Rightlymia Posted May 7, 2004 Share Posted May 7, 2004 Befuddled said it all.Don't just blame the O/W or O/M. They couldn't have done it without the wonderful husbands/wives that some of you have chosen.Cheating has gotten wayyyyyy out of control. It seems like everyone is doing it or has done it at some point. Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaXOXO Posted May 7, 2004 Share Posted May 7, 2004 Fritz Writes: Indeed. What is it with some married people. I guess their own marriage sucks and they're too lazy to work on it or something so why not hit on others... What is it with married women who get all huffy and indignant when one turns them down (Well, well..you're gay aren't you!!). Sorry, but I don't mess with married women. LOL…It’s funny to see how aggressive females have become these days. I’m use to the old stories about married men hitting on the young females in their office, but there sure seems to be a lot of horny married ladies out there now, too. A couple of months ago my partner was being stalked by a women who would show up at the deli across the street from his office where he often goes for lunch. At first, she would just smile and gawk at him and try to say “hello.” He said it made him feel uncomfortable so he tried to change his lunch hour to avoid bumping into her. (He had a sneaky suspicion what was coming.) Well, several weeks later she must have figured out his new schedule. There she was, standing with two other females when he walked in. He ordered his sandwich, then went outside for a smoke while he waited for his order so he could avoid the stares. The women followed him out. They began the conversation by asking him where he worked. One of the women then asked for his email address because her “friend” wanted a picture of him for her office screensaver. To which he replied: “I don’t think my girlfriend would appreciate that.” To his surprise, the other woman responded, “Well, I’m married too, but my HUSBAND doesn’t mind if I look…” Hmmm…I wonder if the hubbies are aware that their wives’ “looking” constitutes hitting on strange men at work?...Or maybe this is just what some married people consider “harmless flirting?” Link to post Share on other sites
yellowrose Posted May 10, 2004 Share Posted May 10, 2004 In my opinion their marriage is already ruined - before any "other woman" becomes involved to catch the wife's wrath. Wow Magda. This kind of sounds to me like the old "The wife didn't have what it took to keep her man" argument. It's a pretty weak excuse to sleep with a married man. As is the other comment that sounded a lot like you were saying, "If I don't then someone else is going to." So be it. And ya know what? They'd be completely in the wrong as well. In my case, the other womEN aggressively went after my husband. ---My husband who grew up with a father who had too many affairs to count during his marriage to his mother and subsequent relationships. ---My husband who has been diagnosed as sociopathic BPD. ---My husband who had a very patient and loving wife at home who has never had any sexual issues whatsoever. ---My husband who has 2 beautiful daughters who want him around. Yeah, he screwed up big time. Does that leave the women off the hook? Hell no. They are EVERY bit to blame, EVERY bit as slimy as he is. --If not more. They get to duck out in the end after the sh*t hits the fan. They aren't left to pick up the pieces. Is it worth it to get in the middle of someone else's pain that they're trying to work through just to get your power trip on? These are families. There are innocent women and children involved. In the end, it's just sex. There are plenty of options out there to get off on aside from sleeping with a married man. The ONLY reason that women sleep with married men is because they have some sort of personality disorder, need the power trip, or were flat out deceived. Sorry, but it's the truth and it's SICK. IMO, women who knowingly sleep with married men are the worst kind of evil there is. They knowingly hurt innocent people because of their incredibly selfish motivations. Try as you might, but you should know that there IS NO VALID ARGUMENT OR REASON to knowingly sleep with a married man. Period. They're all just weak excuses for why you were so selfish and were willing to hurt innocent third parties. (grrr.) -Yr Link to post Share on other sites
reggio Posted May 10, 2004 Share Posted May 10, 2004 You go girl! Tell it like it is, most people out there lack morals,values and principles, not to mention, FAITH. This is why men and women have continuous problems. Let's face it, we are all hypocrites and always making excuses. Oh, and looking to blame others. "Be honest and truthful rather than selfish and deceitful" Peace Link to post Share on other sites
Samantha16 Posted May 11, 2004 Share Posted May 11, 2004 I kind of skimmed through the last of the posts. But I wanted to say something. I once was friends with a girl who started dating a man who was married. When I asked her if she felt at all guilty about this, she said, "Hey, it takes two to tango." Basically saying, it wasn't all her fault. That's true, but I felt as though she was taking that saying and using it as an excuse for what she was doing. I'm not friends with this girl anymore. She's now having her second affair with another married man, and has just recently helped ruined HIS marriage, just like the first couple. (The wife followed her husband to this girls house, then walked in on them having sex.) And now she's having a new baby with the married man. I feel so bad for his wife, and this homewreaker makes me sick. Now, another woman who I work with, proudly anounces her affair with a married man. She's 50 years old, recently divorced. We're out for our break time smoke, and she's talking about her boyfriend, and loosly mentions his wife. I'm thinking they're seperated or something, and she says, "No, his wife doesn't know about us." And she's says it with a disgusting smile on her face that i want to slap right off of her. I basically said, "That's disgusting, I can't believe you're proud of that. I would never ever do that. That makes me sick....." blah blah blah. What's her response? As she giggled like a foolish, immature, yellow-toothed hick, she said, "Well you haven't met him. I'm sure if you did you would do it too. " I said, "I definitly would not, I'm sure of that. I have morals." She didn't give two sh*ts what I had to say. As I write this, this poor excuse for a human being is sitting right across from me. I read through some of these posts and all I can do is look at her and she makes me sooo sick. I want to say something to her to make her feel like she deserves to feel. Immature, stupid, disgusting, ugly, heartless, fake.......fill in the rest. Is it better to just leave her? In one of the above posts someone said if you know someone cheating or having an affair with a married person, to talk to them. But is it really appropriate to get involved? Especially when you're not friends with the person? Link to post Share on other sites
Dulce_Angel_Whispers Posted May 11, 2004 Share Posted May 11, 2004 Since you told her your opinion and she couldn't care less there probably isn't much else you can do about it. Too bad you don't know the wife! Link to post Share on other sites
Samantha16 Posted May 11, 2004 Share Posted May 11, 2004 I know, I think about that too. If I knew her I would love to say something, but probably wouldn't. As much as it kills me I know it's none of my business. As for the other girl. The wife had to find out from her own daughter (who's like 6 years old), who said, "Daddy said I'm going to have a new sister." She was broken. I couldn't even imagine her pain. But she put it to good use: Her husband had ordered penis enlarging pills and had them sent to their post box. (This must have been before he got caught). But it was the wife who picked up the package and when she saw what it was, she hung them up at the local store for everyone to see!!!! His name on the package of penis enlarging pills!! It wont heal the pain, but at least she went out with a bang. Link to post Share on other sites
Dulce_Angel_Whispers Posted May 11, 2004 Share Posted May 11, 2004 But it was the wife who picked up the package and when she saw what it was, she hung them up at the local store for everyone to see!!!! His name on the package of penis enlarging pills!! Good for her he deserved that!! Link to post Share on other sites
yellowrose Posted May 11, 2004 Share Posted May 11, 2004 Samantha- GOOD FOR YOU!!!! I am so impressed that you stood up to that girl. Kick a$$. -Yr (---half convinced she should post H's mistress' e-mail addy so Samantha can tell her off too!!!) Link to post Share on other sites
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