still angry

[dumpedandsore]

remember i was dumped without a word or consolation a month ago?

 

the "ex" wrote on his fb that he has depression, not because of our broke-up. I noticed right after our break-up, he joined some dating workshop/classes for guys to woo girls. Instead of resolving our problems and giving me a good answer on the breakup (knowing i was feeling very hurted and bad by his indifferent actions), he moved right on to the dating/partying scene. Joining expensive dating workshops for men to hook/know girls and partying scene.

 

It seems im nothing to him but just a disposable trash. It made him so angry. How could someone be so heartless, without a conscience and shame to hurt/cheat someone heart, cut her off completely, and then become active again in the dating scene. I broke NC yesterday, sent him a few abusive sms..and he did the last thing, ignore me again and block me on fb

 

his actions just showed that he was playing me all along, and an very experienced player

[dumpedandsore]

remember i was dumped without a word or consolation a month ago?

 

the "ex" wrote on his fb that he has depression, not because of our broke-up. I noticed right after our break-up, he joined some dating workshop/classes for guys to woo girls. Instead of resolving our problems and giving me a good answer on the breakup (knowing i was feeling very hurted and bad by his indifferent actions), he moved right on to the dating/partying scene. Joining expensive dating workshops for men to hook/know girls and partying scene.

 

It seems im nothing to him but just a disposable trash. It made him so angry. How could someone be so heartless, without a conscience and shame to hurt/cheat someone heart, cut her off completely, and then become active again in the dating scene. I broke NC yesterday, sent him a few abusive sms..and he did the last thing, ignore me again and block me on fb

 

his actions just showed that he was playing me all along, and an very experienced player

 

 

I feel bad about myself, like a totally invaluable person

[AlanN]

I feel bad about myself, like a totally invaluable person

 

 

So sorry... Don't blame yourself, blame him. Sounds like he needs some help and is insecure about himself. What goes around comes around..

[lovesickmonkey]

Dumpedandsore,

Be prepared to be sore for a while. It takes many of us a long time to "accept" what has been done to us. We love, adore, admire, and live for someone and when they throw us aside like garbage it is an ugly shock. This is the worst psychological disaster I've ever experienced. Unfortunately, the way it happened to you and I is the way it has happened for many of us. We cannot fathom the cruelty of someone leaving us in such a callous, heartless manner. All I can say is that some day you may realize that he was behaving like someone feeling a lot of guilt. He knew it would hurt you and wanted to shield himself from your sadness. The most convenient way is by becoming angry at you and trying to make you partly responsible for the break-up. I wish my ex and your ex could understand that the things they did to us are causing us tremendous grief and anxiety -- much more than if they spoke to us in a rational, caring way. I have been dumped both ways and the loving way is far, far better. It takes a very mature person to do it that way.

I recommend that you find a way to not see or hear about him. Definitely end contact soon because there is nothing to be gained and everything to lose. Do it for yourself. I'm sure I would be far worse off if I knew what she was doing. Do what they recommend around here and begin refocusing your energy and love on yourself -- become the best person you can be. You have the ability to become far more attractive than he ever was, and attractive to the right kind of people! I'm working on myself and I'm still trying to comprehend and assimilate the cruelty I was dealt at the hands of a woman who was my love and the center of my entire universe. It is hard to swallow and I have faced it every day. It's going to take work.

[dumpedandsore]

i am still very angry..he could have at least play a soften stance by apologising to me via sms after 1 month

 

i gave him a month to get over it and settle/close our r/s properly. Instead, he jumped right on to the dating scene, join many dating workshops and never care a tinge about my feelings and what happened to me.

 

This is simply too heartless and callous. And when he knows im stalking his fb, he immediately cut me off. He never attempt to express his remorse, or to end things on a proper note. NO attempts.

 

Just cheat, dump, and go. He didnt even tell me he wanted a break-up until i contacted him for many times in a row for several days.

 

Can you all tell me? Looking at his behaviour, im thinking if he was set to cheat my feelings from the start? his behaviour is typical of a player....nope, i think even a player would have more conscience than him. i believe if i kill myself over him, he wouldnt care less and continue his dating pursuits.. how awful this person

he makes me feel bad about myself

[stillafool]

I'm sorry you are in pain. Do yourself a favor and stay off of FB. Spying on what your ex is doing is going to keep you in pain. You will never really have the answer as to why they do the things they do so move on and let yourself heal.