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I have a friend whose been married 12 years. He had no kids. She had a child that was 8 when they got together. Now her daughter, his step daughter, is 20. The daughter has a grand baby whose a year old. They both love that baby and are wonderful grand parents. They just dont have a great marriage. I believe that baby has kept them together the last year.

She and her husband fight all the time and both are clearly not happy. Its like the 2 of them get off on the negative and trying to stay together. I know for a fact shes cheated on him a few times in her past and is now saying she really wants to leave soon. Both arent in the best of health, but clearly i think at the end of the day you have to be happy.

 

She stated that she wants to leave but is afraid he will do something stupid to himself if she goes. I guess he has mentioned it before. I believe she cant worry what he does, because the volatile nature of their relationship is far worse that what hes saying.

 

What would your advice be to her...even if hes threatening to hurt himself if she leaves...

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I have a friend whose been married 12 years. He had no kids. She had a child that was 8 when they got together. Now her daughter, his step daughter, is 20. The daughter has a grand baby whose a year old. They both love that baby and are wonderful grand parents. They just dont have a great marriage. I believe that baby has kept them together the last year.

She and her husband fight all the time and both are clearly not happy. Its like the 2 of them get off on the negative and trying to stay together. I know for a fact shes cheated on him a few times in her past and is now saying she really wants to leave soon. Both arent in the best of health, but clearly i think at the end of the day you have to be happy.

 

She stated that she wants to leave but is afraid he will do something stupid to himself if she goes. I guess he has mentioned it before. I believe she cant worry what he does, because the volatile nature of their relationship is far worse that what hes saying.

 

What would your advice be to her...even if hes threatening to hurt himself if she leaves...

 

advise your friend to seek out professional help - never take someone threatening to kill themselves lightly, when someone says "hurt" they mean "kill" in this situation... a professional can tell her exactly what to do, friends can only advise and right now action should be taken...

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