11 years and 3 is getting back together possible?

[diggsalot]

So me and my ex just ended a relationship of 11 years and have 3 children together. The problems started in 2009 when I found out about her cheating on me we had an argument but a few weeks later I decided to forgive her. As a couple and family things seemed fine but in june of 2001 I discovered a massage were she was trying to get in contact with the same guy she cheated on me the first time. I was so upset when I found out about the message that I ended up pulling her by her hair and slapping her about 3 times. After that fight neither of us really knew what to do but after 2 weeks she came to me and said she wanted to work things out and stay together for the kids and I agreed. A moth goes by and I discovered a text on her phone trying to talk to the same guy again upset I confronted her and slapped her once. Heartbroken that she was breaking my heart and destroying our family I asked her why and all she told me is she is not happy and doesn't love me anymore. The next day she left to her parents house with all 3 children but before she left I asked when they would be back and she told me in 2 days. I allowed the 2 days to go by but my children never came home. On the second night I got a ride from a friend to her parents house. When we arrived I saw my children playing in the back yard they ran toward me and I hugged and kissed them. My ex step father approached and i can already tell he's drunk and asked what I was doing at his house and I told him that me and the kids mother had agreed on 2 days and I was picking up the children but he insisted that I should leave his house and leave the children. I greed to leave his house but not without my children, I picked up my son and held one of my daughters and proceeded to leave but before I made it out of the gate the step father pulls my daughter away from and while im still holding my son pushes me up against the gate. Immediately when I was pushed my friend came to defend me but he ended up getting punched in the face and several deep scratches on his neck but we never laid a hand on the step father. Before things got worse I decided to leave and got back home. We got home and about 15 minutes later my ex step father walk into my apartment calling my friend out to a fight but both me and my friend noticed he had a kitchen knife in his back pocket and before he could do anything we got the kids and locked our selves in a bedroom. After a few minutes of him banging on the door he ended up leaving. And no I never called the police cuz I dint want any one getting into any legal trouble. 2 days pass by and I get a text from from my ex telling me she is getting a restraining order and I beg her not to do it but a few hours pass by and I get served and Im forced to move out and leave my children. The next day angry and heartbroken that she had gotten a restraining order I filed a police report against her step dad a week later he was arrested and deported. Also using a keylogger that was on my pc I hacked all of her accounts and changed the passwords. Well thats pretty much all that has happened since the brake up. Even though she has hurt me a great deal I still very much love my ex she holds a special place in my heart cuz we have been together since we where teenagers we even lost our virginity to each other. Since we have 3 children together I would do anything to get back with my ex and have my family together again. So what do you guys and gals think is reconciliation even possible?

[nishthac]

The 1st question that comes in my mind is y was she cheating on u in the 1st place..wat was missing in the relation..was it her lack of character o something to do with u..watever b the case i believe 11 yrs of togetherness n having children is a big deal..but is it good enuf reason to b together???she has been cheating on u n u wanna b with her mainly for ur children..my advice to u will b that give it another chance only if u love her unconditionally n can give her the time to realize wat she s doing is wrong..and if u love her enough i m sure sooner o later she wil knw wat she s doing is wrong for the relation n children..keep hope!!