lost in life Posted May 5, 2004 Share Posted May 5, 2004 OK, I have never used anything like this before, but reading it there has been some great advice given. I am so confused, and I need someone form the out side to give me an opinion. I am recently seperated from my husband. (we were only married for less than a year) I was the one who left becuase he was constantly depressed and clingy. He needed me to be with him 24/7 and have no life outside of us, we both had some major trust issues from being to gether sonce we were so young. I gave up everything that made me happy to be with him, and needed to break free. But he was my best friend in the world, we just grew to live only as best friends with no sexual, physical or emotional contact at all. Now 6 months after we have been seperated and not talking we are both in new relationships (not serioous though) but have come back in contact with each other. I miss him like crazy, and last night he hinted to me that he wants to try again, and that we are both such different peopl now things would be different. I dont know what to do, am I just thinking about it because I am lonely and he is all I have ever known? Aother thing is family, his family hates me for what I have done and has threatened to dis-own him is he comes back to me. Am I being fair to him by even talking with him? Should I let him go and leave him alone? Or should I try again? Any advice would be great. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted May 5, 2004 Share Posted May 5, 2004 Six months may seem like a long time, but its really not long at all. In my opinion you should remain apart, but seek some counseling. Try <removed> for some information on communication and needs in a relationship. If he is depressed and clingy then this needs to be addressed. Did you try any kind of counseling before you left him? It sounds like you both need to get your own lives in order before you try for a relationship. You said you had trust issues, but I suspect there is more to it then that. Has he been to a doctor to see if he suffers from depression? Have you looked into his possibly being codependent? You can look up codependency on the Internet too. It sounds like you don't necessarily miss each other, but may miss your comfort zone of intimacy or of being relaxed with someone. Don't let feeling lonely pull back into a marriage or relationship that is going to eventually suffer the same fate as before because the issues were never resolved. Link to post Share on other sites
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