My Husband keeps Accusing Me of Cheating

[Adamsjl]

I am new at this but, I need some advise. You see I have been with the guy for 16 yrs. just last year we got married but, I think that it was the wrong thing to do but the right thing to do on the other hand. You see I got tired of living in sin so I married him. My problem with him is that he thinks that I am cheating on him. You see he is very very insecure with himself for no reason. I try to tell him that I am not interested in anyone else but he is not convinced at all. I can see if I was the type that went out to clubs or partied all of the time but I don't I am a home body. My grandmother use to say "If a man keeps on accusing you of cheating he the one out there cheating"

 

 

But, I can't see this in him because he is so sweet and will do anything for me it is just that is he breaking up this relationship with the accusation of me being a cheater. I can' talk to him as a friend because he starts to act like and APE so how am I going to say oh Bay this guy at my job tried to talk to me with out him coming up here get me fired by acting like an APE. What would yo do?

[Debster]

Well, I have also heard that line that if he accuses you of cheating, most likely he is the one cheating. Can't say though that I have ever heard of a concrete example of this.

 

Bottom line - he is controlling you and ruining the relationship with his self-esteem issues. You can suggest counselling for him to develop self-esteem.

 

Does he have friends and outside interests? If not, you could try and encourage him to pursuit a hobby/sport something that will help him improve his feeling of self worth.

 

If you are NOT cheating, you don't deserve to be constantly accused and harassed.

[Adamsjl]

Yes, he goes out just about every night, and counseling is out of the question he says he don't feel right telling people our business.

[magda]

Yeah, sounds like he's got a guilty conscience. If I were you I'd find out why.