Wanted: Stories from both sides

[wendilee]

I am writing an article on a phenomenon that I call “The Hera Factor.” I am looking for women who are willing to send me an experience they have had with a cheating husband or boyfriend in which they have had contact with “The Other Woman.” This can be physical contact as in a face-to-face meeting, a fight that breaks out over the man, or some form of punishment you have inflicted on the woman, or it can be relational such as ways to shame her in public online or gossip, etc. You can write as much or as little as you like, but please at least outline the experience. I would also like to know the following:

 

1) Were you were more angry at her or at your husband/boyfriend? If you were more angry at her, why?

2) Did you view this as her fault or his, or both?

3) Were you able to forgive him? Her? Why one and not the other

4) Now that you have hindsight, do you feel differently about what happened? If so, how would you have handled it if you could go back and change your reaction?

 

I would like to hear from women who were “The Other Woman.” There are no judgments here. I’m just interested in the experience from your side of the triangle. I would also like to know the following:

 

1) Did you know he was married before you started the affair?

2) How did the wife/girlfriend find out about the affair?

3) Did she confront you or did you confront her? How did it turn out?

4) Do you think she had the right to be angry with you, if you were someone she didn’t know?

5) When you look back on the experience, would you have done it again? Do you feel any remorse or shame (again, no judgment one way or the other)?

 

For all responses that I use, I will just put first names, initial of last name and the state unless you feel that would be too revealing. Please let me know if you want a fake name. You can choose the name and let me know. Feel free to ask questions. I am grateful for your cooperation. My email is [email protected]. You can also send me a message on my Facebook page, which is under Wendi Beatty.