What I've Learned So Far

[waliz]

Being dumped is awful.

 

Being cheated on is awful. I said to him that the last five years were a waste of my life, and he asked how I could feel that way, we had a lot of good times. But now when I think about the trips we took or the events we went to, I will wonder who he was texting, who he was thinking about, was it her, were they laughing about how clueless I was. When I go to Hawaii, skiing, a concert-I won't think about the great time, I'll have a twinge of pain.

 

I understand the "rebound relationship". I so want to find a boyfriend to escape this loneliness. Since I was awake at 3am I put together my Match.com profile (no, it isn't active)

 

I played a large role in this relationship breaking up. I need to learn the lessons before I move on.

 

I sound very logical right now, but when I go back to packing up my life's belongings I could very well start crying on the floor and wish we were together again.

[M2155]

I feel exactly the same way. I wonder if he was just passing time with me (went back to his ex after 2 years) and if he was thinking about someone else all along. I have moments of such logic and convince myself I am okay but then get blindsighted by some thought that ends in tears.

 

Surfing match is actually helpful. I really think a boyfriend would be the best thing for me to move on and it would be great to remember what it's like to have someone really interested in me:love:. Being dumped is a very lonely experience:(. But like you I don't want to start seeing someone and he end up being the rebound. But if we are logical and know our exes have moved on long before we knew it and aren't coming back, I think we can look for someone that we would actually like to be with instead of someone to just fill the void (rebound).

[solobeary]

I know what you mean.

 

I have a profile on OKcupid, which is a younger/ less serious demographic. I don't want another serious relationship yet, but the profile has really helped in showing me that the way my ex made me feel about myself (not good enough, in short) isn't true. People are interested in me, I'm not ugly, I will meet someone special one day in the future.

 

I want to learn to be happy being single, but I'm hoping to meet some guys online I can be friends with and maybe sleep with if I'm attracted to them. I've been chatting with a few guys, talking with some of them about interests that my ex never really shared with me, so it's been good for making me a bit more cheery, seeing that there's a whole world out there, getting a few emails in my inbox, etc.

[Queen of Hearts 10]

Waliz,

 

It's ok to have this hurt today. But there will be a better man off in the near

future to replace him. Your EX played a chapter in your life's story but

there is still the best romance to be written in it !

 

I just joined Plenty of Fish and it has been so terrific to get the fantastic

response from men I didn't think would look at me ! Wow !

 

Even though the pain is still strong right now. I want to feel alive and meet

new friends. It gives you something to look forward to. I do know we have

to be careful on these sites. But thats how I met my Ex-husband !

 

Take care get well to everyone see you on here ! Queen of hearts 10

[reimeivn]

hey i know being dumped is awful and that people have enough nice words to tell you. so i am just gonna tell you this, something that i just realized today. if he havent planned out the future with you, please let him go. you guys are not mean to be together. think you that fine, you reject him too. you want to be with somebody that plan ahead and make everything work in order to be with you.