Bettylou Posted September 1, 2011 Share Posted September 1, 2011 This is a hard one. Because of assumptions made by my Granmama believing my fiance was takening all my money she voiced her worries to my father. When it is further from the truth, my fiance has infact been spending money on me. My father is furious to no end. Especially since my younger sisters' partners take all their money. Thing is he got really drunk last night and said he wanted to punch my boyfriend and have a go at him. I don't want that to happen at all and to be honest I think it is a double standard. My stepmother for almost two decades has taken thousands and thousands from my father's bank account. Even stealing his bankcard to withdraw cash. So what makes him think he is going to be a big man when he has let my stepmother get away with what he is accusing my fiance for years. What do you think I can do? He is staying in town for a whole week! Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted September 1, 2011 Share Posted September 1, 2011 Stay out of his way and make it clear you are only prepared for any communication when he is sober. Don't argue just don't talk to him when he is drinking. It's pointless to argue as he is spoiling for a fight Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted September 1, 2011 Share Posted September 1, 2011 I would simply sit down with both your fiance and your father (both stone sober, of course), and explain that this was a total misunderstanding on your grandmother's part and that perhaps she was confusing you two with one of your sister's situation. Where I am from, it is pretty common for a man to discuss his financial information (not in great detail, but the basics) to the father of the woman that he is planning on marrying. Parents often worry that their daughters will be left barefoot and pregnant, while a guy runs away from his responsibilities as a partner/father. This doesn't sound as though it needs to be as dramatic as this could shape up to be. It's really no more than a simple misunderstanding, and your father will get over it with a frank discussion and with him seeing how your fiance does treat you. As for your stepmother? I doubt she is stealing from your father. Those would be joint marital assets. Link to post Share on other sites
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