jmg2303 Posted September 1, 2011 Share Posted September 1, 2011 Background - I am 28 she's 29 - we work together and were friends for six months before dating for 14. We were fighting the last couple of months so I ended it once it hit a head. I regretted it immead, however, she didn't let me back in because she was hurt/angry. I begged and begged for the first couple weeks but to no avail. We spoke last Monday and she told me that she wasn't sure she loved me anymore and couldnt get back into something she wasn't 100% into. I gave her credit for that, however, asked her if she ever loved me? She said she was incredibly in love with me, however, the last couple months of fighting and breakup took it's toll and she didn't know if she had a wall up and was incredibly hurt or what....she needed time. Present - I was NC since the talk. She emailed me this past Monday about something that happened to her over the weekend...I responded with a quick one-liner. Yesterday we pulled into the parking lot at the same time - she waited for me and we made small talk....she again emailed me something funny once throughout the day. I am sure I am making a bigger deal out of this than it - for all I know she could be seeing someone else. All I know is that I am head over heals for this girl and breaking up was a huge, huge mistake. If it's time she needs than great, however, when is it reasonable to ask what the future holds? I mean it's only been a week and a half since our last talk....I want to give her as much time as she needs. Her bday is in two weeks and I was gonna shoot a text...bad idea? I don't know what the hell is going on anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
visualbasicide Posted September 1, 2011 Share Posted September 1, 2011 To be honest, I really couldn't tell you what she may or may not be doing. Best advice. Don't go "total" NC. shoot her something for her birthday, pleasant but not overwhelming. Just give her space and see what she does. I don't know what the "norm" is for everyone else but when me and my ex did this, and it WAS someone else, she wrote me off with a quickness, no funny emails, no nothing. I don't know if there is a "caring" selfish person out there but it seems to me if she didn't want you "in her life" anymore, or she was interested in someone else, she would just shut you out and go on with whatever it is she does want. A selfish person by definition doesn't care about you, your well being or much else about you. Then again, maybe some forum pro will come in here and prove me wrong. I would just take it easy and play it cool until you get some more idea as to where you stand. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jmg2303 Posted September 1, 2011 Author Share Posted September 1, 2011 "No no… you’re not on your own island… it’s tough, but I just don’t feel the same… not sure I ever will… idunno…" This pretty much explains what happened...I was stupid and asked her to lunch...then she went onto to say she just wants to be friends and then the quote above.....reality slap right there...back to NC Link to post Share on other sites
wolf1one Posted September 2, 2011 Share Posted September 2, 2011 "No no… you’re not on your own island… it’s tough, but I just don’t feel the same… not sure I ever will… idunno…" This pretty much explains what happened...I was stupid and asked her to lunch...then she went onto to say she just wants to be friends and then the quote above.....reality slap right there...back to NC Were you two really serious? Maybe she's just scared of that and needs time. She obviously wants you in her life. Don't take it personally. Link to post Share on other sites
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