may be features on your SO that you would like to change, but to say something to them is just plain wrong. Even changing those features wouldn't make me love or desire her anymore than I already do. There's nothing wrong with thinking other people are attractive or sexy even if you are with someone else. You are only human. I don't know about the rest of the guys, but I don't compare my fiancee with anyone else and my attraction has & always will be very strong for her. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyrannaste Posted May 4, 2004 Share Posted May 4, 2004 Originally posted by catwoman I've read many posts pertaining to strip clubs and porn. It got me to thinking about this question. After viewing attractive, nude women in porn or clubs, do guys feel disappointed if their SO doesn't look as good? Does it lesson your attraction to her if she doesn't measure up? Inquiring women want to know! My boyfriend once said that he keeps comparing me to other women, and I should be glad about it because if he compares a lot and he's with me, I can be sure that he likes me. I couldn't be that sure if he didn't keep comparing. I still am not sure whether I should be worried or flattered at such a statement, but I guess there is some truth in it. I don't think they are disappointed....who on earth could expect that their gfs look like chicks in porn clips? Link to post Share on other sites
Author catwoman Posted May 4, 2004 Author Share Posted May 4, 2004 Geez, sounds like your bf is justifying his behavior. It's one thing to compare you in his thoughts. But his verbal expression is cruel. He sounds likes he's trying to convince you that he's doing you a big favor (choosing you over all the others) you lucky girl! What happens when the eventual Trophy Girl comes into his view and you don't measure up? What would he say then? Sounds like a control ploy to me. I don't mean to cause you pain, just an observation on my part. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted May 4, 2004 Share Posted May 4, 2004 Originally posted by Pyrannaste My boyfriend once said that he keeps comparing me to other women, and I should be glad about it because if he compares a lot and he's with me, I can be sure that he likes me. I couldn't be that sure if he didn't keep comparing. I still am not sure whether I should be worried or flattered at such a statement, but I guess there is some truth in it. I don't think they are disappointed....who on earth could expect that their gfs look like chicks in porn clips? I got a different feeling than catwoman did at your post. I was thinking [color=indigo]"hmm, smart boy. He probably knows that if he says No, he doesn't compare you might not believe him, so he said Yes he does with a qualifier that you are always numero uno so that you two wouldn't fight about it!"[/color] That is what I would get if I asked my husband this question--he knows that he has to think quick about his answer! Well, he used to when I was more possessive and/or jealous and/or insecure in our relationship. I'm not a man, but I don't think most men in a loving and committed relationship really take the time (or use the mental energy) to actually make comparisons. They might think something like [color=darkblue]"man, her boobs are big--I'd like to put my face in between 'em and shake my head and go brrrrrrrr"[/color] or something like that, but I doubt if they think to themselves[color=darkblue] "I wish my gf's boobs were that big so I could....." [/color] Link to post Share on other sites
Pyrannaste Posted May 6, 2004 Share Posted May 6, 2004 Originally posted by HokeyReligions He probably knows that if he says No, he doesn't compare you might not believe him, so he said Yes he does with a qualifier that you are always numero uno so that you two wouldn't fight about it!"[/color] [/color] *I wish!!!* *sigh* He has never ever in his friggin' life said I was number 1 to him. he tells me I'm beautiful, but never acts like he finds me #1. I once even *asked* him to tell me he would not change me with other women. He didn't. I once told him that every girl's dream is being told by her bf that she is most beautiful girl in the world to her(yes, I was trying to send an hint). his reaction: "You must accept the fact that there will always be girls who are more beautiful than you!!!" I asked to tell me that he'd not choose his ex(the only one I'm jealous of, who wasn't even an ex actually! he was the OM) over me if he could. All he could say was "well, I'd not get her as a girlfriend because she would cheat on me". and (jokingly).."well', she has not blue eyes either" (big jerk, i don't have blue eyes!!!!!!) I plainly *asked* him if he found his ex more beautiful than me. All he could say was "well, the problem with you is that you could be extremely pretty, but you don't mind enhancing your looks". something like that. hell, couldn't have he made up one fuc*ing lie, for once?????? Ladies, when you ask for total honesty in a relationship, think twice Link to post Share on other sites
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