arj2011 Posted August 29, 2011 Share Posted August 29, 2011 Recently in May my boyfriend and i were having problems, he was constantly accusing me of cheating because i had male friends, these were good friends of mine of high school and I knew them longer than my boyfriend but in order to respect him I informed my guy friends that I couldn't remain friends with them in regards to my relationship. However one night I told him that my and my best friend, at the time, wanted to go to the mall to shop for them ( she was dating my boyfriends sister) and they insisted that we were only going to look at guys and who did we know at the mall? Later on that night they went to the fair with there family I replied that i was done and broke up with him that night, and didnt reply to his texts. One thing led to another a hot guy and i were talking and so forth and so on and we wound up in bed together. 4 months later my ex-best friend and I bumped heads and she told my now fiance. He doesn"t believe her and I denied the whole ordeal.. I am 7 weeks pregnant and Im stuck between a hard place and a rock..Should I tell my fiance even though we werent together that night? Or should i just leave the past in the past and move forward, constructing together a foundation for my new family. HELP Link to post Share on other sites
rafallus Posted August 29, 2011 Share Posted August 29, 2011 (edited) Wait, You broke up with your now fiance to sleep with another guy, then got back to him after perceived loophole was exploited and you thought that you set yourself up brilliantly, because you had sex with this hot guy, and you're free to say "No, I did not cheat"? In other words, you had your cake and ate it too. How would you feel if somebody treated you like you treated your fiance? Cheating is one thing, however you don't need to cheat to be disrespectful. And you were awfully disrespectful - it's not like thinking "Aww, we were broken up, so I did not cheat. Now STFU and deal with it!" automatically makes you a saint. And after you denied it when confronted, it can't be more clear you don't care about your fiance. I certainly wouldn't be pleased if my partner saw me as a ballast preventing her to hook up with hot other guys. Hell, if he's such a ballast and liability, why did you even get back with him? To calm social pressure of "find a decent guy"? Break up with him and go to some orgies. I'm only sort of joking. And I feel bad for the kid. Edited August 29, 2011 by rafallus Link to post Share on other sites
Space Ritual Posted August 29, 2011 Share Posted August 29, 2011 Recently in May my boyfriend and i were having problems, he was constantly accusing me of cheating because i had male friends, these were good friends of mine of high school and I knew them longer than my boyfriend but in order to respect him I informed my guy friends that I couldn't remain friends with them in regards to my relationship. However one night I told him that my and my best friend, at the time, wanted to go to the mall to shop for them ( she was dating my boyfriends sister) and they insisted that we were only going to look at guys and who did we know at the mall? Later on that night they went to the fair with there family I replied that i was done and broke up with him that night, and didnt reply to his texts. One thing led to another a hot guy and i were talking and so forth and so on and we wound up in bed together. 4 months later my ex-best friend and I bumped heads and she told my now fiance. He doesn"t believe her and I denied the whole ordeal.. I am 7 weeks pregnant and Im stuck between a hard place and a rock..Should I tell my fiance even though we werent together that night? Or should i just leave the past in the past and move forward, constructing together a foundation for my new family. HELP Nice rationalization...... Please do THE RIGHT THING... Part of being an adult is taking responsibility for our actions. If you love him so much then you will understand that means loving your fiance enough to own your actions and by giving him the chance to determine the direction of his own life and future without being suckered into a marriage that will begin on a huge lie.... Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted August 31, 2011 Share Posted August 31, 2011 Who's the dad? BF or OM? Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted August 31, 2011 Share Posted August 31, 2011 You're going to start off your marriage on a lie. Not good. He doesn't believe her now. But that seed has been planted. Sooner or later that seed of doubt is gonna grow and if he finds out on his own after you denied, BIG PROBLEMS!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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