silly_panda Posted September 2, 2011 Share Posted September 2, 2011 I just feel that this is kinda interesting and I guess many of you guys has experienced this too... I just wanna know what you guys normally do..? When you get a text or a message in IM from your ex that you are having NC with... But they didn't say much... They just said 'hey'... Will you respond with a 'hey' back to them..? Will you just ask them 'what's up'..? Or you will just ignore it... Really wanna know what you guys do/did... Link to post Share on other sites
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted September 2, 2011 Share Posted September 2, 2011 If the message is something as plain as "hey" Just ignore them. They are fishing to see if you will still talk to them (nobody wants to be hated). I did respond to my ex when she sent me an IM saying "Can I ask you a question?" because the curiosity got to me, but even then it was a waste of time. If you are the dumpee it's safe to just ignore everything your ex sends you. By dumping you they wanted you out of their life and by ignoring them and going full out NC, you will be giving them exactly what they wanted. Link to post Share on other sites
BlindRage Posted September 2, 2011 Share Posted September 2, 2011 I agree with HeartOfAPhenix, Nothing good ever comes from replying to and ex that dumped you. (I speak from experience also). Just ignore it, you'll be glad you did in the long run. Link to post Share on other sites
broken-and-lost Posted September 2, 2011 Share Posted September 2, 2011 ignore will only bring you a **** load of pain she is just easing guilt or having a weak moment but you'll be the one that pays for it Link to post Share on other sites
Author silly_panda Posted September 3, 2011 Author Share Posted September 3, 2011 Thanks guys... Yea... I had actually ignored all her 'hey' messages... When she actually asked me some questions, then only i will reply... We have something to clear up, so I can't really go NC with her... But it kinda makes you wonder what they wanna say everytime they find you rite..? This sucks... Link to post Share on other sites
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 Thanks guys... Yea... I had actually ignored all her 'hey' messages... When she actually asked me some questions, then only i will reply... We have something to clear up, so I can't really go NC with her... But it kinda makes you wonder what they wanna say everytime they find you rite..? This sucks... 90% or more, chances are you will respond with "Hey" or "What's up" and you won't get a response from them. Like one of the other posts said, it's just a way of easing their guilt. If you respond it just clouds your head with questions like "why didn't they respond after initiating contact?" or "what were their intentions?". Nobody wants to be hated, and this is why they initiate contact with a random "hey" message. If you respond it reassures them that you don't hate them. If you don't it leaves them questioning whether you hate them or not. It's best to stay NC unless what they initiate contact with shows a direction that you are interested in. Link to post Share on other sites
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