waliz Posted August 29, 2011 Share Posted August 29, 2011 Thanks to this forum I'm familiar now with the idea of "Breadcrumbs" and confusing them with real relationship. Ex (who I live with) came back from a weekend and sent a text offering to do something fun tonight. I now see these offerings as just that...breadcrumbs. Not the real relationship I want. Heck, I spent the weekend wondering if "SHE" was with him. Why would I want to be with him? I realized why the breadcrumbs were so enticing. If I pick them up I get to continue the fantasy that one day he'll come running back. If I break no-contact and interact with him I can feel for a second the way I WANT to feel. What really happens-I get a break from the pain. But when I face reality I get the pain and then some. I hate this. I must be strong tonight. He'll never be my boyfriend again. I need to grieve that. Link to post Share on other sites
Nohbody Posted August 30, 2011 Share Posted August 30, 2011 You can do this. It sucks - but it gets easier after a while. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Arikel Posted August 30, 2011 Share Posted August 30, 2011 You aren't alone Waliz .. you just described exactly how I feel. I guess I may not have realized it until I see it in words. Be strong, you know why you feel this way, and that will give you strength to maintain NC Link to post Share on other sites
reimeivn Posted August 30, 2011 Share Posted August 30, 2011 no you dont want to be with him. i hope the day gets better for you. just think why you dont want to be with him whenever a bad thought get into your mind. Link to post Share on other sites
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