kgal Posted May 6, 2004 Share Posted May 6, 2004 Well....I haven't talked to my ex in like a week......I'm getting real down..cuz I miss talking to him so much. Should I write? We have agreed to stay on friendly terms and write as well as IM once in a while....well...more than when we first broke up....but not too much. I just wonder if I should wait longer? I miss him terribly and I can't stop wondering if writing and saying hi would hurt. Link to post Share on other sites
Bob Posted May 6, 2004 Share Posted May 6, 2004 Making contact will not stop this feeling rather it will help it continue. You need to keep yourself busy for the first few weeks, try to take your mind of him. If you continue to keep in contact with him it will no doubt stir these feelings up. Give it time and it will be ok Link to post Share on other sites
Author kgal Posted May 6, 2004 Author Share Posted May 6, 2004 Thanks, Bob. I think that's wise. I will do my best. Link to post Share on other sites
shellen Posted May 6, 2004 Share Posted May 6, 2004 hey kgal....I reallie like to thank you for ur encouragement and support... Im reallie glad to have met someone who can understand what im goin through... i think we both noe that no contact is the best thing to do, but it's jus so difficult right?.. i do not mind putting up with the heartache actually if he is worth keeping around in my life... but i guess for me...he is reallie not worth it....but even with that realization it is still difficult to let go... ur ex seems to still care for u genuinely...so maybe he is worth the pain and heartache... I dunno...i guess its gonna be quite impossible to keep him in your life still without feeling all the pain and ache.. haha i know any sound or good advice is to tell u to stop contacting him, move on and forget him.. but im not gonna say dat coz im sure u noe dat too and i can totally understand why u wanna contact him... i just hope things will work out somehow for you.... right now...i hate my life..nothing is going on well...difficult to handle so many disappoinments..one after another.. and im so tired too...tired of having to be strong and to brace myself for the setbacks... if i can have selective amnesia now it will be good haha... anyway good luck to you k and take care!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author kgal Posted May 6, 2004 Author Share Posted May 6, 2004 Well..I emailed him a fwd...lol...that's it. I really hate missing him. I hate it. I need something to just take my mind off this guy for one day! LOL! Link to post Share on other sites
Author kgal Posted May 6, 2004 Author Share Posted May 6, 2004 Thanks Shellen. Yes..we do both have some similarities with our breakups...seeing that both our exs were muslim and that was the reason why they broke up w/us. Ugh......!!!! Haha...don't you just want to invest in a good punching bag already? LOL! Things will get better.........I know it. It's just a matter of breaking this darn depression and realizing how much better I deserve. Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted May 6, 2004 Share Posted May 6, 2004 FW:'s are good. Just don't add comments. It'll show that you're still thinking of him, but that you're moving on. It's keeping in touch but not hanging on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kgal Posted May 6, 2004 Author Share Posted May 6, 2004 I just don't know why *he* isn't writing..or even getting on his messenger. It's like...he's "okay" with this "no contact" and it's driving me nuts. I hate it....cuz we both agreed we would write and just stay in contact "as friends" but I guess the thought that it bugs me when he doesn't write..says alot. I can probably assume that he's havng it hard too..and he just wants to see how long he can go w/out talking to me. Ugh..why? It just hurts. Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted May 7, 2004 Share Posted May 7, 2004 Oh, he's thinking about you all right, but he's probably taking the 'moving on' part a bit more seriously than you. Don't sweat it - when the initial hurt goes away you'll become good friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kgal Posted May 7, 2004 Author Share Posted May 7, 2004 Originally posted by Papillon Oh, he's thinking about you all right, but he's probably taking the 'moving on' part a bit more seriously than you. Don't sweat it - when the initial hurt goes away you'll become good friends. I'll say.... I KNOW he's taking it more seriously. It's like for me...it's so much harder to comprehend and accept. Ugh....I just pray this all works out for the best. The sooner the better. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kgal Posted May 7, 2004 Author Share Posted May 7, 2004 Well....after waiting a little over a week ...I did write him again. Ugh...why do I give in...and why can't I just wait it out like he does? I don't know how he can stand it actually. It's like....am I the only one who goes crazy when I don't hear anything? I start feeling like he's never gonna talk to me and I just get so insecure. I don't like feeling like that...I wish it wouldn't phase me..and I could just move on with my life and not even care if he wrote or what not. But.....I did write. I kept my email cool...and friendship like. I did mention that it's hard that we can't see each other more often or when we do see one another...it's not for very long at all....and I did say how that's just frustrating. I dont know....a part of me feels relief after I write...and then another part is like, "Why didn't you just wait for HIM to make the move?" I start worrying too...if he doesn't write after a long time.....like....I wonder if he's okay....and I just wish sometimes that I had someone else in my life to help fill that emptiness that I feel I can only when I'm with him. I know that totally sounds lame saying that....but it's true. A big help for me has been that I have been praying alot throughout this time..and asking the Lord for guidance. I'm actually glad I didn't write sooner than I did...cuz I was tempted...but I believe I gave enough time in between since we last talked...to show that I'm doing okay. At least...I need him to think that I'm fine...and that I'm doing good w/out him. Link to post Share on other sites
meanttolive4ever Posted May 7, 2004 Share Posted May 7, 2004 Originally posted by kgal Well....after waiting a little over a week ...I did write him again. Ugh...why do I give in...and why can't I just wait it out like he does? I don't know how he can stand it actually. It's like....am I the only one who goes crazy when I don't hear anything? I start feeling like he's never gonna talk to me and I just get so insecure. I don't like feeling like that...I wish it wouldn't phase me..and I could just move on with my life and not even care if he wrote or what not. But.....I did write. I kept my email cool...and friendship like. I did mention that it's hard that we can't see each other more often or when we do see one another...it's not for very long at all....and I did say how that's just frustrating. I dont know....a part of me feels relief after I write...and then another part is like, "Why didn't you just wait for HIM to make the move?" I start worrying too...if he doesn't write after a long time.....like....I wonder if he's okay....and I just wish sometimes that I had someone else in my life to help fill that emptiness that I feel I can only when I'm with him. I know that totally sounds lame saying that....but it's true. A big help for me has been that I have been praying alot throughout this time..and asking the Lord for guidance. I'm actually glad I didn't write sooner than I did...cuz I was tempted...but I believe I gave enough time in between since we last talked...to show that I'm doing okay. At least...I need him to think that I'm fine...and that I'm doing good w/out him. a couple weeks after me and my ex broke up i wrote him a letter stating that i missed him and that i had matured a lot since we broke up and that if there was the slightest chance in getting back together that a lot of stuff would change and thats when he called me...and he's been calling ever since but i dont pick up the phone Link to post Share on other sites
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