iambored Posted September 2, 2011 Share Posted September 2, 2011 Been with my GF for 6 months now. We've agreed on being exclusive a while ago. Everything was going wonderful except recently I've been having this weird feeling. We use to always go out together on weekends (usually both days). And I see her about once a week on weekdays. For the past 6 weeks, shes gone out of town 2 weekends (majority of her friends are still in college about 2 hrs away), and all the other weekends we would go out one day, and she would go out with her "friends" the other. I'm cool with her keeping in touch with her friends, but seriously 6 weeks in a row? Her excuse was shes going out with different friends so it's not like shes seeing the same people every week... The other strange thing is, I usually call her once a day, and if she misses my call she would usually call me back within a few hours. The past week I called her, twice she didnt return my call. I asked her one time and she said she went out to eat with her friend and didnt hear my call... I do know for a fact that her friend is short-term living with her because she just broke up with her BF and needed a place to crash. She really has no reason to avoid me because we never fight, and when we're together everything is perfectly normal, so I dont know whats going on. Is something shady going on or am I over-thinking this too much? Thanks in advance Link to post Share on other sites
Ginger Beer Posted September 2, 2011 Share Posted September 2, 2011 Been with my GF for 6 months now. We've agreed on being exclusive a while ago. Everything was going wonderful except recently I've been having this weird feeling. We use to always go out together on weekends (usually both days). And I see her about once a week on weekdays. For the past 6 weeks, shes gone out of town 2 weekends (majority of her friends are still in college about 2 hrs away), and all the other weekends we would go out one day, and she would go out with her "friends" the other. I'm cool with her keeping in touch with her friends, but seriously 6 weeks in a row? Her excuse was shes going out with different friends so it's not like shes seeing the same people every week... The other strange thing is, I usually call her once a day, and if she misses my call she would usually call me back within a few hours. The past week I called her, twice she didnt return my call. I asked her one time and she said she went out to eat with her friend and didnt hear my call... I do know for a fact that her friend is short-term living with her because she just broke up with her BF and needed a place to crash. She really has no reason to avoid me because we never fight, and when we're together everything is perfectly normal, so I dont know whats going on. Is something shady going on or am I over-thinking this too much? Thanks in advance In my opinion, this is the most worrying thing. It's common courtesy to return a call or let someone know you couldn't take the call at the time, that's how you'd treat a friend or a family member. You've been with her for 6 months so you should be comfortable with each other by now, that she misses your call and doesn't bother to ring back tells me you're not that important to her, that she can't be bothered sort of thing. Her being out with her friend and not hearing the call is a perfectly valid reason but the problem lies in her failure (twice) to return the call. I also will wait to comment on the regular going out with friends thing, you'll need to give more information as to where she goes. Link to post Share on other sites
imagine Posted September 2, 2011 Share Posted September 2, 2011 You are last on her list of priorities. She is not THAT much into you! Back off, let her contact you... Link to post Share on other sites
sweetypielovely Posted September 2, 2011 Share Posted September 2, 2011 I dont know if you can jump to the conclusions that shes cheating...but she sure isnt that into spending time with you like before. Thats for sure. Your not a priority and her friends are. Either way thats not good for your relationship. Id say confront her head on about it...or do not be available for her. Its common courtesy to call someone back and I have a feeling shes blowing you off. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted September 2, 2011 Share Posted September 2, 2011 You are last on her list of priorities. She is not THAT much into you! Back off, let her contact you... Agreed, you're not a pripority in her life, I mean 6 weekends she's gone when she knows she only has a limited amount of time with you? I can't say that she's cheating, but she's definately disrespecting the relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Author iambored Posted September 2, 2011 Author Share Posted September 2, 2011 Thanks a lot for everyone chiming in. I do feel better now about the possibility of cheating (or lack thereof), but now I feel bad for being low on her priority list For going out, she does tell me where she goes. One time she went to an amusement park with one group of her friends. Another time she went shopping with some other friends. Another time she met up with some friends she hasnt seen in a while.. Another time she wanted to visit some friend before her moving the following week. She did ask me out last Monday (after work) after she was away for the weekend. I guess that's a good sign? And she does text me a few times when shes away for weekends. I guess cheating isnt what I really should be worrying about, rather its her lack of respect for me and us. I've met some of her closer friends already but not that many. I have no idea how much people she actually hangs out with. Other than that you guys hit the nail on the head about me being very low on her priority list. It seems like she'll see me on weekdays when her friends aren't around. And when weekend comes around she rather be out with them instead. I guess I will back off for now and let her come to me instead. Thanks again everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
Memphis Raines Posted September 2, 2011 Share Posted September 2, 2011 iambored obviously this girl could care less if she is with you or not. and I'd bet all the money in the bank that she is giving it to other guys when she goes away those weekends. find a girl that will respect you Link to post Share on other sites
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