LanceManion Posted August 28, 2011 Share Posted August 28, 2011 So I've got a question I've been wondering for awhile - here's the situation: My wife and her friends went out on the town one night. Apparently they were in a parking lot of some bar that was attached to a hotel. There were a group of guys up on the second floor balcony that were hooting and hollering at them. The girls decided to tease them by showing some flesh. A couple of them flash their breasts, and a couple of them mooned. My wife was one of the ones that mooned. She was laughing about it afterwards when she got home, how she stuck her bare butt in the air and wiggled it around a bit for these guys. Now, I got annoyed by this, but she didn't think it was a big deal, that they had had a few drinks and were having fun. There wasn't any sexual contact or anything, but now I get the knowledge that there are a bunch of guys out there that have seen my wife's naked butt. Am I overreacting to this? Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted August 28, 2011 Share Posted August 28, 2011 So I've got a question I've been wondering for awhile - here's the situation: My wife and her friends went out on the town one night. Apparently they were in a parking lot of some bar that was attached to a hotel. There were a group of guys up on the second floor balcony that were hooting and hollering at them. The girls decided to tease them by showing some flesh. A couple of them flash their breasts, and a couple of them mooned. My wife was one of the ones that mooned. She was laughing about it afterwards when she got home, how she stuck her bare butt in the air and wiggled it around a bit for these guys. Now, I got annoyed by this, but she didn't think it was a big deal, that they had had a few drinks and were having fun. There wasn't any sexual contact or anything, but now I get the knowledge that there are a bunch of guys out there that have seen my wife's naked butt. Am I overreacting to this? No. I'd be pretty pissed if my husband exposed himself to other women in order to turn them on. That just shows low character. You have a right to be upset, and your wife needs to learn that married women aren't supposed to act like single hos. Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted August 28, 2011 Share Posted August 28, 2011 And I'm one that thinks it is no big deal and is far from considered "cheating." Irresponsible and adolescent? Yes. But CHEATING??? It is just naked flesh and everyone has it. I don't consider another proprietary either; just look at the cover of any Brazilian magazine - those women show way more than what your wife probably showed. I say lighten up a bit. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted August 28, 2011 Share Posted August 28, 2011 This kind of stuff happened pretty often when my exW and I would go to the river with her friends. Women flashing others from boats and jet skis. I saw some pretty awesome bits over the years, amongst that social group. The operative thing was that they were doing it in front of their husbands and we all knew each other and it was fun; part of the 'party' atmosphere at the river. I think your wife's behavior was perhaps inappropriate but not 'cheating', as no particular person was involved and the apparent audience was on the second floor balcony. Further, she voluntarily disclosed the information. I'm sure her friends will corroborate What boundary would you like to request? Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted August 28, 2011 Share Posted August 28, 2011 location location is all I can say. She was located with her friends. She was located in a parking lot, not like she was doing a private show. Yes she probably had poor judgment in her act yet there was no intent from a personal level. I think if my S0 said he did such a stunt I would kudo him since it shows ALOT of confidence to bare that....Now if he is flashing kids or behaving that way perpetually I would definitely question his integrity and mental state. Intent- location in this matter does not equate to cheating... Link to post Share on other sites
Author LanceManion Posted August 28, 2011 Author Share Posted August 28, 2011 thanks to all that have helped out - as I suspected, there are some varying opinion on this one. Although, it sounds like the general consensus is that overreacting a bit. I guess it's not "cheating" in the traditional sense, but I do get jealous thinking about how strange men now have gotten an eyeful of my wife's bare flesh - something I had hoped was for me to see only. Anyway, life goes on, and she has said that she will keep things a bit more under wraps in the future. Also, we have joked about it a bit, so no harm done. Link to post Share on other sites
FinOuch Posted August 28, 2011 Share Posted August 28, 2011 I think it's the intent that makes it cheating. Showing someone her naked body in an attempt to turn them on or initiate an inappropriate relationship/interaction with them...then yes. That's disrespectful to your relationship, and thus cheating behavior. If she's just f*cking around and being crazy with her girlfriends (as you described)...then no. While it may be immature and sort of annoying behavior, it doesn't sound like there's any ill intentions behind it. I would suspect it bothers you not because you feel like you've been cheated on, but because you just frown on that type of behavior in general. Link to post Share on other sites
Llakdknek Posted September 1, 2011 Share Posted September 1, 2011 How would she react if you walked around with your dick out? Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted September 1, 2011 Share Posted September 1, 2011 I do get jealous thinking about how strange men now have gotten an eyeful of my wife's bare flesh Presumably there are men who saw her flesh before she married you, and women who saw yours before you married her? Is there really that much difference? That's not an excuse to show it off to whoever you like, her behaviour was definitely trashy, slutty and inappropriate. But cheating, no. I would only be concerned if she made a habit of it, or took it any further than this. Link to post Share on other sites
magnus mateo Posted September 2, 2011 Share Posted September 2, 2011 That is definitely inappropriate behavior. Who knows what else she has done or will do? Especially, with the attitude that it isn't a big deal. What if the guys would have came down and approached her. What would she have done in the name of fun? That kind of behavior opens the door to other kinds of inappropriate behavior. Ever heard of "one thing led to another"? Hope this helps. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Zaphod B Posted September 2, 2011 Share Posted September 2, 2011 Maybe not cheating, but you're right to be pissed. You're the only man that should be seeing your wife's derriere. It's a privilige meant for you, her husband and she has allowed other men that privilege. Link to post Share on other sites
Saul Goodman Posted September 2, 2011 Share Posted September 2, 2011 Is it cheating? Isn't that something that you and your wife should decide together? Every couple has different boundaries. Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted September 2, 2011 Share Posted September 2, 2011 I wouldn't call it cheating, but it was certainly inappropriate behavior for a married woman. And why is a married woman out bar hopping and getting drunk with single women? That's an accident or indescretion waiting to happen. Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted September 2, 2011 Share Posted September 2, 2011 It's not waiting to happen if that married woman decides to cheat. It's not an accident if it's a conscious decision. It was just a figure of speach, meaning something prone to happen if in that situation (of being drunk and bar hopping). Link to post Share on other sites
Llakdknek Posted September 2, 2011 Share Posted September 2, 2011 Maybe "prone" was a bad word, but it's generally not smart to put yourself into bad situations. Link to post Share on other sites
RedRedMe Posted September 14, 2011 Share Posted September 14, 2011 I feel the same way about my SO's body. We may not be the first to see each other naked and that's fine but when he commits to me, part of what makes it special is that I become the only one to admire his naked body. It sounds corny but I view it as something special between us. I did get upset a few years ago when I found out he went completely naked with a group of friends for some stupid scavenger hunt but I never considered it cheating. The fact that he lied about it was what bothered me the most. If she told you about it then it was all in good fun and she knows better not to do it now. Link to post Share on other sites
Des Posted September 14, 2011 Share Posted September 14, 2011 Totally immature and inconsiderate in a relationship to be flirting with other guys especially in a sexual manner. Maybe not cheating, but a stones throw away and potentially just as hurtful and disrespecting. Link to post Share on other sites
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