YssaBoo Posted May 6, 2004 Share Posted May 6, 2004 Well, I think you all know from my posts what I have been going through. I thought a few weeks ago I was getting a second chance,I'm confused. All the phone calls have stopped again and email replys. I have not emailed him since Sunday night and it is killing me. Why does he keep doing this? It's almost like he comes around once a month to keep me hanging on and thinking he's satisfied me and then starts his antics all over again. His sis told me she talked to him at Easter and he's trying to figure things out,what do you guys have to figure out when someone likes you and cares for you???? She told him to quit playing games and to leave me alone if he has no intentions of wanting me back. He has not even tried to break the ties. I have seen him twice this week at the Y,but we don't get to talk much there. I want to just blurt everything out that I feel and get some closure. I have another guy who wants to take me out and have been asked out by others,but I just say no. Do I tell him to his face or write him a letter? I am not good at this,but if he is trying to figure things out,I don't want to blow it. HELP!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted May 6, 2004 Share Posted May 6, 2004 I haven't been keeing up with your story, but why don't you start to run the game? I say get out with the new guy and leave him hanging. So what if you don't have a closure? Next time you'll know it's always a good idea to be the first to move. Swollow your tears and get tough! Let him call, let him wonder, let him chase you and then LEAVE the poor thing!!! Revenge always made me feel better, even if for a short while. At least you'll be teaching him a lesson, as it's clear that he's not the one for you... Sorry, baby, at least try to have fun going out a lot with a lot of guys. Remember that this is not love, it is a question of ego, and always, always the one left behind hurts more than the one leaving in this specific situation. Since it's so obviously not working, why not spare yourself the pain and make him have some? I am waiting for the details !!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author YssaBoo Posted May 7, 2004 Author Share Posted May 7, 2004 Well Curly,I did it. I emailed him last night and said when he had a free moment this weekend to call me. I said I needed to talk to him. The last time I did that was last fall and he thought I was breaking up with him. He hasn't replied or called yet. He knows that I am going to a movie tonight with a friend,but not if it's a guy or girl. It actually felt good to finally do it and get it off my chest. In a way I'm scared,but I know it's the best thing I can do. Wish me luck and I'll post as soon as we chat. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted May 8, 2004 Share Posted May 8, 2004 Chat away, my friend, but remember that actions speak louder than words! You are doing the right thing, even if it is "just" a movie. And it is ok to be scared, not to be sure but to go anyway! LEt this be your new beggining to a life where you are in control. Have fun! Link to post Share on other sites
Author YssaBoo Posted May 9, 2004 Author Share Posted May 9, 2004 I did it last night.He called and came over at 10:30 and we talked. I told him that I was having a hard time seeing him and being his friend and didn't know if it could continue. He said that at this time there was no us and it was up to me if I wanted to continue being his friend. He then said everything he does is wrong and he's worthless and I can find someone better than him?? He said there is no other girl and he has some problems he needs to work out. He said he wish he could go back to high school and start all over and be in sports. He said he can't love me when he doesn't love himself and he hates to look at himself in the mirror. His stepdad is hard on him and calls him a pussy and so many other people say he is an a**,which he admits to. I know I am not supposed to be anyones savior,but I just feel that I am supposed to stay with him. I have never had this feeling with a guy before.It's usually over and the stuff goes in the trash,not this time. He told my mom this AM that he has some problems and if he tells me what they are,I would feel awkward around him or worse. I know alot of stuff abaout his past and she told him I did. So now he knows. Now what do I do??? Link to post Share on other sites
calithin83 Posted May 9, 2004 Share Posted May 9, 2004 i really think that he has a low confidence and u cant make that better for him, its best if u do ure own thing right now...plus if he has a low self esteem wouldnt he want u to be there for him, but instead hes pushing u away, to me hes either making excuses or just needs time to be alone... i know u must really care ablout him..but as hard as it is..just suck it in..u dont wanna be with soemone who doesnt know what they want..who pulls u close and then pushes u away..u need security and u wont get this with this guy.. i guarnatee ut hat if u go back with him, u will always not feel right and there will always bea problem....eventaulyl u guys will break up..so why not just suck it in and prevent ureslef from hurting more later and just be on ure own for now.. i know that no matter what we say here ure gonna do what u wanna do.... but just keep in mind what ure lookiing for, and does he really match that or is ure mind telling u one thing and ure heart another...if ure coming in this site it just sounds like ure unsure..just take a week off..think through...its hard..I KNOW it is..i kept going to my bf....for 10 months we would be on and off...but now i know i wont take him back... i guess i hit that breaking point...he didnt change, and i thought he would..but he didnt..he kept playing games with me..andi didnt wanna see it cos i was so into him.... just be strong... Link to post Share on other sites
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