DazyDaisy Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 I did it for two weeks but it had the same result. I didn't really beg or plead, but I feel I was extra clingy and I definitely cried. What was it like for the rest of you? Link to post Share on other sites
collegeguy_24 Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 At first, I was angry and yelled at her. The night before she dumped me, she looked me straight in the eye and told me she loved me and wanted a long term future, less then 12 hours later she breaks up with me, after I took her to see one of her favorite bands in concert. I yelled at her for using me like that, I cried and said why did she tell me she loved me, why did she promise a long term future, when she already knew she was going to break up with me. I gave her 2 weeks, we ran into each other on campus and she told me she needed more time to think before she could decide to get back together or not. One night less then half a week later, I come home from a late night class and find her in a new relationship on facebook, after she told me she wasn't going to see anyone else. I then did something I regret to this very day, I started a text message war with her for the sole intention of ruining her big unveiling. We didn't talk for several months, then sometime in Janurary I tried to get her back, and it failed. Its not worth begging and pleading for someone, no matter how much you love them. Things may have been better beteen us instead of the way they are now if I had acted like an adult and not a child, if I had actually kept my dignity and self respect instead of throwing it all away. Link to post Share on other sites
Nohbody Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 On and off for a month. Link to post Share on other sites
ScienceGal Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 Tried to get him back for a couple days after he broke up with me because I had "hurt him". I had to email him my thoughts since he wouldn't take my calls... a lot of "I don't understand how I hurt you, I love you... blah blah". Got one response from him saying he can't be with me and hopes I treat my next boyfriend as an equal. Tried to get my things back several weeks after that. He replied that he will "speak to me when he is ready"... (I have since given up on my things) Saw him for the first time a week ago and he was a total jerk to me. I asked him if he had a minute to talk and he said "not tonight" so I said "forget it". Total elapsed time = almost 3 months. Many takes on this, but all of them make him an egotistical jerk with the emotional spectrum of a 12 year old. I will never try to contact him again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DazyDaisy Posted September 3, 2011 Author Share Posted September 3, 2011 I know the best thing is not to beg so I thought I'd ask to see how many out of us actually don't beg. Link to post Share on other sites
ScienceGal Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 I know the best thing is not to beg so I thought I'd ask to see how many out of us actually don't beg. I didn't beg. I did state that I did not want to break up and that I thought the relationship was worth fighting for. I told him that I was here if he ever wanted to talk.. I didn't ask any questions either, just made statements. So, it was more like making my case and then leaving the door open I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
Nohbody Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 I begged. But that's the last time. Link to post Share on other sites
ScienceGal Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 I begged. But that's the last time. I believe you I have begged before. Never ever again though. Link to post Share on other sites
collegeguy_24 Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 The lesson I learned is that begging lowers your value, not only to them, but to yourself. I wish I knew that before she left me, so I wouldn't have begged. Link to post Share on other sites
silly_panda Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 I begged on the first day of break up... Trying to get her back on the second... On the third, gave up... Why..? She told me she accepted another guy... Link to post Share on other sites
mmiller5373 Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 I begged and cried for the first three weeks of the breakup. I called her like 18 times in one day. I just couldn't get her to talk to me. I gave up for a few weeks, but then I drove to her work to wait for her to get off. She saw me, invited me in. Though we didn't talk about the breakup. She finally said this would be the last time we would see each other. I left in tears. 3 weeks later, I drove back to her place and she wouldn't come talk to me. Her brother in law came out to tell me to leave. I wrote letters. Sent em. Never got anything from her. No response at all. Link to post Share on other sites
amandap Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 i txted a couple of times, saying i wont chase you, he didnt responed, then after 4 weeks i rang him, trying not to cry when he said he wont come back, he said he didnt want to see me but would phone the next week, well i texted him the same day saying i wont mention having a relationship with him again, anyway he rang the next week and i said oh by the way i dont want you back now, im moving on, he didnt like that as he responed with oh i didnt think it would take you long to get over me, well im not over him but now he rings every week and he has now said he wants to come over with a little gift for me, i dont ever ask if he wants me back, just see where this goes, he will be ringing today again, i dont know if he wants me back or just wants to be friends, any advice would be great, oh forgot to say we were together 10 years Link to post Share on other sites
Dasaso Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 i txted a couple of times, saying i wont chase you, he didnt responed, then after 4 weeks i rang him, trying not to cry when he said he wont come back, he said he didnt want to see me but would phone the next week, well i texted him the same day saying i wont mention having a relationship with him again, anyway he rang the next week and i said oh by the way i dont want you back now, im moving on, he didnt like that as he responed with oh i didnt think it would take you long to get over me, well im not over him but now he rings every week and he has now said he wants to come over with a little gift for me, i dont ever ask if he wants me back, just see where this goes, he will be ringing today again, i dont know if he wants me back or just wants to be friends, any advice would be great, oh forgot to say we were together 10 years he maybe just want to be friends with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Dasaso Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 I broke up with him 8 months ago, he begged me for 6 months. We kissed and flirted during that time, but i wasn't attracted to him physically but never had a connection and friendship with someone else like that before. So he met a girl two months ago, so in order to keep him with me I asked him to get back together. He didn't wanted to. I cried for the first 3 weeks every day. I know he likes her very much now, even thou we are very similar, same religion, same interest, good family, good values, etc. but I am a 8, she is a 3 o 4. I still cry sometimes, but it doesn't hurt that much anymore, but its hard for me because we gotta see each other at university. I wake up every day with something in my stomach. The day this feeling in my stomach stop, that day i would be totally over it. sorry for my english! not american! Link to post Share on other sites
silly_panda Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 I broke up with him 8 months ago, he begged me for 6 months. We kissed and flirted during that time, but i wasn't attracted to him physically but never had a connection and friendship with someone else like that before. So he met a girl two months ago, so in order to keep him with me I asked him to get back together. He didn't wanted to. I cried for the first 3 weeks every day. I know he likes her very much now, even thou we are very similar, same religion, same interest, good family, good values, etc. but I am a 8, she is a 3 o 4. I still cry sometimes, but it doesn't hurt that much anymore, but its hard for me because we gotta see each other at university. I wake up every day with something in my stomach. The day this feeling in my stomach stop, that day i would be totally over it. sorry for my english! not american! Hey Dasaso... I just wanna understand... You broke up with him, and then why you wan him back when he had someone else..? Do you still love him at that point..? Or you just wanted him around..? Sorry to bring this up... I'm kinda confused with it and just wanna know... Link to post Share on other sites
Dasaso Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 I guees i wanted him around. Im very insecure in my decisions :S , he was the best friend and companion i ever had, and i got used to be chased by him. i guess i've learned my leason Link to post Share on other sites
silly_panda Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 Alrite... Thanks for sharing... Link to post Share on other sites
Besmy Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 I didn't beg when the Sloth dumped me, although we know he so much wanted me to beg! Actually I had the guts to write him that it was fine with me, that luckily he wasn't the only man in the world, that there were millions out there to have fun and sx with and that I already had a couple of guys waiting for me to be free again to ask me out, which was entirely true as he knew himself. Yeah I would have liked to see his face when reading that !!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
shayla Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 Not once. I confronted the other woman and told her what she was marrying. And she told me what I wasted 3 years on. The end. Link to post Share on other sites
maylis Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 The one time I did something like that I was about 18 or 19, I regretted and learned from it right away. Link to post Share on other sites
A7X Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 Begged and threw myself at her for a month , everything looked positive, we had plans a few times a week, one morning she called me all happy and anxious to see me, few hours later she said it was over. Next thing I know she is gone to Italy with a Dbag.. Seriously I actually know him and he's a total arrogant Dbag that only cares about what he wants. She's also known him for a long time and always told me that she thought that of him as well. Go figure, I hope for her she doesn't get his herpes!! Link to post Share on other sites
TheDovic Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 Had a conversation with her a few days after the break up to see if we could resolve things but she said no. I accepted this and told her I agreed with her decision. After this she started calling at my house and trying to arrange to do things together. I followed the advice from "get her back" books and appeared cool and composed at all times (even though I had fallen into a deep depression requiring meds and therapy). Eventually as we started seeing each other less often she started texting every other day flirting with me and looking to know what I've been doing. I gave away very little information and always made it look like my life was going well (i.e. I had a lot going on). She has always initiated the contact and I have always ended it. This culminated in her texting the other day saying she misses me and wants to spend time with me as "friends." Dunno wat this means but it's sure as hell better than chasing after her and getting destroyed with every rejection. I've actually turned the tables to some extent on her , because even if she doesn't want to get back with me she is the one who wants me in her life. Remember guys, neediness and desperation KILLS attraction! Link to post Share on other sites
Kamila Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 Our breakup of a year ago was a bit messy. Even now, I don't know who broke up with who. And I sure did beg. I begged him by mail to see me for one last time. I told him I needed closure. The first time he refused. Then I said 'please' and he responded more coldly towards me. That's why i picked up the phone and convinced him to meet me. He accepted, like he was doing some grand gesture whatever. I let him have his ego moment, while i was trying to pick up the pieces of a broken glass. And during our last encounter, I let go of him. Since that day, I never begged him again. And yes, he has been trying the 'meow meow' tactic by text messaging for over a year now. I laugh at thee! Link to post Share on other sites
radiodarcy Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 off and on abt 2.5 years it wasn't all begging and pleading. some of it was groveling/trying to make him see what he missed. which honestly at that point wasn't much. my self-esteem was non-existent and i had invested so much of my being into keeping things afloat that i had become a shell of a human being. when he finally did cut me lose i honestly didn't have the energy to fight anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
mridul_chajilee Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 It was about 7 month i beg,cry and even knee down and touch her leg in the open street,but i was failed.If i get some time i wil again do the same. Link to post Share on other sites
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