People who know me casually Dont think I have problems

[quietGuy13]

As i've said before, i have problems with my brain and speech.

 

The problem is people who know me casually including MY PARENTS( with who i dnt talk much ), people in temp agencies who have helped me find jobs before, and aunts etc.

 

The evidence it's right there and yet because i'm a nice person and i can , for example, translate basic easy things for my parents business successfully.(and i just translate, i don't think up the words up my self) because of that people think i can handle more.

 

Well wrong. I never had any actual converrsations with anyone ever in my life. Only tiny little simple/child level conversations. When i've been put in situations at work and college where i had to process more mature/difficult stuff I could not understand nothing and this keeps happening.

 

I don't even know how to make questions about what i hear because i don't understand any of it.

 

Anyways, since my parents have all this expectation of me, i'm having all this pressure and they pressure me to death even though i tell them i don't understand. i mess up and they get angry at me, etc.

 

Then they expect me to be a businessman etc.. oh man!!!

 

Also, even though I talk like a child when i talk to the Temp agency person she keeps saying i don't have nothing just cause i'm nice and i've talked to her a lot in the past. Meanwhile the evidence is right there, i got fired from my jobs because I can't speak well/or understand well things at work.

 

And i can't do well at customer service so that's why i was laid off in all the temp jobs i've had.

 

Another proof--> I've never had a career and i'm in my 30s already.

 

So I don't undertand why they won't acknowldege me and why they put all this pressure on me to be the same as others.

 

What's the best thing to do... Just get away from these people?

 

The people who really see my problem are the coworkers, the speech pathologists. But parents, friends( the few that i have), sisters, temp agencies and the doctor who has been my doctor for a while, . they just say i dont have any problem.

[carhill]

One potential is seeing the dynamic as support and challenge. Those who say you don't have a 'problem' (I generally don't use this word for an organic brain condition) are your support. The coworkers and speech therapist are your challenge. IMO, it is healthy to have both support and challenge to grow in life.

 

Today, my groceries happened to be bagged by someone who presented what I observed to be behaviors and actions consistent with high functioning Down's syndrome, as part of a program the grocer has putting disabled people to work. I accepted that person as they were and even asked for their assistance in loading my groceries, which the store offers. This interaction appeared to be pleasant for them; it was for me as well. People are people. Sure, some have disabilities. We all end up at the same place.